rushing again - Page 2

AChiOhSnap · #16 10-19-2006, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by dancergrl

it seems unfair that i am now stuck

Sorry, that's how it's always been with NPC organizations.

cusecutie · #17 10-19-2006, 05:56 PM

i wish i had known this!

AChiOhSnap · #18 10-19-2006, 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by cusecutie

i wish i had known this!

??? are you the same poster?

ETA: You asked this same question back in April, and you got the same responses then.

dancergrl · #19 10-19-2006, 05:58 PM

my roomate, i forgot she logged on for a sec

smiley21 · #20 10-19-2006, 06:00 PM

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Originally Posted by dancergrl

I was pressured (dirty rush) into joining a house. I did not want to appear rude or ungrateful and i wanted it to work out, however, now i am an initiated member of a house where i do not like the people in it. I want to disaffiliate, however, if i do is there any way whatsoever that i can rush again? Greek life is big on campus and I would like to find a sorority where i belong, this house is not a match for me, the girls are weird and kinda mean. any advice would be great. thnks!

I am sorry, but I have a problem with this. When you say 'pressured into joining a house', it sounds like you had a gun to your head or something. You say that you did not want to be rude, so does that mean that you did not want to join the house in the first place? Then why did you? I am not asking you to expose your business, but I do not understand how you could just let them talk you into joining. I can understand if you wanted to give them a try. But initiation = commitment. Pledging is not just about learning the sorority history. It is about knowing your chapter sisters and figuring out whether you want this for the long haul.
I told my chapter sisters that I believe joining a sorority is like marriage with pledging being the engagement. Make sure you are willing to commit BEFORE the 'wedding day/initiation'.
I am sorry if it seems like I am attacking you cause I am not. When a sorority wants you to join, they are giving you the option to decide if it is what you want. But I know that we are pass that point cause you already initiated. And I am sorry that it is too late to join another group. There are many reasons why that is the policy.
I agree with the others in trying to talk to your pledge sisters, but if you are really uncomfortable with them, then you can always join non Greek groups on campus.

AChiOhSnap · #21 10-19-2006, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by dancergrl

my roomate, i forgot she logged on for a sec

Right.

Jen · #22 10-19-2006, 08:22 PM

You could always deactivate but remain a member of the sorority at large. Perhaps in the future alumnae membership will be more rewarding. But I wouldn't drop the whole org because of your experience with the chapter.

(BTW, this is not ariesrising, this is her roommate. Ariessetting)

AlexMack · #23 10-19-2006, 09:54 PM

*cue psycho music*

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=81676

kddani · #24 10-20-2006, 08:10 AM

Let this be a life lesson to you to fully investigate things before signing your name to the bottom line.

Not only did you have the chance to say "no" or "i'm not ready yet" before accepting the bid, but you also had your entire pledge period to decide whether or not the group was something you wanted to be a part of.

Under these circumstances, you're not going to get much sympathy here.

kddani · #25 10-20-2006, 08:16 AM

As AChiOSnap said, this person posted the exact same thing back in April (actually, she posted it twice, the first thread she got lots of excellent advice in and didn't want to hear it. That thread disappeared, and another thread asking the same thing was posted)

Here's a link to that thread:
http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=77622

Drolefille · #26 10-20-2006, 09:12 AM

OP, you will and are getting no sympathy whatsoever. I agree that you're acting weird in that you posted before and didn't listen. (And i find it hard to believe your roommate has the same problem.) If you hate it so much, disaffiliate.

Drolefille · #27 10-20-2006, 09:21 AM

Oh and OP, I forgot to add the... WHY did you stick it out through initiation if you hated it so much? And WHY didn't you listen to the advice posted before?? And WHY come back here after all of that???

AGDLynn · #28 10-20-2006, 09:35 AM

Can we count the number of times that conversations turn into name calling and away from the original topic?!!

Back to the topic..again, excellent advice...stick with it and see if it improves or leave immediately.

adpiucf · #29 10-20-2006, 09:57 AM

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Originally Posted by ariesrising

You could always deactivate but remain a member of the sorority at large. Perhaps in the future alumnae membership will be more rewarding. But I wouldn't drop the whole org because of your experience with the chapter.

(BTW, this is not ariesrising, this is her roommate. Ariessetting)

Dear ariesrising's roommate, Just a point of information. Many collegiate sororities don't allow deactivitation in this way. If you are going to remain a member, you need to retain your affiliation to your collegiate chapter, pay dues and attend mandatory obligations. The only way to disaffiliate would be to leave the university (or with some sororities per local chapter bylaws: get pregnant or get married.) But those are drastic measures just so you can join an AA later on or wear letter shirts around campus. And besides, if she hates it so much now, why would she want to retain membership status on any level?

LPIDelta · #30 10-20-2006, 11:04 AM

I know it kind of bites that you feel stuck but this is nothing new, we've done it this way for many many years. I agree too that maybe you should stick it out and try to make change. It seems today that college students take the easy way out instead of trying to lead or make change. I have seen the image of a chapter change with one recruitment--if this is your concern, talk to other sisters and see what you can do about it.