What to do?

[TonyB06]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
lmao @ "freek-a-leek".

I cannot speak for all females, but I know I would not tell another soror/friendgirl anything about her man. I think it's kind of "a different case" where females are concerned.

We might be "tight" and all, but naaaa I would not say a word. What is done in the dark, will soon come to the light. All I can do is be there for her.

hmmm...(and I'm not judging you at all, 2D) But I am curious, especially if this is your "ace," your best friend, not just a regular friend about to make a bad move. I think everybody needs one somebody close enough to them who can say "this right here is some bullisht. You're wrong for that because of x, y, z, and I gotta call you on it" --and not worry that the friendship will suffer.

Granted you don't want too many folk with walk-in privilges like dat but I do have one friendship where I trust them enough to check me and vice-versa. ...but since I tend not to get ill like that

[AKA2D '91]

I have no problem with judging.

Seriously, it's different for females.
For example. I have LSs who were biological sisters. She told her sister of her man's behavior one time. The sister (who was cheated on) was mad at her sister, but she CONTINUED with this frat for yearrrrrs. It didn't matter if the sister saw ole boy cheating or not...she did not get involved. (This is back in the day, in college. They both are happily married)

Another example,
I know of another case where best friend/LS where the husband is very, very bad news for the soror (emotionally abusive/suspected infidel). The soror (professional counselor) has insisted that she isn't going to say anything to her LS/Bestfriend, but will just be there for her when the bough breaks.

Many females may not admit it here on GC, but they probably will NOT get involved in issues "like that" of their friend's "man".



Dat's all I have to say about dat...

[Eclipse]

If she was a *tight* girlfriend (and I can count them on less than one hand!) I would tell her. If it was just a "friend" I would drop broad hints like"I saw someone that looked just like Tyrone at the concert last night!" If she explored for more information, I would spill it, if she did not, I would move on.

Many times people know, they just want to pretend like they don't.

[TonyB06]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
I have no problem with judging.

Seriously, it's different for females.
For example. I have LSs who were biological sisters. She told her sister of her man's behavior one time. The sister (who was cheated on) was mad at her sister, but she CONTINUED with this frat for yearrrrrs. It didn't matter if the sister saw ole boy cheating or not...she did not get involved. (This is back in the day, in college. They both are happily married) ....

Many females may not admit it here on GC, but they probably will NOT get involved in issues "like that" of their friend's "man".



Dat's all I have to say about dat...

Ok, 2D, I gotta take your word on the female mind; that can somtimes be a strange place when it comes to relationships. Did you mean the couple where dude cheated is happily married today, or that both sisters today are happily married?

Eclipse, your "broad hint" had me LMBO. But why ole boy gotta be named Tyrone?!? First Erica Badu, now you. geez...

[Eclipse]

Originally posted by TonyB06

Eclipse, your "broad hint" had me LMBO. But why ole boy gotta be named Tyrone?!? First Erica Badu, now you. geez...

Just be glad I didn't use another male name that starts with "T"! LOL