Can Someone help me with my problem

[LuV_mE]

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
I thought about you some more last night. Have you triedAlaNon or AlaTeen -- not sure exactly which one. They should have resources and avenues for you to pursue to get help.

I have Never thought of that.
Thanks

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by LuV_mE
I have Never heard of those. I could look it up.
Thanks

You're more than welcome.

[LuV_mE]

I really would like to thank you all who responded. I have been to a few website that are very helpful and my cousin/BESTFRIEND is trying to help me.

Well I have one more question:

My mom thinks that I am anorexic (I’m not) and every single time I try to tell her that I am not she tells me that I am in denial and we end up arguing every single day over this. My question is how do I get her to believe me and stop telling our family that I have a problem?

She thinks that I am because I only eat once a day (sometimes not even that) it's just that I’m not hungry, I sleep all day, and don't want to eat when I’m not hungry. I also mentioned a few times how I wanted to lose like 10 or 15 pounds (I’m 5’6 and weigh 140 pounds).

Thanks so Much

[CrimsonTide4]

Oh good, I am glad you are back.

Quite frankly, you do not need to lose any weight. The weight and height you are sounds fine to me. Don't lose any weight. Please eat. It's not healthy to not eat anything. I know you are going through a lot but don't make yourself sick by not eating.

A lot of us on here wish we still weighed 140.

How have you been doing otherwise?

[LuV_mE]

I have been doing better.

It’s not that I am starving myself I just sleep all day ('till about 3:00 pm) by the time I wake up lunch and breakfast are over so I just wait until dinner comes around.

I just sometimes worry about being like I use to be (I ate all day and was bulimic and when I stopped that I gained 20 pounds because I was still eating all day)

Is it bad that I only eat once a day?(I only eat when I am hungry)

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by LuV_mE
I have been doing better.

It’s not that I am starving myself I just sleep all day ('till about 3:00 pm) by the time I wake up lunch and breakfast are over so I just wait until dinner comes around.

I just sometimes worry about being like I use to be (I ate all day and was bulimic and when I stopped that I gained 20 pounds because I was still eating all day)

Is it bad that I only eat once a day?(I only eat when I am hungry)

What time do you go to bed that you sleep til 3? I am not WELL VERSED but sleeping like that is a sign of depression which is understandable.

Please eat but eat wisely. Don't stuff yourself though. Work out if you want to but I can promise you that you are no where near FAT.

[LuV_mE]

How have you been doing otherwise?

I forgot to Answer this question...

I have been doing great.

and I'm much nicer to people
( I didn't realize how bad my attitude was)

I go to sleep around 2 or 3 in the morning

[1savvydiva]

Originally posted by LuV_mE
I forgot to Answer this question...

I have been doing great.

and I'm much nicer to people
( I didn't realize how bad my attitude was)

I go to sleep around 2 or 3 in the morning

I really don't have much to add, just wanted to encourage you and tell you to hang in there.

[LuV_mE]

I recently found out my mother is schizophrenic and the first time she ever got out of control was about 10 years ago (when I was about 7 or 8).
I don’t know where I should go because for a few months I lived with my dad and I was not happy at all. My sisters tell me I should move back with my dad because my mom was not as bad when I was gone with my dad. I am not happy there or here but when I live with my mom I can see my cousin (who is my best friend) and family anytime I want to.

My mom has been okay until about last year when her delusions started to get worse. I am kind of scared because she thinks people come into the house and that I am stealing from her (and my family is against her). The lady said I can stay here or leave what ever I wanted to do should be alright.

[DC_Zeta1920]

I hate to put my business out there but I'm going to do it.

@Luv_Me

I know exactly what you are going through. My mother has Paranoia Schizophrenia and I have dealt with it since I was 7 years of age. I have seen her go through her delusions and everything and it has had an effect on me growing up. My father knew what was going on but he was one of those deadbeat fathers that didn't give a damm.....If I would have stayed with him and his parents I won't say that I would have been a better person and life would have been peaches and cream but I will say my environment would have been relatively stable. I still live with her and it is a very tough thing to deal with.

I understand that you may not like your father but you really should think about which environment would be stable for you. He may not let you have the same freedoms as your mother would but as you grow older you will appreciate the structure and the stability.

You only have one mother and father. Your best bet is to talk things out with your father and let him know your concerns without any ranting and raving. I had to do the same thing with mine.

[BlueReign]

Thank you for sharing this. I hope that you are receiving all the help and support you can find, Luv Me. I didn't realize how widespread this problem is. I never knew about it until recently. Two of my students are cutters. And now I think a close friend of mine was and still may be a cutter but won't admit it. The thing that they have in common is that they are very hurt and angry inside but are very gentle people who would never lash out and hurt anybody. Instead, they turn it on themselves.

[LuV_mE]

BlueReign

Thank You
My first post was before I knew that my mother was
Schizophrenic.

For the past 4-5 months I have been doing pretty good with
not cutting myself. I started to realize how it never helps and
they were so deep it wouldn't heal and go away like the other
Ones did. I really stopped after my cousin/ best friend tried to
kill herself. Most of the people in my family are on something
for their depression I just can't see myself being on something I
wouldn't feel like I was a normal person.

My friend just told me she thought about cutting herself and
that I was the only person she ever told that. I didn't know
what to say because I know she shouldn't and in the end it will
not help, but how can you tell someone not to do something
you have done? I bought her a journal so she can write
about what's going wrong, she said it works.

DC_Zeta1920
- Thank you
I understand what you are saying. I try to talk to my dad but in
the end all he says is I defend my sisters to much and they
have some control over me. My sisters are the people who
raised me and teach me what I should and shouldn't be. When I
moved with my dad he told me that I shouldn't spend so much
time with them and since he and his wife do not like my sister
I can't talk to her when I live with and I'm not really allowed to be alone with her. He says she is in my life more than what is needed, I feel she raised me and we are just close.


- I have decided to live with my dad. I have put up with worse and I am sure this last year will go fast. I thought about what you wrote and it would be better. When I was with my dad my grades were better than they are now and that really matters to me.