Question for the Fellas...
 

Okay, I was having a discussion with some co-workers of mine (males and females), and the guys were talking about how women tend to tear each other down when it comes to physical beauty (i.e. 'Beyonce is not all that cute'). So they asked the females who we thought were attractive in the entertainment industry.

BUT

When we posed the same question to the males (which males did they think were attravtive in the entertainment industry), they all looked at us like we were crazy for asking them such a thing.

So I'm asking the men of GC...

Why do men feel as though they can't give another man a compliment on his apperance? I'm not talking about saying "You rockin' some nice gatas there, man!" I'm talking about saying another man is attractive.

Are you comfortable enough in your manhood to give another man a compliment on his looks? Why or why not?

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I don't think this has anything to do with being komfortable with one's manhood. I just don't find men attraktive. If a man is attraktive, women will let him know, not me....

I'm not speaking in sexual terms...you can find something or someone attractive without being sexually attracted to it or him/her.

I mean, if a man can say Sam Casell is ugly or Flava Flav looks like a roach, then why can't they say someone ISN'T ugly?

If you see a little boy and he's cute, are you not going to say he's a good looking kid because you think that because you say he's attractive that means you're gay?

And don't you call your bruhs typically call each other "Pretty Boys"?

I don't think it's that we find it hard to compliment each other. We just speak another language. Women say: "Oh my God she is so hot! Look at her she is really doing it." Imagine your man saying that?
The most you'll get out of a man is: "Gook look ni99a. Dem shoes are fly."

Reason being. Women are wired to respond to touch, men are wired to respond to sight. A man uses sight to pick out potential mates. If a man is comfortable saying, "Yes he is very attractive." 9 times out of 10 he is gay!!! He's using a sexually wired part of his body to analyze men. CAUTION!!!

If a man walked up to me and said, "Dude you're hot!" I would punch him. Plain and simple.

Well Said Good Brother!

See a compliment^^^.

No prob bruh, anytime!

Now see:D

Yeah I think men just do things differently

you know, the only dudes i know that will give another dude a compliment on his looks are Kappas. not all, but some that ive met recently. for some reason it doesnt strike me as odd or indicative of their orientation.

I've seen that but it is done in such a way that it is funny.

"Man you are one sexy M^&%(*()!!!"

WOW,PAUSE on that imitation of the Good Brothers....

uh.................ok..............sure........... right...............uh

Yeah. the most I can give a dude as far as a compliment is something about his clothes/style. "That shirt is clean...those shoes are tight, etc. I don't look at dudes in regards to physical attractiveness and I don't want to know if any other dude looks at me in that manner. Now I might be kickin' it with a BRUH and say, "oh he's a fly @ss NUPE!", but that is it.

I think they do things differently too. This topic has come up before plenty of times when I was with a group of friends. We've concluded that society has put in place that it's not kosher for a man to give another man an out-of-the-ordinary compliment. It's deemed gay. Like stated before, they give compliments in their own way. They notice a man with his haircut and they may say, 'it's about time dawg.' Translation: I like your haircut. It makes you look nice. Another one would be, 'A nigga done jumped clean on me.' Translation: You look nice in that outfit or that outfit compliments you. My sisters and I asked my brother-in-law about that, and he would just say the dude is not ugly. He would never say he was cute, handsome, etc. Why exactly is that a big issue with guys?

Also, there were some good points made concerning Kappas complimenting each other. What's up with chapters that bring out all light skinned pretty boys or just all pretty boys in general? Who decides that they are all pretty? Coincidence? Kinda far fetched to me. Good topic PV.

I can not speak for everyone in my fraternity, but I was asked this question before. I believe that a "pretty boy" image begins as a state of mind. You first have to have that mindset. After that, it transcends into a persons outward appearance. As I have always stated...I'm the finest muthafvcka I know!

Once again, the Good Brothers provide klarifikation, Prettyboy is a mindset and then it influences everything else from what kind of shoes you buy to how you kut your hair, so I guess what I'm tryin' to say is that to be Pretty one must start from within lol....