Why didn't she leave?

[SKEEphistAKAte]

Originally posted by CountryGurl
It’s not guaranteed that her life would have been spared if she had left. I know this first hand. My aunt was murdered by her ex-husband. Not only did she leave him but she also moved and cut off communication with everyone but us (immediate family). We stopped having family functions in our normal locations and had all our contact (cell#s) changed. We went above and beyond when it came to protecting her. Crazy people have no limit to what they will do to find you and do you harm. He shot her in front of their youngest son's daycare on the oldest son's birthday.

Sorry to hear about your aunt. I don't think anyone is saying that her life would have been spared had she left. But I think she would have had a better chance of living than staying with him and passively waiting to die. At least she would have ATTEMPTED to preserve her life.

[Strongbeauty]

^^^ Actually I have worked in the domestic/sexual violence field before and the chance that you'll be murdered after leaving goes up 85%

[SKEEphistAKAte]

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Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
At least she would have ATTEMPTED to preserve her life.

[AKA_Monet]

Dude may have had her financially strapped or threatened her with hurting her children if she left...

So she stuck it out to ensure their lives. She'd take the brunt of his anger 'cuz maybe she wasn't necessarily afraid of it, more that she could tolerate it and knew that her kids could not.

Kinna like when the father's a sexual child abuser and molests his 3 year old daughter till she's outta the house and the mother knows all about it and does nothing to stop it...

We will never know what goes on in the mind of the criminally insane...

This situation is sad

[HeartbrAKA]

I volunteer at a restraining order clinic. I hear stories week after week from women who are victims of domestic violence. I interviewed a woman tonight who remained married for 17 years and endured physical and verbal abuse. I never ask why they don't leave. It takes a strong person to get the courage to leave. She did say that she just didn't have the strength to and if he were allowed to come back into the home, she would not be able to proceed with the divorce filing because he would just break her down again.

[teena]

Originally posted by HeartbrAKA
I volunteer at a restraining order clinic. I hear stories week after week from women who are victims of domestic violence. I interviewed a woman tonight who remained married for 17 years and endured physical and verbal abuse. I never ask why they don't leave. It takes a strong person to get the courage to leave. She did say that she just didn't have the strength to and if he were allowed to come back into the home, she would not be able to proceed with the divorce filing because he would just break her down again.

That is so sad. They've been together so long that her husband knows exactly what to say to manipulate her.

[starang21]

Originally posted by AlphaFrog
I have a question, and I'm not trying to be rude, and this is not just for the OP either....


Why is this thread in the AKA Forum? Wouldn't it belong more in the News & Politics or ChitChat???

I see that in general, many BGLO forums post all kinds of random news stories and information, and most of the time welcome comments from anyone of any GLO/GDI affiliation, but why not just put it in a general forum, and not a GLO specific one??

Plus, there are some threads that other non-BGLO posters don't seem to be "welcome" in. Wouldn't that distinction be more clear if all the general free-for-all threads were put in the general forums??

Again, I am not asking to be malicious or rude or to belittle the OP (like I said, this is not necessarily directed at you SKEE) or anyone who does this. I'm asking a serious question.

what a stupid post.


quit being sensitive.