Lori Hacking- Missing Case

[DELTABRAT]

Originally posted by Eclipse
The article I read said that he was always "studying", had open books lying around the apartment, going to class, writing papers, etc. A few days before his "graduation" he got really sick and so, poor thing, he was not able to actually participate in the graduation ceremony. He did however, according to the paper, pose in his cap and gown for pictures.

He even went to NC with his wife to look for apartments for them to stay in while he was in Med School! The same article said he talked about MCAT scores, which schools he should apply to, etc. NO ONE had any reason not to believe him. Evidently his story was adding up.

It really is a sad story.

I agree. I don't think it's that hard to fake anything. We are speaking as young (er) college educated folks. I know many a people whose parents trust their very last word. I am not saying his parents are uneducated but IF by chance moms and pops haven't seen a college campus EVER or it's been 40 years since, then they may not be up on the new chit.

Think about the fact that back in the day, there was no "distance learning." If I told my mom I was in a distance learning program leading towards a JD, she doesn't know any better. Why would she check up? Same can be said for attending school out of state. How about all the folks at (was it) Southern U. that got fake degrees and transcripts? Were the parents to call the University to make sure?

Uhm...let's also not forget that a lunatic named "yelloflower" over on DST Ave. has been lying to EVERYONE for 6 years. She also lied about having graduated UG initially, remember. You'd think someone would have caught on but people believ what they want and no one wants to walk around doubting their "loved" ones.

I am sorry but I think we all think what we would have done in hindsight but truth be told, we all know people who could be lying about a number of things and may snap and kill us at the drop of a dime. Seriously.

[stardusttwin]

Sadly according to some articles I read the biggest threat to a pregnant woman is not miscarriage but her own husband/boyfriend. I don't know where they got there stats from but this isn't as random as we may think. The reality of a child scares these men into acts that most people know are reprehensible. Getting a divorce/separating isn't going to make it go away (still have child support)-they are afraid because they are no longer the center of their woman's universe and they can't share the limelight. Most times no one knew they were capable of such acts-we are not talking regular abusers-these are "regular" guys that snap when a child is on the way.

He lied (about graduating UG) and then told more lies (about applying/being accepted into medical school) and apparently the victim found out the day before she was killed which was two weeks before they were to go to their new location. I don't know why he thought killing her would keep the secret from getting out but who understands his mind process. His family is sticking behind him-I honestly don't know if I would stand behind a family member who did this.

As for faking the UG graduation-I know lots of people who tried to perp and march with the class because their family didn't know they didn't actually finish their credits. Some went back and completed the last class (or semester) others didn't and won't be found out until a transcript is needed (howmany jobs ask for transcripts that show you actually graduated?). However, my mother didn't play that - as soon as I marched off that stage she wanted to see the actual degree she had invested so much $$ into.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
I really cannot understand how someone can view a spouse a disposable. He threw her body in the trash bin. If you are that unhappy in your marriage, get a divorce. These stories frighten me so much. You never know what people are capable of. Rest in peace, Lori. My prayers are with her and her family.

Cosign.

Am I the only one who thinks this guy is more of a con man than a psycho?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by DELTABRAT
but people believ what they want and no one wants to walk around doubting their "loved" ones.

I think that is what happened to this woman in Utah...

She believed what we wanted to believe until things started not adding up for her... Things stop aligning properly. Not getting straight answers when asking direct questions... Getting the run around or roundabout answers to "yes-no" questions...

Not that I am saying folks should never lie or that folks are always honest. But some folks (as people have said here already) have lies on top of lies--nunna of which are true--so it is what you want to believe, ultimately...

Or rather, what you want to rationalize, accept and tolerate...

As far as the original question goes, what does one do when another person you have entrusted lies to you...

There is nothing that you can do. It is a matter of place and time and load. Is it a huge lie? Is a lie a lie no matter what... It is a white lie, is it a black lie--like there are colors to deception... Like is there one sin over another??? Either way, it is the lesser of two evils... It is all a matter of how far you want to stay within that "reality"...

Oh what a web we weave when we first try to deceive...

The fact is, how can one trust another individual? Blindly?

Or with life experiences, you know when someone's "pulling your leg", so you can either roll with it or walk away from it... However if you decide to roll with it, then you cannot keep bringing back up if you are not ready to wash your hands of the whole deal...

Then there are those folks who just plain live in denial...

[Peaches-n-Cream]

Lori's brother is on Larry King Live right now. I feel so sorry for him. He doesn't understand why her husband, Mark, felt that he had to lie to the people who loved him.

[KSigkid]

I read this morning about him telling his brothers that he killed him...there were a couple of quotes from his father explaining what he thought led to the slaying.

Just a nasty story...even his own family is saying he's guilty.

[DELTABRAT]

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
I think that is what happened to this woman in Utah...

She believed what we wanted to believe until things started not adding up for her... Things stop aligning properly. Not getting straight answers when asking direct questions... Getting the run around or roundabout answers to "yes-no" questions...

Not that I am saying folks should never lie or that folks are always honest. But some folks (as people have said here already) have lies on top of lies--nunna of which are true--so it is what you want to believe, ultimately...

Or rather, what you want to rationalize, accept and tolerate...

As far as the original question goes, what does one do when another person you have entrusted lies to you...

There is nothing that you can do. It is a matter of place and time and load. Is it a huge lie? Is a lie a lie no matter what... It is a white lie, is it a black lie--like there are colors to deception... Like is there one sin over another??? Either way, it is the lesser of two evils... It is all a matter of how far you want to stay within that "reality"...

Oh what a web we weave when we first try to deceive...

The fact is, how can one trust another individual? Blindly?

Or with life experiences, you know when someone's "pulling your leg", so you can either roll with it or walk away from it... However if you decide to roll with it, then you cannot keep bringing back up if you are not ready to wash your hands of the whole deal...

Then there are those folks who just plain live in denial...

I totally agree. This fool was completely psycho. I wwas reading that the Friday before she was missing, she made a few calls and then broke down at work. She was calling UNC re: her housing (student housing) and the folks couldn't find old boys name in the files. They called her back and were like "yeah., we have no Mark hacking as a registered student." She broke down and left work. Who know what happened from there. Let's also not forget that the rest of the lies came out after the missing person situation so...there is NO TELLING WHAT ELSE IS A LIE!!!!