Is cheating at the bachelor party ok? - Page 2

preciousjeni · #16 11-17-2005, 02:51 PM

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Originally posted by honeychile
1. Are bachelor parties somehow exempt from the normal rules of cheating?
Absolutely not! It sounds like you guys have been hanging out with some guys who really aren't ready to get married yet.

2. Do girls realize that cheating goes on at these parties and don't care as long as they don't know for sure?
Cheating is cheating. Period. And if she doesn't care, she's not ready to get married!

3. If you found out later, maybe after you were married, would it matter? Would you leave him?
The truth ALWAYS comes out! People think it doesn't, but it's just a matter of how the injured party decides to take it. I'm against prostitution in all forms, which any man with whom I've been involved knows - most clearly! That said, I don't know about the second part. I'm a facillitator at a divorce recovery seminar, and if I had a nickel for every woman who wishes she hadn't left her cheating husband, I could retire. Never having been in that position, I don't know how I'd react - but he'd darn straight have to have every STD test imaginable before he so much as held my hand!

I'm with you 100%.

honeychile · #17 11-17-2005, 02:55 PM

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Originally posted by 33girl
Katharine Hepburn actually tells a story in her autobiography about her parents who were very big on "social hygiene" issues before anyone knew how these things were carried, etc. A couple went to get their blood tests, were both fine, then a couple months later the wife died. It turns out the hubby slept w/ a hooker at the bachelor party and got VD and passed it to the wife and she died of complications from it.

But at any rate, no the bachelor party is not exempt.

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Did you see that movie about John List, the wack-job who killed his mother, wife, and 3 kids? His wife had contracted VD from her first husband (who got it at his bachelor party!), but she didn't know it until 25 years later & she was in the last stages of syphilis? Somehow, your post reminded me of it!

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AlphaFrog · #18 11-17-2005, 03:11 PM

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Originally posted by honeychile
[B] I'm a facillitator at a divorce recovery seminar, and if I had a nickel for every woman who wishes she hadn't left her cheating husband, I could retire.

Ok, I have to ask...what would make a woman regret leaving a cheating husband?

honeychile · #19 11-17-2005, 03:36 PM

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Originally posted by AlphaFrog
Ok, I have to ask...what would make a woman regret leaving a cheating husband?

In a word, money. One of the fastest growing sectors of the population that's becoming impoverished is the divorced woman with children. I could go on & on, but that's the gist of it (without getting on a feminist soapbox!).

BobbyTheDon · #20 11-17-2005, 03:38 PM

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Originally posted by AlphaFrog
Ok, I have to ask...what would make a woman regret leaving a cheating husband?

I'll take " What did Kobe Bryantbuy for his wife after he raped a girl " for 1000 Alex

kddani · #21 11-17-2005, 03:42 PM

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Originally posted by AXiD670
James, what your friends are doing is just plain crappy.

And I believe that James is greatly exaggerating the escapades of his soon to be married friends. i don't doubt that it happens on occasion, but not with the frequency to which James is alluding! It also says a lot about the character of people he chooses to associate himself with

James · #22 11-17-2005, 04:55 PM

Ouch lol.

But seriously. These are men with all the resume requirements that you girls proffess to love. Some of them are even quite charming. Most are attractive to some degree or another.

Of course its not absolute but its pretty frequent from my experience and the experiences of guys that I know. Like 8 out of 10 with maybe 1 out of ten doing it when we aren't looking.

Of course a lot depends on where the bachelor party is, who is organizing it and what entertainment is provided.

Often times its not initiated by the person getting married . . . Its his friends that lead him into hell. A bachelor party has the drinking of a 21st birthday party, combined with a sex show . . by the end of the night the poor groom-to-be has no sense of social inhibition and has been tantalized by some fanatsy girl(s) that his friends provided for him.

Plus, culturally the bachelor party is a place where extreme behavior is understood to be normal.

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Originally posted by kddani
And I believe that James is greatly exaggerating the escapades of his soon to be married friends. i don't doubt that it happens on occasion, but not with the frequency to which James is alluding! It also says a lot about the character of people he chooses to associate himself with

Lindz928 · #23 11-17-2005, 05:11 PM

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Originally posted by James

Often times its not initiated by the person getting married . . . Its his friends that lead him into hell. A bachelor party has the drinking of a 21st birthday party, combined with a sex show . . by the end of the night the poor groom to be has no sense of social inhibition and has been tanatalized by some fanatsy girl (s) that his friends provided for him.

Plus, culturally the bachelor party is a place where extreme behavior is understood to be normal.

James, sweetie. You know I love ya..... but NO. NO NO NO NO NO!!!!

Besides, there is a big difference between extreme behavior (getting drunk and puking in your best man's car.... dancing with some skanky girl at a club..... Or even (as happened to my friend's husband) getting spanked with a whip by a stripper) and CHEATING.

There is no excuse for it. If I was with a man who's friends actually thought that was acceptable behavior, and would throw a bachelor party to try and hook him up with someone, then I would seriously question the man himself.

And again.... I WAS DUNK AND DIDN'T KNOW WHAT I WAS DOING is not an excuse.

WCUgirl · #24 11-17-2005, 05:15 PM

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Originally posted by James

Often times its not initiated by the person getting married . . . Its his friends that lead him into hell. A bachelor party has the drinking of a 21st birthday party, combined with a sex show . . by the end of the night the poor groom to be has no sense of social inhibition and has been tanatalized by some fanatsy girl (s) that his friends provided for him.

Plus, culturally the bachelor party is a place where extreme behavior is understood to be normal.

James, are you trying to justify this whole scenario?

sugar and spice · #25 11-17-2005, 05:20 PM

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Originally posted by AXiD670
James, are you trying to justify this whole scenario?

Of course he is. That's what he does. It's his entire purpose on GC.

The majority of bachelor party strippers aren't exactly what I would call "fantasy women."

Chances are about 50/50 that I'm not going to want to marry the type of guy who would have strippers at his bachelor party anyway, so I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

KSigkid · #26 11-17-2005, 05:28 PM

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Originally posted by James
Ouch lol.

But seriously. These are men with all the resume requirements that you girls proffess to love. Some of them are even quite charming. Most are attractive to some degree or another.

Of course its not absolute but its pretty frequent from my experience and the experiences of guys that I know. Like 8 out of 10 with maybe 1 out of ten doing it when we aren't looking.

Of course a lot depends on where the bachelor party is, who is organizing it and what entertainment is provided.

Often times its not initiated by the person getting married . . . Its his friends that lead him into hell. A bachelor party has the drinking of a 21st birthday party, combined with a sex show . . by the end of the night the poor groom to be has no sense of social inhibition and has been tanatalized by some fanatsy girl (s) that his friends provided for him.

Plus, culturally the bachelor party is a place where extreme behavior is understood to be normal.

See, in my experiences, the people at bachelor's parties who do that stuff are the groomsmen and friends, not the groom. I haven't been to one where the groom cheated. That's not to say it doesn't happen a number of times, just not in my experience (at least that I know of).

My bachelor party, the worst thing that happened was we drank enough to kill a small village. It was more bar-hopping and drinking, going out to a big dinner, that type of thing. I didn't want strippers, and we didn't have them. I wanted us to spend our money at the places where we went; taking over Boston for a night, so to speak. We even ended up staying in a nice hotel. It was just a great weekend with my boys.

madmax · #27 11-17-2005, 07:16 PM

It is ok for the guy to do it but if the girl is cheating then it is wrong.

GeekyPenguin · #28 11-17-2005, 07:48 PM

If these guys are really the groom's friends, they wouldn't be setting off his married life on such a bad foot.

If anybody ever did this to me, I'd make him eat my engagement ring, and then my daddy would let him have it. I took back a cheater once and it was the biggest mistake of my life.

Allie · #29 11-17-2005, 09:22 PM

Once your cheated on... it will never happen again!

If i found out that in fact my fiance cheated at his bachelor party... there would be HELL to pay! I would cancel the wedding so he could explain to all of our friends and family that he simply couldn't keep his cock in his pants...

A bachelor party is absolutly NO excuse for cheating to take place!

James · #30 11-17-2005, 11:53 PM

Thats hardly a fair generalization. I have over 7 thousand posts. A few of them have been about other things than bachelor parties.

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Originally posted by sugar and spice
Of course he is. That's what he does. It's his entire purpose on GC.

The majority of bachelor party strippers aren't exactly what I would call "fantasy women."

Chances are about 50/50 that I'm not going to want to marry the type of guy who would have strippers at his bachelor party anyway, so I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.