Pledging and membership to pregnant women and single mothers

[TRSimon]

Originally posted by rho4life
While it's great that your frat was able to be a father first, there is a HUGE difference between being an expectant mother and an expectant father. Being pregnant is stressful enough without having to worry about joining an organization. I've seen single mothers go through their process, and it was HARD. But, I would be inclined to tell a pregnant woman it just wasn't her time.

It is hard enough to balance sorority membership with motherhood when a woman has her child AFTER she joins. Doing it while one completes the membership process is way too stressful, (in addition to school and/or work) to be a worthwhile endeavor. I would be inclined to encourage a woman to seek membership after she has adjusted to motherhood.

While being part of a sorority would mean that the woman would have an additional support system in place, it is more important for a future mother to minimize stress.

[BlueReign]

Originally posted by TRSimon
It is hard enough to balance sorority membership with motherhood when a woman has her child AFTER she joins. Doing it while one completes the membership process is way too stressful, (in addition to school and/or work) to be a worthwhile endeavor. I would be inclined to encourage a woman to seek membership after she has adjusted to motherhood.

While being part of a sorority would mean that the woman would have an additional support system in place, it is more important for a future mother to minimize stress.

And even with "support systems" in place, it is still just too hard. I have had to step back some this year because it was all too much. I know that this is not a single dad/single mom debate issue going on here but there is a big difference.

[deuika]

One of my closet friends had a son in the Summer and just went over in a D9 organization Spr 2k4. Now, while I have my personal opinions on single parenthood I don't think that a person having a child should be a problem as far as membership. My friend put in overtime to be a part of her organization and she is one of the best people I know, so I'm sure she will be an attribute. She told me that she really wanted to set a good example for her daughter. Though she's not proud of being a single parent, she says that she intends to show her child that all things can be accomplished through hard work.

Pregnant during the process though? That's a bit much. Then again, would any pregnant woman actually attempt to go through the process at that time? I'm sure that would be more than anyone would be willing to bite into. Heck, my cousin told me "Make sure you take the minimum amount of hours and don't have a job during that semester, or you'll be drowning in your own schedule."

Now, with all that going on, pregnancy TOO? I think any woman who attempts during pregnancy should be asked to come back some other time.

[rho4life]

bump........

Since it is fall, and I know many of my lovely Sorors are meeting new ladies who may be interested in our blue-tiful sisterhood........perhaps this is a topic we need to reconsider.

Poodles!

[Chiante9]

I do agree that single mothers should be able to join GLO but because parenting in itself requires a lot of time and commitment, they should make sure they'll have the time to do both. I am a single mother and my lovely Sorhors welcomed me and my daughter with open arms and have been a great support system. My daughter now has lots of "aunts" - probably more than she'd like.

As for pregnant women, I think they should wait because pregnancy is stressful all by itself.

[TRSimon]

Originally posted by deuika
Pregnant during the process though? That's a bit much. Then again, would any pregnant woman actually attempt to go through the process at that time? I'm sure that would be more than anyone would be willing to bite into.

You'd be surprised. Sometimes women feel like they can take on the world when they are expecting. I still wouldn't advise it though, because reality would kick in sooner or later and it wouldn't be pretty.

[SeriousSigma22]

Sorhors and Friends of Sigma,

This story is a little different, one of our sorhors was married, graduate advisor to the undergraduate chapter and she basically brought in 12 young ladies in the spring of 1992 at Delaware State College (Univ.) by herself, however, she carried her child for the full 9 months but the child died during childbirth. I just believe that trying to be a wife, mother, in the Airforce Reserves, a full time graduate student and in charge of membership was just too much for her and the child.

I believe that a person should wait because your life and the life of your unborn child is too precious to put in harms way.



Serioussigma22