Etiquette!

[Dionysus]

WHYYYY am I coming across so many young females who CANNOT give a proper handshake?

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by DZGirl
My chapter still stands when an alumna enters the room.

It would really creep me out if people stood up for me.

I agree with s&s that etiquette is for everyone, and I don't think that I'm deserving of a show of respect just because I'm a woman or I'm older than anyone.

[IowaStatePhiPsi]

Originally posted by Taualumna
How about kids who run around the restaurant and their parents aren't doing a thing about it? I don't like that.

Trip them.

[norcalchick]

-it happened these past couple of days when I went to the mall: kids running around and playing on the floor.

-kids screaming and crying and nobody doing anything to shut them up. sometimes i want to just walk by them kid and give them a mean look to shut them up.

-having sick kids out and in enclosed places like restaurants. I really think my bf and I got sick from this little 5 year old girl when we went out to eat at this nice restaurant for our anniversary. The family sat at the next table, by a window, and even though it was cold, and she said she was cold, and she was coughing, they didn't move, getting my bf and I sick for 2 weeks.

-people not moving out of the way when walking down an isle or something.

-saying excuse me or sorry

[honeychile]

Originally posted by Taualumna
How about kids who run around the restaurant and their parents aren't doing a thing about it? I don't like that. I also don't like it when parents take very, very young children to restaurants and these kids obviously don't want to be there, so they throw tantrums. I understand that there are some cultures where going out is a "family" thing, but in these cultures, kids are also better behaved. If the kids don't want to be there, then don't go to that place!

I don't care if it's a family restaurant or not, it's NOT a zoo!! When I see a parent escort a troublesome child outside for a moment or two, I usually take the time to congratulate them on their parenting skills.

I was in a doctor's office once, and this kid kept running up and down the length of the waiting room, screaming. She finally got to me, and I put the flats of my hands on her shoulders and said, "Go sit down." She did. Her mother shot me dirty looks, but everyone else was giving me thumbs up or winks.

Part of being a child is learning how to be an adult - so few parents seem to realize that anymore!

As for the Alumnae thing, I don't have a problem with the actives not standing, BUT! If the elevator is broken, and I've just walked up 10 floors, offering me a seat and/or something cool to drink is only common courtesy. Not to me as an alumna, but to anyone who is a visitor.

Edited to add: I'd love to see something other than handshaking as a courtesy. The last thing that I want is to shake the hand of someone who just sneezed into their palm!

[33girl]

Originally posted by Dionysus
WHYYYY am I coming across so many young females who CANNOT give a proper handshake?

Wow, now that you mention it, this bothers me too. If I wanted to hold a limp dishrag in my hand I would go to Bed Bath and Beyond.

[ZTAMich]

Originally posted by EEKappa


How about people who charge into an elevator before letting those who are inside out?

I just got Kate Spade's Manners book for Christmas. I'm sure I'll have more to add later.

Along these lines....people who charge off the subway and thru the turnstiles to exit without letting people who want to get on the train thru first! I missed a subway last week due to this!

Those Kate Spade books are great! Enjoy!

[Tom Earp]

Good manners have gone out the window with so many things these days.

Can we say it is equal rights that have changed this? I really dont know. When women want to be equals, maybe men feel okay be equal.

Should Parents who do not control their Kids should be flogged as parents cannot correct their kids or go to jail.

I guess I am like some of Us, DeltAlum for one who were brought up in the old school of manners. Be kind, be gentle, and show that you have some class.

Yepper, I am tired after 11 hour days but, I also had good upbringing and try to show respect for others!

Handshakes, I had a guy come in to apply for a job. His handshake was like a dry wash rag. Goodby Mr Chips!

[PhoenixAzul]

Most of this comes from me being a lifeguard at a public pool for so long.

- Mothers who think that the sun shines out of their kid's ass. NO! Your child broke the rules, he/she must be disciplined like every other child.

- Women who think that their child's bowel/digestive news is "cute" or "natural" and therefore we all want to hear about it. THIS ALSO INCLUDES CHANGING YOUR CHILD IN PUBLIC!! Do NOT whip out a crapped in diaper in the middle of a mall courtyard (this is not as uncommon as you think!). Most malls or large public buildings now have changing stations in the women's AND men's rooms and some even have family restrooms or nursing stations where mothers can go to take care of their babies. I DO NOT THINK YOUR CHILD'S POOP IS CUTE!!!!!!!!!!!

- Women who bring those SUV like strollers into tight/ confined spaces, like stores. Is it really necessary to have a stroller that looks like a freaking pastel hummer?

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by honeychile

Edited to add: I'd love to see something other than handshaking as a courtesy. The last thing that I want is to shake the hand of someone who just sneezed into their palm!

I wash my hands or use sanitizer after shaking hands. The grerms can wash off, but the bad first impressions usually can't.

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by PhoenixAzul

- Women who think that their child's bowel/digestive news is "cute" or "natural" and therefore we all want to hear about it. THIS ALSO INCLUDES CHANGING YOUR CHILD IN PUBLIC!! Do NOT whip out a crapped in diaper in the middle of a mall courtyard (this is not as uncommon as you think!). Most malls or large public buildings now have changing stations in the women's AND men's rooms and some even have family restrooms or nursing stations where mothers can go to take care of their babies. I DO NOT THINK YOUR CHILD'S POOP IS CUTE!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks to having mostly male friends in high school, I find most bathroom humor funny...but I would be very embarrassed to discuss my child's bowel habits. This lady at church once asked me to pray for her son because he was constipated and haven't pooped in almost two weeks. I had to hold back my giggle. Couldn't she just say "Pray for my son, he's having some private medical issues".

[APhi Sailorgirl]

The Subway:

When i was interning in DC, people who would get up or already be standing in front of the doorway. IF YOU'RE NOT GETTING OFF, STOP BLOCKING THE DOOR!

Now living in Boston going to grad school: while i realize the T is crowded, is it really necessary for you to NOT MOVE INTO THE CAR! there is plenty of room in the middle.

And for both please do not lean all over the entire poles that other people need to hold onto if they're standing. Personally I don't want to have to touch your back b/c you're leaning on the damn pole!

[CutiePie2000]

Originally posted by 33girl
If I wanted to hold a limp dishrag in my hand I would go to Bed Bath and Beyond.

Ha ha ha...my AGD friend refers to this as the "Icky Poo Banana Handshake".

[PhoenixAzul]

I was always taught the correct handshake would be to grip firmly, pump 3 times, and give your greetings while hands are grasped (including your name).

"Hello, I'm Susie Sorority, how are you?" (grip)
"Hello, I'm Fred Fraternity, i'm well, thank you, and yourself?"

[kool-aid kid]

I really hate it when people just serve water and wine and leave me out. TOTALLY RUDE!