ex-boyfriends - Page 2

starang21 · #1 03-29-2006, 10:06 PM

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Originally posted by ShamikaT
sounds wifebeaterish to me.

lol, naw it's not like that.

likeitsgolden26 · #2 03-29-2006, 10:14 PM

Very good advice both ways from the previous posters. Since he holla'd at you via Faceboard, which is a semi-public forum, I'd let the dead stay dead and ignore his behind. If he had any bit of class he would have contacted you directly. There is no need for him having to have the world see how "gracious" he is in his congrats to you- though it is well deserved. Hope I've made sense.

AKA_Monet · #3 03-30-2006, 02:03 AM

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Originally posted by Ideal08
HILARIOUS!!! I LOVE you, Soror!!!

Soror Ideal--

I'm tellin' yah, Soror SophistAKAted outta have her and Guillermo--or whatever name she wants to give him take a picture with very little embellishments... And say, "thank you and I'd like you to meat my friend--Michael Yakasura" or something tasty like that...

That little punk will all up in her face in Facebook...

amycat412 · #4 03-30-2006, 03:15 AM

Well I recently broke up with my bf of almost 4 years too (going on 2 months) and we have not spoken a word since and a lot of my stuff is still at his place. My father had open heart surgery and he did not call. He knew about it. He did not call. He is bi polar and unmedicated and it is amazing to me how much you can love someone and yet be happier without them.

Now all that backstory was to say this: It sounds like you've handled yourself with a lot of class and dignity. It is hard to break off such a long relationship and maintain no contact, no matter what the circumstances of the breakup are.

I'd feel the same, I would not want to respond and I don't think there is anything wrong with that, but... I have to admit, I'd probably send back a simple "thank you" as I think that would maintain my dignity and class. I would not invite further emails and probably not answer further emails.

He did not treat you right. Keep moving on and following your own dreams.

FeeFee · #5 03-30-2006, 10:09 AM

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Soror Ideal--

I'm tellin' yah, Soror SophistAKAted outta have her and Guillermo--or whatever name she wants to give him take a picture with very little embellishments... And say, "thank you and I'd like you to meat my friend--Michael Yakasura" or something tasty like that...

That little punk will all up in her face in Facebook...

See Soror AKA_Monet, this is why I love you. You are str8 gangsta with yours.

Soror SophistAKAted, take note, lol.

Personally, I would ignore his punk azz and just K.I.M.

StarFish106 · #6 03-30-2006, 10:30 AM

As always you can take our suggestions with a grain of salt and in the end just do you....for me personally I doubt i would only because

1. The pic he sent with it still shows his ignorance of you and the situation. If he had just had a pic of him or no pic (don't know how facebook works) and emailed you congrats then maybe i would. But since he didn't, and it seemed to be more about look who I am still with and oh by the way congrats that is what makes me take pause.

Granted you responding as a lady with a simple thank you would surprise him but I do think that would open the door for more foolishness from him.

Delete is your friend...

DC_Zeta1920 · #7 03-30-2006, 02:10 PM

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Personally, having been there, done that and gotten a T-shirt and forehead stamp with "Please FCUK me over, thank you": If you decide to send the note, know that you are opening the door for him to slither back into your life with more BS...

Should you say thank you or not? I dunno. That's your call, you know him best--but he also knows you, too. And right now, he's got your goat and can push buttons of feelings that you are trying to suppress or emancipate yourself from...

In so many words are you playing right into his hand? You don't have to answer that for me--you just have to know what you are getting your self into.

I told you what I would do... But I doubt that is in your character because you really have to be hardcore to be that way.

The other thing is how did this fool get into you life? Then, how are you going to get him out of your life permenently? What are you going to do about it? If you want to do that, which is sounds like you do, then, I would not advise contacting him--basically, why should you thank him for congratulating you? He ought to be glad he has words to utter to you that you might find worthwhile of reading--or however they do it now on the web...

Different technology, same old crap... [/B]

*Dude from Madea's Class Reunion*

"LET THE CHURCH SAY AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA-MEN"

lil_sunshine · #8 03-30-2006, 02:15 PM

AAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYMEEEEEEEEEEEEEENNNNNNNNNN!!!! !

DPiece7 · #9 03-30-2006, 03:34 PM

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Originally posted by FeeFee

Personally, I would ignore his punk azz and just K.I.M.

So would I, especially with his punk azz picture of him and his punk azz girlfriend

BlueReign · #10 03-30-2006, 07:28 PM

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Originally posted by SophistAKAted
sorors,sistergreeks and sisterfriends i love you all! Soror AKA_MONET, you are hilarious! I think i will send him a short note back that says thank you. But thats all i'm saying. Then i'm gonna let the dead be dead again. I'm too fly for him anyway.

Sister, I really feel your pain because I recently went through something similar about the same time!

I would not respond at all. That is just opening up the door. By not responding you are letting him know just how insignificant he is to you now. So just let him wonder what's on your mind, how you feel, etc.

AKADIVA12 · #11 03-30-2006, 11:45 PM

As my Siggy says, "Forgiveness is required, friendship is earned." God expects us to forgive those who have hurt us, but we DO NOT have to be their friend. Ignore him, move on.

As you continue to grow and with time you'll eventually find that you're better off without him. Treat him like an old pair of shoes never to be worn again.

laylo · #12 03-31-2006, 04:11 PM

I agree with those who said ignore him. Guys who have treated you like crap and then want to be "friends" are just trying to keep you as an option in case their other plans don't work out. Eventually the next woman will see his true colors and he'll bring his pitiful behind back. Then you get to say "Was I really crying over this dude? Thank God I'm not still with him!!"

SophistAKAted · #13 03-31-2006, 05:16 PM

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Originally posted by laylo
I agree with those who said ignore him. Guys who have treated you like crap and then want to be "friends" are just trying to keep you as an option in case their other plans don't work out. Eventually the next woman will see his true colors and he'll bring his pitiful behind back. Then you get to say "Was I really crying over this dude? Thank God I'm not still with him!!"

That's kinda how i am feeling now. I just found out (not by seeking, someone told me) that he is now cheating on his new girlfriend with a girl at my church. He reallly disgusts me.

Lady of Pearl · #14 03-31-2006, 07:41 PM

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Originally posted by SophistAKAted
That's kinda how i am feeling now. I just found out (not by seeking, someone told me) that he is now cheating on his new girlfriend with a girl at my church. He reallly disgusts me.

Thank God that he got away!

ZetaStorm · #15 04-01-2006, 09:33 PM

He's playing games. I would not respond. You have too much going on for you to even waste the effort to type one single word to him. What's wrong he's getting bored with his current girl? Was he 'waiting' for you to come crawling, crying and begging to him? And when that didn't happen he decided to congratulate you? Trust me he's a LOSER. I hate guys like him, so now he's ready to try and bring more of his DRAMA into your life. Keep on keeping on. I wish you the best in all that you set out to do.