So I just had my heart ripped out of my chest... - Page 2

ZTAMich · #16 05-26-2004, 08:43 PM

Recently my 8 year relationship with my HS sweetheart ended. It's been a tough three months since then but as a sign of hope, things are turning up over in ZTAMich land and eventually they'll turn up for you too sweetie.

Peaches-n-Cream · #17 05-26-2004, 09:01 PM

I hope that you feel better. Take care of yourself and do things that make you happy.

AchtungBaby80 · #18 05-26-2004, 11:34 PM

Awwwww.

I'm so sorry. The best thing for you to do now, besides taking everyone else's advice (especially James' no-contact rule thing...that's brill), is to drive on over to Lazarus and spend a day at the makeup counters. It always makes me feel good if I'm having a crummy day. (By the way, I'm in Lexington, too!)

FiReKraCkEr · #19 05-27-2004, 01:35 AM

As a girl who had her heart ripped out of her chest about 9 months ago, I feel your pain. Seriously, time really does heal all wounds..no matter how cheesy that sounds. I see my ex all the time (with his ugly new girlfriend) and I laugh... it's her problem now. I'm having fun being single, flirting, and having absolute freedom to do what I want to do. Anyway, there are way too many hot men out there and I want to get to know them ALL.

(um, not Biblically...but you know).

Take time to go through all your emotions...and them get ready to have some FUN!!

AOTTAdvisor · #20 05-27-2004, 11:21 AM

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry for you and I am feeling your pain. I am actually in the process of trying to keep the "no contact" rule as we type and its so damn hard. We thought we could be friends after we broke up and it worked for a little bit but I am really seeing its just hurting both of us and we are playing more games now then we ever did when we were together. But it still breaks my heart and I totally agree with the sleep aids. And just cry a lot. I felt so much better after I pretty much had a mini break down with my mom, just because I got out everything I had bottled up.
Hang in there! I am here for you!

_Lisa_ · #21 05-27-2004, 12:10 PM

Thanks again you guys. I really appreciate the support. My friends right now don't really seem to understand, so I'm glad that you all can help!

_Lisa_ · #22 06-19-2004, 03:55 PM

You know, its not really getting any easier. In fact, I feel worse. I try to go out & do things w/ my friends but I never feel like going out after working 6 days/50 hrs a week. And when I do get a chance to hang out my friends are working. I wish I had more time to have less time to think about him.

James · #23 06-19-2004, 09:18 PM

Have you obeyed the no-contact rule for the last month?
The road to recovery starts the day after you have stopped talking him and starts over every day you do.

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Originally posted by crzychx
You know, its not really getting any easier. In fact, I feel worse. I try to go out & do things w/ my friends but I never feel like going out after working 6 days/50 hrs a week. And when I do get a chance to hang out my friends are working. I wish I had more time to have less time to think about him.

honeychile · #24 06-19-2004, 09:27 PM

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Originally posted by crzychx
You know, its not really getting any easier. In fact, I feel worse. I try to go out & do things w/ my friends but I never feel like going out after working 6 days/50 hrs a week. And when I do get a chance to hang out my friends are working. I wish I had more time to have less time to think about him.

Everyone has their own timeline on pain, Sweetie. It may take a few months, it may take longer. One thing that I would add to the wonderful advice that you've already been given is not to deny your feelings. Don't feel the need to denigrate or badmouth your ex - you may want to think of him as "Someone I used to love."

Good luck to you!

AWJDZ · #25 06-19-2004, 09:43 PM

as cliche as it sounds...I know how you feel. I dated a guy for over 3 1/2 years...talked about marriage and the whole nine yards! Guess what, when it came down to it, he didn't want to grow up and moving on with things. NO CONTACT...and trust me, I know its the hardest. He is over 3 hours away, but for some wierd reason, he keeps calling and emailing. Caller ID is a God-send. If you see his #, don't answer. My guy got smart, he started calling from other people's phones and private numbers

You friends will help you out...I am going to have to take mine out for weeks to pay them back. Workout, manis and pedis, go out with your friends, clean (for some reason this has helped). YOU WILL BE OK!

What doesn't kill us makes us stronger!

_Lisa_ · #26 06-20-2004, 11:41 AM

I wish I could say that there has been no contact but its hard not to see him when we work for the same company! Although we don't work in the same department I still see him in the cafeteria, parking lot, I even run into him coming in/out of the bathroom!

And it doesn't help when friends of his still call me wondering if I'll be coming out w/ him on a particular night. He is a DJ & he plays a lot of clubs & whatnot & I used to go w/ him just about anywhere (work permitting of course) & his friends still expect me to be there too. And I wish I could be 'cause he is a great DJ & I want to still support him but I can't help but cry everytime I even think about him, let alone go out by myself to a club to watch him (possibly) flirt/kiss on/hug another girl.

SigKapBling · #27 06-23-2004, 05:36 PM

i understand exactly where youre coming from... i moved across the country in january of 2003, and by april 1st i was seeing this guy. this has gone on until just recently, all has ceased since the end of may of this year, but it pretty much went downhill in january, right after winter break was over .. i just never let myself actually agree that it had pretty much ended.
now its hard just because hes so close to me, and im so close him. we're like best friends on top of everything thats gone on. everything that we have ever done to each other was only to spite the other person. i know how childish that sounds but thats how it is. i do believe that he has deep feelings, if not love, for me, but hes too immature and into the college life to act on those feelings, so he's lost me.
thats how i think of it - that HES lost ME
keep thinking of it that way - that you let go of him - because it helps, i mean you still feel yucky, but it really holds your heart together. it's going to be hard, no matter what. i dont know the situation with him - but im obviously sure that your heart is hurting. like everyone's said - dont put yourself into sticky situations that keep you in close range with him. if you just do things that dont involve him or anything like that, youll be awesome. meet new people - hang out with those that you couldnt hang out with before, maybe someone who kind of has a crush on you, or had one and still wants to pursue things. i know its early in the game - but it'll make you feel better, and you never know with that new guy.........
good luck girl, we're all here !!!!

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