Dates for Weddings - Page 2

honeychile · #1 12-11-2004, 11:11 PM

In my own experience, unless you're dating someone REALLY seriously, going to a wedding without a date is infinitely preferable to taking "just a guy".

The best scenario (when you're not involved) is to plan to meet up with some people you know, male and/or female, then you can have fun either way.

The wedding at which I had THE most fun was one that I dreaded. My now-fiance & I were broken up at the time, and he was Best Man - but I knew a lot of the other people there. We all checked into the hotel (me alone, no other single women), and the guys told me to "pick up Ted at Room 209, then get the rest of the guys". When I was ready, and knocked on Room 209, this totally GORGEOUS man opened the door, and I gasped, "You're not Ted!" He said, "I can be, if you want me to!" The guys came out in the hall and rescued me - but Mr. Gorgeous was at the wedding! In one fell swoop, I was able to signal to mr. honeychile, "Hah! You're not the only fish in the sea!", have a GREAT time with "the guys", and meet someone new!

Sidenote: I had somewhat forgotten about the whole story until Thanksgiving weekend, when we were at the Nelsons' & looking at the wedding pictures. Someone said, "Oh, there's honey's OTHER Ted!" to which mr. honeychile admitted that he (mr.h) had needed to be put in his place.

honeychile · #2 12-11-2004, 11:16 PM

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Originally posted by James
Random observation: Why do girls expect men that don't dance to suddenly start dancing just because its that kind of event?

I mean do you ladies expect them to spontaneously generate both the knowledge and desire to start dancing even though they have never done so before?

That doesn't seem rational.

Because what they might be saying is, "Even if you don't dance, how about standing on the dance floor, somewhat holding me while swaying to the music for a while?" It's an invitation to get to know said lady, even if you say, "I don't dance, but why don't I get you a drink (why don't you sit down for a while, or whatever)?" in response.

Besides, most women realize that the majority of men either can't or don't dance well in the first place.

valkyrie · #3 12-12-2004, 12:28 AM

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Originally posted by James
Random observation: Why do girls expect men that don't dance to suddenly start dancing just because its that kind of event?

I'd rather not dance at all than dance with some guy who doesn't know how to dance. Hell, I don't know how to DANCE dance either -- if it's not shakin' your ass to some hip hop or house, I'm not doing it.

CUGreekgirl · #4 12-12-2004, 06:14 PM

I'm coming up on the age where in the next few years my friends are going to get married. The only wedding I've been to as an adult was that of my bosses daughter (who I also know from HS). The reception was not really a dance/party type reception so I didn't need to bring a date.

I'm a bridesmaid in my nephews (hes 26) wedding on January 1st. Their reception is going to be a big affair with a band, dancing, etc. I wasn't told I could bring a date, but I also wasn't told I couldn't. However, I'm going to the wedding single. All my good guy friends are going to be out of town, plus I'm looking forward to meeting some of my nephews cute friends and seeing old friends from high school.

OtterXO · #5 12-14-2004, 10:31 PM

Okay so speaking of weddings and dates....
I have a wedding to go to in April and I'm the maid of honor (it's my best friend from home). The thing is, the wedding is taking place on a cruise for 4 days...which is going to be SO fun. I have a guy friend (sort of more than a friend) who I would love to take as my date because I know he'd have a blast and he loves taking random trips like that. The thing is, will this freak him out to invite him? He invited me on a weekend trip with some of his friends a couple weeks ago but it didn't work out that I could go. I'm not really sure what to do here...

James · #6 12-14-2004, 11:13 PM

ITs a cruise. Why bring sand to the beach so to speak?

OtterXO · #7 12-15-2004, 12:18 AM

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Originally posted by James
ITs a cruise. Why bring sand to the beach so to speak?

Like why bring a guy when I could meet one there? Well most of the wedding party are all taking dates, I don't particularly want to be the one person there without a date...and I think it would be fun to take him in particular because we have so much fun together.

sigmagrrl · #8 12-15-2004, 09:34 AM

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Originally posted by OtterXO
Like why bring a guy when I could meet one there? Well most of the wedding party are all taking dates, I don't particularly want to be the one person there without a date...and I think it would be fun to take him in particular because we have so much fun together.

Otter,

Your above post is EXACTLY why I started this thread! WHY do you feel the need to take a date? What would it imply if you DON'T HAVE ONE???

Maybe this is just an extension of the pressure we are put under in this society to be coupled up??

I don't mean to single you out, but I read the other responses and everyone kept saying "I don't need one" and so on and so forth, but this is what people really feel...

When a wedding comes up, or any party, why can't we ever go alone? Why is being a "party of one" seen as a bad thing??

kddani · #9 12-15-2004, 09:49 AM

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Originally posted by sigmagrrl
Otter,

Your above post is EXACTLY why I started this thread! WHY do you feel the need to take a date? What would it imply if you DON'T HAVE ONE???

Maybe this is just an extension of the pressure we are put under in this society to be coupled up??

I don't mean to single you out, but I read the other responses and everyone kept saying "I don't need one" and so on and so forth, but this is what people really feel...

When a wedding comes up, or any party, why can't we ever go alone? Why is being a "party of one" seen as a bad thing??

Well her situation is different. It's a 4 day cruise. Not just a few hours for an evening.

OtterXO · #10 12-15-2004, 12:01 PM

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Originally posted by sigmagrrl
Otter,

Your above post is EXACTLY why I started this thread! WHY do you feel the need to take a date? What would it imply if you DON'T HAVE ONE???

Maybe this is just an extension of the pressure we are put under in this society to be coupled up??

I don't mean to single you out, but I read the other responses and everyone kept saying "I don't need one" and so on and so forth, but this is what people really feel...

When a wedding comes up, or any party, why can't we ever go alone? Why is being a "party of one" seen as a bad thing??

Like kddani said, this is different because it's a cruise and because I WANT to take this particular guy. I wouldn't just ask some random dude to go to this with me. Trust me, I have no problem doing things on my own including going to weddings. I just think I would have so much fun with this guy and he would have fun too, but I'm worried it might freak him out to invite him...that was actually my question, not whether or not I should take a date.

cashmoney · #11 12-15-2004, 01:52 PM

Yea, it might freak him out unless he wants to date you. Either that or he'd love to go thinking he was getting laid for 4 days straight on a boat.

Thats how'd I'd look at it.

valkyrie · #12 12-15-2004, 03:02 PM

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Originally posted by sigmagrrl
Your above post is EXACTLY why I started this thread! WHY do you feel the need to take a date? What would it imply if you DON'T HAVE ONE???

Maybe this is just an extension of the pressure we are put under in this society to be coupled up??

Not having a date in her situation would imply that it is boring as all hell to be on a cruise for four days by yourself, hanging out with a bunch of couples. That sounds like the first ring of Dante's Inferno.

adpiucf · #13 12-15-2004, 03:12 PM

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Originally posted by cashmoney

Thats how'd I'd look at it.

Cash is the Tucker Max of Greek Chat.

OtterXO · #14 12-15-2004, 08:49 PM

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Originally posted by cashmoney
Yea, it might freak him out unless he wants to date you. Either that or he'd love to go thinking he was getting laid for 4 days straight on a boat.

Thats how'd I'd look at it.

The boy and I are in the 'hanging out' phase but we've been friends for awhile and we've discussed the possiblility of more down the road after a few issues are dealt with. He invited me on a weekend trip with his friends...so he can't really get all freaked out about the "trip" part of it, if he did he would be a complete idiot. Although I wouldn't put it past a guy to let something freak them out that they did to me a couple weeks before...haha

texas*princess · #15 12-15-2004, 09:32 PM

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Originally posted by sigmagrrl
When a wedding comes up, or any party, why can't we ever go alone? Why is being a "party of one" seen as a bad thing??

I think the situation is kinda different if you KNOW everyone else WILL have dates. (and not in the high-school-over-exaggeration sense like "EVERYONE is going to be wearing this same dress!"). Like when you KNOW without a doubt that everyone else there will be in pairs, it kinda does suck to be the odd one out.

For example: this isn't a wedding situation, but I have 3 really good friends that my boyfriend & I regularly hang out with. 2 of those 3 are married to each other.

so when the 5 of us get together to do something ... like play pool for instance... it's kinda hard when you have an odd number.

another example: there was this girl i knew that had 2 female roommates - both of them had boyfriends and she did not. for halloween one couple was going to dress as Fred and Wilma, the other couple was going to dress as Barney & Betty... and they asked her if she would dress up as Dino