a situation...greek brothers only - Page 2

DELTABRAT · #16 02-28-2001, 07:32 PM

I would have a problem if I came home and my man had on anything with my letters on it.

I find it interesting that the woman was in a BGLO. Because my boyfriend and I are both Greeak, we both know the rules. Basically I would think all the rules were known.

Although, I did pose this question to him and his response was similar to Doggystyle's. That is in the privacy of his spot, he wouldn't see a problem. Howeverm I said, what if I had on a shirt and some of your Frat were coming over and he said then that would not be ok. In other words, what is done in the privacy of your spot is between the two of you anyways. So if I am getting up out of the (let's say bed) and I put on a shirt (not with letters but with the name of the org) to go the the restroom then that's okay.

Midwest:

A lot of people put their letters on things such as robes (and you, I do have one).

AKA2D: I hear ya loud and clear.

MIDWESTDIVA · #17 02-28-2001, 08:17 PM

Deltabrat,

No offense intended. If you like your robe, I love it for you. As AKA2D'91 pointed out, I can't really relate, since I'm not greek. I have seen some paraphernalia websites and I think letters on nightgowns, bedspreads and things of that nature is going overboard. This is just one woman's opinion.

And y'all still haven't answered my question.

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AKA2D '91 · #18 02-28-2001, 08:43 PM

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Originally posted by MIDWESTDIVA:
ROFLMAO at you MaMaBuddha!

So now I have a question. For those of you that have the license plate with greek letters on the front of your car, how do you feel about letting your man or woman drive your car?

I don't have a license plate on the front of my car!

12dn94dst · #19 02-28-2001, 09:24 PM

Issue #1: I agree with DoggyStyle. Although I HIGHLY DOUBT my man (IF I had one) would wear anything with my letters onit (assuming he'd be able to fit it), if it's within the confiles of my house, there shouldn't be a problem...depending on what he's doing.

Issue #2 (concerning carrying my Delta umbrella). NOPE, not alone. I'll be happy to go with if you're running to the car or some short distance like that if that's the only umbrella I have, but I usually keep an extra with me (in my car, in the house and yes, at work because I'm forgetful like that & you never know when it's going to rain), so that's not an issue for me.

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Originally posted by MIDWESTDIVA:
So now I have a question. For those of you that have the license plate with greek letters on the front of your car, how do you feel about letting your man or woman drive your car?

Like AKA2D'91, I don't have a plate on the front of my car, but I do have a frame on the back. I am not going through the drama of getting my hands dirty taking it off everytime a non-Soror wants to use my car.

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MaMaBuddha · #20 02-28-2001, 10:19 PM

hmmmmm...

midwestdiva brought up a good point about the license plate. i did have a plate on my car and my man (at very very very long time ago

) use to ride out in my car all the time.

he went as so much to purchase a plate that said Alpha/Delta.

soror deltabrat,
i think i too would be a bit peeved if my man (righhhhtttt) had my letters on.

so...i have a blanket with our letters and crest on it. it is so huge, fabulous and warm---the question that lies here is sleeping on it or under it with another person????

would you consider that disrespecting????

AKA2D '91 · #21 02-28-2001, 10:57 PM

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Originally posted by MaMaBuddha:
hmmmmm...

midwestdiva brought up a good point about the license plate. i did have a plate on my car and my man (at very very very long time ago ) use to ride out in my car all the time.

GIRL, why all of those verys? lol

he went as so much to purchase a plate that said Alpha/Delta.

AND YA'LL WERE NOT MARRIED? that's ANOTHER thread! lol

so...i have a blanket with our letters and crest on it. it is so huge, fabulous and warm---the question that lies here is sleeping on it or under it with another person????

would you consider that disrespecting????

ummmmmmmmmmm. I have the blanket, too! I guess I would not want non-Sorors with it, since I keep it at my mother's house in our "AKA corner"! LOL

If I had it here with me, I guess I would have to put it on a chair (for show) and pull out one of those "other" blankets to keep us warm....

DoggyStyle82 · #22 02-28-2001, 11:14 PM

Ladies, I don't see the big deal with an umbrella if it is raining or a jacket if it is cold. If you are my wife or girlfriend, any true Omega would respect the need of the situation. But casual wear is a no-no. The car tag is no big deal, unless it is a same sex situation, then it gets tricky.

DELTABRAT · #23 03-01-2001, 12:45 AM

WOW!

I don't know if I would make my man sleep on the floor or bundle up with my DST blanket and he have one sheet shivering in the corner while we were sleep. I would probably take it off to avoid confusion although I am not likely to feel funny about that.

License plates are a trip because I have sped up, run over people, run red lights, etc to catch up with a Soror only to find out it was a man in the car. Like DANG!

Ooh! DST/APA plates or DST/Que Psi Phi plates and any other "look at us, we're a Greek couple" 'nalia is crazy to me. I know some think it is cute but I just don't see it.

Midwest, no offense taken. I understand it's a matter of personal choice. I didn't have the robe made for myself, my Neos had it made for me when I was their Dean.

The unbrella thing is another issue as well. I don't see me letting another person carry it. Unfortunately men have to contend with being gentlemen. So yeah, if my man and I are out and about and suddenly a strom rolls over, I don't see him tripping off the frat umbrella/jacket. However, if it were my umbrella, I also wouldn't have him shivering in the rain while I walked dry under my DST umbrella. I think there's extras o it if the person is of the same sex because there can be confusion. My boyfriend did satet that while he may not smack me upside the head for throwing on a shirt on route to the restroom, he would have to go OFF if he cam home and his roommate had on a shirt. Why this would happen, who knows.

Similarly, I am not handing out Delta shirts to my homies if they spill something on a blouse and need something to throw on. I don't care if it has the greek letters or says Deltagirl or My homegirl is a Delta or I wish I could be a Delta or whatever. It is NOT happening.

CrimsonTide4 · #24 03-01-2001, 01:11 AM

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Originally posted by DELTABRAT:
Similarly, I am not handing out Delta shirts to my homies if they spill something on a blouse and need something to throw on. I don't care if it has the greek letters or says Deltagirl or My homegirl is a Delta or I wish I could be a Delta or whatever. It is NOT happening.

ROFLMAO LMAO LMAO!!! Soror that is hilarious but I feel you.

The license plate thing is not a big deal to me. I do know (LOL as I flashback) that I have 2 sets of car keys, one with DST insignia and the other with my name and any one who needs to use my car will get the NAME keychain. IT actually happened to me with a guy friend who was kind of upset when I SNATCHED the other set of keys out of his hand but I WAS NOT HAVING IT!!

Ideal08 · #25 03-01-2001, 09:38 AM

Ok, maybe it's just me. Other than my car, I don't let anyone use anything that has my letters on it. And only my ex-boyfriend was driving that, so no confusion there. Not an ink pen, nothing. As far as the umbrella situation, listen to the weather in the morning. It's called preparation, I'm sorry. Like Kelli said, I'll walk you outside, with my umbrella, but you CANNOT carry it by yourself. It's not about not caring about the person's well being, the situation is too sticky. Think about how you would feel if you were walking down the street, and saw someone with an umbrella that had XYZ letters on it. You go to meet and greet, since that's the sisterly thing to do.

And find out that the chick is not a soror!!

What?! First thing through my mind is, what soror gave this chick her letters??? Next thing you know, they'll want to borrow the skee-wee! LOL!

Ok, I'm kidding, yall, I'm kidding!! LOL!! But I'm serious about the other stuff. Nope.

I think that these responses are quite interesting. Because, I know more than a few of us have tripped off of GLO's traditions of lavaliering and whatnot. But here, we have people saying that it's ok behind closed doors?? What is THAT about?

mccoyred · #26 03-01-2001, 10:18 AM

Well, my non-Greek husband drives my car w/ the DST plates or DST window sticker. I do not trip because he takes care of my car, runs errands for me and drives me when I do not want to drive myself. I often see other husbands driving their wife's car, especially picking them up from the train station. No big deal. ::shrug::

As far as clothing or items like cups, no way is a non-soror going to wear or use it. I don't want any confusion. When my non-Greek mom attends Delta functions with me, I advise her not to wear red so that there will be no embarassment and she totally understands. As far as the umbrella thing, I don't even use them!

I disagree about the 'as long as it is in private' permission. No way is NO WAY.

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Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913

DST Love · #27 03-01-2001, 11:01 AM

As far as license plates, I'll let my father, boyfriend, sister, brother, etc. drive my car with plates on. For me, I never assume when I see plates on a car that that person is in that organization. It's not like the person has the letters on their body or in their hand (ie keychain, etc). It's simply attached to a vehicle of transportation. That's just my take.

#1 Leading Lady · #28 03-01-2001, 12:56 PM

Ideal08,

Girl,you got me at working laughing all out loud...I feel you. I have dang near ran down the police to catch up with a Soror due to the license plate to find out it be a boyfriend or husband and you right you let someone borrow anything pertaining your XYZ then you right next they wanna borrow the call and then OOOO~OP's they done got popped in the mouth. If you are not a Soror you can not borrow anything with my letters on it and ya bet'not touch it! If my man drives my car with my license plate he knows to take the key only and leave my keychains alone. It is all about RESPECT Somebody said to be prepared. If you know you stay the night at your man's house on the regular then go PREPARED take your own robe with your OWN Greek letters and he will be and happy and so will you!!! If you don't have a robe with your GREEK letters take this opportunity to let your man know so he can purchase that GIFT for you.....then he will be happy and so will you!!!

OHHHHHH ya'll are so CRAZY...Much Greek luv to you all

Reds695 · #29 03-01-2001, 04:12 PM

I've been int he situation where a co-worker asked to borrow my umbrella, I told her no because my letters were on it. She didn't understand.

MaMaBuddha · #30 03-02-2001, 01:47 AM

yes...all the responses here are quite interesting...but i don't think one person's repsonse devalues the way people treat there letters.

roomies, friends and such are out of the question for t-shirts, sweaters and so and such. the umbrella thing is if-y.

significant others and married ones...ummmmm...that needs to be well thought about.

certain situations are handled in different ways.

oh and about the Alpha/Delta license plate, we thought we were getting married. it was a cute idea on his part.

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