Question for the Fellas... - Page 2

starang21 · #1 08-01-2006, 01:16 PM

no homo

Atlas · #2 08-01-2006, 08:22 PM

Well, I am VERY komfortable telling this one man that he looks good. This kat is so fly that I have to tell him EVERYTIME I see him! Everyday as a matter of fact... when I wake up in the morning and I look in the mirror... "DAMN! You fine like a Mu'F**ka!" I don't think that makes me gay... But I do touch myself sometimes when I'm alone. Call it what you want.

pinkies up · #3 08-01-2006, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Atlas

Well, I am VERY komfortable telling this one man that he looks good. This kat is so fly that I have to tell him EVERYTIME I see him! Everyday as a matter of fact... when I wake up in the morning and I look in the mirror... "DAMN! You fine like a Mu'F**ka!" I don't think that makes me gay... But I do touch myself sometimes when I'm alone. Call it what you want.

Okay sweetie, too much info.

Have ya'll ever wondered why attractive girls WANT to be with OOOOGLY azz men? (ex. Flava Flav)

starang21 · #4 08-01-2006, 09:59 PM

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Have ya'll ever wondered why attractive girls WANT to be with OOOOGLY azz men? (ex. Flava Flav)

that completely boggles my mind.

Atlas · #5 08-01-2006, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by pinkies up

Okay sweetie, too much info.

Have ya'll ever wondered why attractive girls WANT to be with OOOOGLY azz men? (ex. Flava Flav)

To be on TV?

teena · #6 08-02-2006, 08:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Atlas

Well, I am VERY komfortable telling this one man that he looks good. This kat is so fly that I have to tell him EVERYTIME I see him! Everyday as a matter of fact... when I wake up in the morning and I look in the mirror... "DAMN! You fine like a Mu'F**ka!" I don't think that makes me gay... But I do touch myself sometimes when I'm alone. Call it what you want.

Please post a picture, so that we can see if you agree with your assessment

Atlas · #7 09-03-2006, 01:32 PM

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Please post a picture, so that we can see if you agree with your assessment

Hmmmm.... ok. http://www.myspace.com/solonupe

teena · #8 05-27-2006, 08:07 PM

insert vomit smilie here

ImSoNUPEY · #9 05-27-2006, 09:13 PM

Gimme a break, I'm a Neo...I'm allowed to be extra for a li'l while lol...

Senusret I · #10 05-29-2006, 07:57 AM

I gotta say this....

"Pretty Boy" is definitely not a mindset. I don't care how fresh your haircut is, how crisp your shirts are, or how new your shoes are.

If you look like you were beaten about the face with an ugly bat, being a Kappa won't transform you into a pretty boy. You're just an ugly boy with letters. Or at best, average.

And I'm not picking on the Kappas, there are unattractive people in EVERY organization, including mine. But it irks me to see an organization deem themselves "pretty" and some members just aren't.

It's like AKAs who consider themselves pretty girls...... no, some of you just have high self esteem. Good for you. But there's a difference.

***

On topic.....I am a gay man who is very aware of how I give compliments. I find that when I tell a dude "you look nice today!" in a totally non-threatening way, it goes over well. I am generally referring to an outfit, hairstyle, or whatever. And though everyone knows I'm gay, no one assumes I'm hitting on them. I also give back-handed compliments, too, like was said above "It's about time you got a haircut." It's just my personality.

nonchalant · #11 05-29-2006, 09:17 AM

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Originally posted by Senusret I
I gotta say this....

"Pretty Boy" is definitely not a mindset. I don't care how fresh your haircut is, how crisp your shirts are, or how new your shoes are.

If you you like you were beaten about the face with an ugly bat, being a Kappa won't transform you into a pretty boy. You're just an ugly boy with letters. Or at best, average.

And I'm not picking on the Kappas, there are unattractive people in EVERY organization, including mine. But it irks me to see an organization deem themselves "pretty" and some members just aren't.

It's like AKAs who consider themselves pretty girls...... no, some of you just have high self esteem. Good for you. But there's a difference.

***

On topic.....I am a gay man who is very aware of how I give compliments. I find that when I tell a dude "you look nice today!" in a totally non-threatening way, it goes over well. I am generally referring to an outfit, hairstyle, or whatever. And though everyone knows I'm gay, no one assumes I'm hitting on them. I also give back-handed compliments, too, like was said above "It's about time you got a haircut." It's just my personality.

WOW!! You make some great points. Great feedback. Now I will rephrase my question to the Kappas. How does a line come out with all pretty boys face wise? Not by clothes, shoes, etc. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Apparently the Kappas selecting the new members behold something beautiful/pretty. Just wondering.

I have also seen some mugly Kappas and AKAs. I think it's good to see a mixture. Keeps down the stereotypes.

PerfectVerse06 · #12 05-29-2006, 08:42 PM

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Originally posted by Senusret I
On topic.....I am a gay man who is very aware of how I give compliments. I find that when I tell a dude "you look nice today!" in a totally non-threatening way, it goes over well. I am generally referring to an outfit, hairstyle, or whatever. And though everyone knows I'm gay, no one assumes I'm hitting on them. I also give back-handed compliments, too, like was said above "It's about time you got a haircut." It's just my personality.

Can I ask you a question? Hopefully this won't come off as offensive...

Do you think your compliments go over well because of the way in which you deliver it or because you are a gay man and people assume you are more aware of how a man looks? I ask this because one of the men I was discussing this with is gay and he argued his point against the heterosexual males we were hanging out with, and the straight males stated that the gay male was able to give another man a compliment because of the fact that he is gay, while everyone else said that it's not a matter of being gay or straight, it's just a matter of being comfortable within yourself as a man to give another man props when he looks good.

We also had a straight male in the group who said there was no problem with him giving another man a compliment. He doesn't gush like females may do, but he just says "Hey man, I know those hazel eyes of yours have the ladies falling all over you!" and most men don't feel uncomfortable with that.

Senusret I · #13 05-29-2006, 09:33 PM

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Originally posted by PerfectVerse06

Do you think your compliments go over well because of the way in which you deliver it or because you are a gay man and people assume you are more aware of how a man looks?

I honestly never really thought about it....I guess it depends on who receives the compliments. I always assumed people think "Wow, that was nice of Darden" but they might also think "Well, Darden would know."

I'll ask at work tomorrow.

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"Hey man, I know those hazel eyes of yours have the ladies falling all over you!" and most men don't feel uncomfortable with that.

Um.....that right there would make me feel uncomfortable, LOL.

teena · #14 05-30-2006, 06:35 AM

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Originally posted by ImSoNUPEY
Gimme a break, I'm a Neo...I'm allowed to be extra for a li'l while lol...

alright

you pretty rascal, you

marquise1911 · #15 05-30-2006, 09:09 AM

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Originally posted by PerfectVerse06
We also had a straight male in the group who said there was no problem with him giving another man a compliment. He doesn't gush like females may do, but he just says "Hey man, I know those hazel eyes of yours have the ladies falling all over you!" and most men don't feel uncomfortable with that.

Flag on the play!!! For a man to say that would set off every alarm in my heterosexual body. Why??? To say that means you have been staring. Why are you staring at me, let alone looking into my eyes?

I'm sorry if I offended everyone, but I live in Miami. The DL-fobia is deep here. Men will hit on you just like the above sentence and if you're dumb, you won't catch it until he asks you what your plans for dinner are. I once had some dude say, "Nice lips man, I bet the ladies love them." Ask yourself why is another man looking at my lips? Not surprisingly he later asked a co-worker of mine to express to me his interest. I reaffrim my previous statement, especially when addressing body parts, str8 men don't compliment each other like that.