Sweet Strawberries & Tarnished Crowns - Page 2

ztabchbum · #16 10-14-2004, 10:53 AM

radioZTA - it's good to see that you have a sweet strawberry for each tarninshed crown. sending thoughts to you during your times of need.

ztabchbum · #17 10-14-2004, 10:55 AM

Sweet Strawberry - I have just reconnected with 2 of my best friends from high school that I haven't spoken to since graduation (7 1/2 years ago).

Tarnished Crown - My dad still hasn't replied to my news about my boyfriend and I getting back together. I think he's pissed.

PenguinTrax · #18 10-14-2004, 11:23 AM

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Originally posted by ztabchbum
Tarnished Crown - My dad still hasn't replied to my news about my boyfriend and I getting back together. I think he's pissed.

Food for thought from the older (and maybe wiser?) ZTA contingent:

I've always found that if my folks were upset about my choice of a boyfriend, in the end they were always right. Even it if took me years to come to the same conclusion. Trust the people that love and know you best.

ZTABullwinkle · #19 10-14-2004, 01:46 PM

Sweet Strawberry- I am alive

Tarnished Crown- I am so depressed over life and everything in it, tht I am not so sure that is a good thing.

ztabchbum · #20 10-14-2004, 02:49 PM

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Originally posted by PenguinTrax
Food for thought from the older (and maybe wiser?) ZTA contingent:

I've always found that if my folks were upset about my choice of a boyfriend, in the end they were always right. Even it if took me years to come to the same conclusion. Trust the people that love and know you best.

If this was a normal situation, I would agree with you. But they don't like him because he didn't go to college (not for him) and he doesn't come from a wealthy family.

ztabchbum · #21 10-14-2004, 03:04 PM

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Originally posted by ZTABullwinkle
Sweet Strawberry- I am alive

Tarnished Crown- I am so depressed over life and everything in it, tht I am not so sure that is a good thing.

Just remember that you have lots of ZTA shoulders to lean on.

PenguinTrax · #22 10-14-2004, 05:33 PM

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Originally posted by ztabchbum
If this was a normal situation, I would agree with you. But they don't like him because he didn't go to college (not for him) and he doesn't come from a wealthy family.

Ah...I see. Good luck!

PenguinTrax · #23 10-14-2004, 05:34 PM

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Originally posted by ZTABullwinkle
Sweet Strawberry- I am alive

Tarnished Crown- I am so depressed over life and everything in it, tht I am not so sure that is a good thing.

Nope - not a good thing. And trust me, I know all about it. PM me if you want to talk sometime, ok? I've BTDT.

EtaPhiZTA · #24 10-15-2004, 08:37 PM

Sweet Strawberry - It's Founder's Day, and I am so happy for Zeta Tau Alpha because it has given me so much.

Tarnished Crown - I am struggling with my group of first grade students. They are a very needy bunch who I want to bring home with me every day.

ZTABullwinkle · #25 10-19-2004, 10:08 PM

Just wanted to update everyone....I have been having a VERY rough few months. Even though I didn't return to school (which is a good thing, thanks to my knee) this semester ~ I hear from ONE of my chapter sisters. I have been told that I can't go alumna. It is just one thing after another.

My boyfriend who is VERY supportive puts up with my severe mood swings, because he knows that I can be a better person. To see me have a panic attack and get angry is better than the sad depression.

I have fought the depression for 14 years, and for the FIRST time, my parents asked me to set ground rules so they don't have to go through the bad episodes. So I have no relationship with my parents either.

I know I have mnay shoulders to lean on, but sometimes I think people just get tired of me always complaining or not getting better.

PenguinTrax · #26 10-20-2004, 09:59 AM

Meredith -

You can apply for early alumna status - who told you that you couldn't? As long as you were in good standing with the chapter the last semester you were in school, you should be eligible.

As far as who you have heard from - it could be that people don't know why you aren't around, or have heard a rumor, or any one of a number of things. They could also be afraid to contact you for fear that you will reject them.

Sweetie - I've been where you are at. In some ways I'm still there. You need to get professional help from a therapist. I started seeing one this summer and it's made a huge and positive difference in my life. It really has. Don't wait until you are married, with a child and at a huge crisis point before you do something. There is no shame in asking for help. It is hard to do, so very hard, but in the end you will see how worth it it is. Have the last 14 years really been so great that you want to live another 14 years feeling the same way?

If you want a positive relationship with your parents, your ZTA sisters, your boyfriend and with yourself (that's the most important one), then you need to bite the bullet and make the phone call. Please...a lot of people care about you and want you around for a long, long time to come.

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Originally posted by ZTABullwinkle
Just wanted to update everyone....I have been having a VERY rough few months. Even though I didn't return to school (which is a good thing, thanks to my knee) this semester ~ I hear from ONE of my chapter sisters. I have been told that I can't go alumna. It is just one thing after another.

My boyfriend who is VERY supportive puts up with my severe mood swings, because he knows that I can be a better person. To see me have a panic attack and get angry is better than the sad depression.

I have fought the depression for 14 years, and for the FIRST time, my parents asked me to set ground rules so they don't have to go through the bad episodes. So I have no relationship with my parents either.

I know I have mnay shoulders to lean on, but sometimes I think people just get tired of me always complaining or not getting better.

ZTABullwinkle · #27 10-20-2004, 11:04 AM

Thanks for the reply Penguintrax. Just so you know, I have a psychiatrist who I have been seeing for about five years (I had seen one other one who WAY OVER-medicated me.) I also see a therapist, about twice a month.

They are both aware of how I feel. They are at a loss as to what to do. I literally am out of antidepresants to try, since I have tried all or most at one point in this fifteen year battle.

I appreciate your reply. But maybe it is a bit clearer why I am so scared and upset.

PS - Can't just change the doctor either. My medical bills are paid by Worker's Comp, since I was injured on the job and it precipitated all of this. Took me a VERY LONG battle to see the doctor I am with now. (We are talking two years of lawyers, being followed to see if I was faking it, etc.)

#28 10-20-2004, 10:54 PM

Meredith,

You can always IM me or email me!

ZLAM,

Erica

ZTAngel · #29 10-27-2004, 01:04 PM

Sweet Strawberry: My boss is out of the office today! (always a good thing)

Tarnished Crown: The Publix sub maker forgot to put mayo on my sub. It's just not as good without mayo.

radioZTA · #30 10-28-2004, 05:57 PM

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This month is nuts:

Tarnished Crown: My grandmother passed away October 1st.

Sweet Strawberry: I was able to be with her to say "Good bye".

Tarnished Crown: I had to miss the funeral...

Sweet Strawberry: ...because my husband, my children, my mother, my sister-in-law and I left for Disney World the next day for a trip that we have been planning for 8 months.

Tarnished Crown: I'm having a hysterectomy 10/20.

Sweet Strawberry: The Dallas Night chapter has organized dinners for my family for 2 weeks after that plus a couple of ladies have already sent restaurant gift cards.

Sweet Strawberry: My husband and I will celebrate our 11th anniversary on 10/16. He is a great guy!

Tarnished Crown: Except...he usually doesn't buy a gift or card. Sigh. (I told him that his gift this year will be no more PMS but it hasn't arrived yet.)

I am surpisingly not stressed about any of this...maybe just a bit weepy but that is to be expected.

Quick update: I realized that I didn't mention it before but my grandmother's breast cancer had come back. She also had cancer in her spine and liver but they're not sure if it was the breast cancer that caused the others or if it was the other way around.

Also, it has been 8 days since my surgery and the doctor has given me the "all clear" to resume almost all normal activities. I'm still going to be fatigued if I do too much so I am supposed to keep taking it slow. The good news is that they didn't find any cancer although he said all the signs were starting to point that way. They found that things were a lot worse than they originally thought and had progressed rapidly since I had a minor surgery and some tests done last year. Scary!

One more thing...hubby took me to a super new restaurant and gave me a VERY nice purse for our anniversary. I was surprised since I wasn't expecting a gift. He is happy that he will have no more PMS to deal with and says that having me healthy is the best gift of all. (Who are you and what have you done with my REAL husband?! jk)

The Dallas Night chapter and you GC Zetas have been wonderful, bringing dinner, calling and e-mailing to check up on me. It is truly a wonderful sisterhood! I feel incredibly blessed.