a situation...greek brothers only
 

hey people...

i have a question to ask...it's specifically for the 5 frats of the divine 9.

and i would like an honest opinion or what would you do in that situation, sorors and my greek sisters, please also answer and tell me what you think.

guys-

suppose....you are in an intimate relationship with a female who is also greek. let's say a little over a year. she sleeps at your house quite a while and you are quite comfortable with her. one day, you come home and she is chilling in your house with your fraternity robe on that has your letter on it. (she just stepped out the shower and it was cold)

would you gt upset with her and demand for her to take it off?

before i give my input...i am interested in what you would say or do.




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It would upset me BECAUSE: 1)I would've bought her a special robe with her own letters, 2)I would expect her to wear it for that purpose,and finally 3)being greek, she should know better than to put on my letters.
I would not snatch it off; I would however tell her to never put it on again.

Would she be wrong if she had a t-shirt that said, "my boyfriend is a ....." with your letters on it?

Because if it isn't wrong, I really don't see a difference because both items still have your letters on it.

There's nothing wrong with it if Alpha is spelled out; it's when you have the GREEK LETTERS that there's a problem. You cannot have the greek letters on and not be a member. That is the purpose of incorporation, and trademark.

I would NOT put it on!

And, I would not want him to touch any of my items, either. We all should know better than that! Greek or non-greek,

DO NOT TOUCH!

that's my OPINION!

MAMABUDDHA:

I would not have a problem with it at all. Especially behind closed doors, it is not a problem whatsoever. If we have that kind of relationship and you are my acknowledged girlfriend, it is not an issue. A lot of younger Bruhs have a problem with it, but I don't. Conversely, I would not be caught dead in any sorority para or something like "My Girl is A XYZ"

the reason i asked because that situation happened to a friend of mine and she asked my honest opinion.

it made me question a few older greeks from back in the day. some answers i received were:

if she was my girlfriend or sweetheart-back then you let your sweetheart(girlfriend) wear your jacket of sweater, to let everyone know that you were together.

then again time were different back and chivarly was in...now and days, you rarely see it.

then that brought the thought to my mind....dang, she stepped out the shower and needed something to through on and that might have been the nearest thing at hand and he got pissed because she put his robe on.


then that brought in the mind of carrying... say an umbrella. if it was pouring rain outside and one of my family or co-workers asked to borrow my umbrella to run to the store or out to car to grab something.

would i lend it to them, with concern in my mind of them getting wet?

or

should i be more concerned that my letters are on the umbrella someone might mistake them to be member of my org?

but I can imagine my grandma asking to borrow my umbrella and me saying no...I can imagine a POP!!! in the lips. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif


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thank the lord that hasn't happened!!! i couldn't bare getting POPed in the lips by g-ma




[This message has been edited by MaMaBuddha (edited February 28, 2001).]

Doggystyles...

i tend to agree with you.

The Original Ape, i see your point, but i disagree especially if she was your girl.

sunnydays...although the thought of my man (righhhhhttt!) in a shirt that says "my girl is a DST" is cute...i don't think i'd be able to handle it. *lol*

the only thing i hate is if it was raining and i was walking down the street with my man(righttttt!)who happened to be greek and it was either freezing, raining or a snow storm and he didn't offer me his jacket and we were in a relationship. he would be in the dog house!!! (no pun intended)

There is a difference between someone putting a top or some other type of clothing on with anotther person's letters on it/them and this situation. If the girl got out of the shower and needed something to wrap up in to go from the bathroom to the bedroom and then would quickly take off the item and put on her regular clothes, then that is not a big deal, especialy if this was her man's robe. If she was to go outside and go out to the store or something with her man's lettered t-shirt on, that is different...that is WRONG.

If it had been me in that situation, I would have told my man off for fussing at me or even getting that mad simply because I wrapped up in his robe for a minute to go from the bathroom to the bedroom. If we are close and in a relationship he should know better than to do me like that, especially if I was in my OWN organization and he knew the extent of my pride in it. As far as him wearing my robe, I don't really see that happening simply because a man would rather walk around bukked nekkid before putting on a woman's ANYTHING!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

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My response is this if the above scenario happened to me, once I step out the shower, I towel off and put on clothes/my own robe, etc. MOst likely if she is over there and has "sleepovers" http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif with her man, wouldn't she have her own robe over his house as well?

Well if not, I would not have put his robe on out of respect. Instead grab a sweatshirt and sweats of his that are sans Greek Letters.

I was on a listserve and the question of letting your significant other carry your umbrella or wear your jacket if inclement weather came up. If I were without an umbrella and he had his, I would hope he would be enough of a gentleman to hold the umbrella over me. I would reciprocate if the show were on the other foot.

i could see a problem if a young lady wore his greek letters to the store.

but my thing is in the house as Doggystyle stated behind closed doors if okay.

the umbrella situatuion is something else totally.

ROFLMAO at you MaMaBuddha! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

This whole topic is just funny to me. Why does a robe need to have greek letters on it anyway? Or an umbrella? I'm sorry but I just think its tacky to put letters on every inanimate object.

So now I have a question. For those of you that have the license plate with greek letters on the front of your car, how do you feel about letting your man or woman drive your car?

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As a general rule, I would expect that non-members of Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Inc. would show the proper respect and not wear the letters, especially if it is someone I am intimate with.

However, there are exceptions to every rule.

Given the fact scenario presented, I would not be upset.

Mamabuddah,

I thought that question was a bit tricky! First of all, if she's up in my house/not my apartment