Needing advice about joining

Originally posted by alum
Firs time I've agreed with OTW, but I have to say ditto!

LOL Hell hath frozen over.

[alum]

Believe it or not, I am open-minded at least in regards to poorly-written posts like the one we don't like.

[Shawanda30]

First of all I wasn't responding to the Thread Starter, I was responding to MTSUGURL, thank you!

[Drolefille]

Originally posted by Shawanda30
First of all I wasn't responding to the Thread Starter, I was responding to MTSUGURL, thank you!

Lets just stay cool.
What the previous posters have been trying to say is that recruitment for NPC sororities is VERY different from NPHC organizations. For example, I don't know of any NPC sorority that uses "Soror" they use "Sister" instead. (Brother for fraternities) Also, most NPC sororities don't have strolls or calls.

Your recommendations are valid for NPHC but do not really apply to the original poster's concerns or this thread's discussion. This isn't a value judgement. There's nothing better or worse about NPHC over NPC. No organization accepts everyone, and there is a proper way to represent yourself to increase your chances of joining any organization.

The other comments were made in regards to your spelling and grammar. As on any forum, you will find your posts get better respect if you spell correctly, use complete and not run-on sentences, and use the right form of "where" vs "wear" or "you're" vs "your," etc.

Try not to post in anger but look at what the previous posters were trying to tell you. Usually what may seem like a dig at first is nothing more than a helpful tip!

[Shawanda30]

Thank You so much, everyone makes mistakes in typing you know. I am a very good typer, I type 130 wpm. I am not really angry anymore, so lets just move on ok.

[Drolefille]

Everyone does make mistakes! But when they add up they can make a post unreadable.

[Shawanda30]

Which is true!

[Sock Puppet2]

Originally posted by kddani
How do you know that when this poster has only made TWO posts on this board? You don't know anything about her.

It's called an opinion. They're like arseholes.

And we all know that you've got one.

[sagitarion]

to the OP:
if you are interested in this sorority whose events you are going to and think that you would accept a bid if they offered it to you I think that maybe you should talk to your friends in your "honorary" sorority. Tell them how you feel and that you are interested in sisterhood and being a initiated member and that is something that is important to you. If you were my friend and talked to me about it I might be hurt, but I think that it would only be good to be honest and tell them how you feel and that you respect their sorority that you are considering joining this other sorority. I mean, how hurt can they be if that sorority did not offer you a bid?

Okay, i hope this make sence. I have had a headache all day.

good luck.

[aephi alum]

Originally posted by Shawanda30
#2 Don't refer to yourself as a future(What ever organization you are interested in or a future AKA,ZPB,OPP, etc.)
#3 Never where the organization colors to their event.

These two points are true regardless of whether you're pursuing membership in an NPC, NPHC, or any other org. Honestly, if a PNM told me during recruitment, "Oh, I know I'm a future AEPhi" or showed up dressed head-to-toe in green and white, I'd be a bit weirded out. Similarly, if someone turned up decked out in, say, red and green, I'd conclude she has her heart set on AXO.

Anyway, to the OP, I'll say what I always say... follow your heart. If your friends are truly your friends, they will remain your friends no matter what sorority you join, if any. If you feel comfortable at the sorority that's doing spring rush, go for it! Otherwise, wait until fall and go through formal recruitment. It may be hard for a junior to get a bid, but they can't stop you from rushing. There's nothing wrong with saying that you didn't have a great GPA when you rushed before, but now you've pulled your grades up.

Also, keep in mind that the sorority that's holding spring rush may not extend a bid to you.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

[Buttonz]

Originally posted by aephi alum


Anyway, to the OP, I'll say what I always say... follow your heart. If your friends are truly your friends, they will remain your friends no matter what sorority you join, if any. If you feel comfortable at the sorority that's doing spring rush, go for it!

Agreed. If your friends are your true friends. they would be happy for you and remain your friends, no matter what letters you wear.

[mv93]

I went to my second event at the spring rush house tonight, and I had so much fun! I really like these girls, and I can definately see myself fitting in with them. I still don't know how to bring up this topic with the girls in the other house, though, and it's giving me a lot of grief. Assuming I do get a bid--which I know isn't at all guaranteed--I think at this point I would accept it (especially considering some of the things that happened this weekend with the other girls that definately made me feel like an outsider), but at the same time, I would feel sort of like I was betraying my friends. It's a hard decision, but I've really appreciated everybody's advice and I'll definately be keeping y'all posted on what happens!

PS-I was invited back for an event on Thursday night where I'll get to meet more of the sisters and hang out with them outside of the house atmosphere, so it's probably going to be a big factor in my decision making...

[adpiucf]

You can join a sorority and be friends with whomever you please-- women in your sorority, women in other sororities and non-Greeks! Being in one sorority and being at home there, and having friends in another sorority is what we call "Being Panhellenic." It is a very positive thing to seek out friends from many different places!

If you have a lot of friends in Sorority A and feel at home with them, ask them if the are holding COB. If they are, it would be a natural fit. If they are not, it doesn't impair your friendship with them.

If you are enjoying recruitment with Sorority B, who initially didn't impress you until you got to know them better, and they've expressed interest in you, enjoy the time and see where it goes.

Sorority B is a great opportunity to make new friends and to possibly become part of a sisterhood. Sorority A comprises all of your friends, who will be your friends no matter what. Sorority A has made you feel welcome as a friend, but they have not mentioned the prospect of sisterhood, correct?

In 3 years, will you be happy to be a member of a sorority where you can be yourself, and be friends with whomever you like? Or will you be happy to not be a member of a sorority and to still be friends with whomever you like?

This option is about YOU. You have to do what feels right for you and your future.