Girls Just Wanna Be Mean

[James]

Well yes, but that gaurentees that girls will be mean to each other forever lol. No tangible consequences.

I swear, sometimes I don't think women like each other at all.

Originally posted by AXiD670
And I'm sorry, but there is NEVER justification for hitting a girl (unless of course she's gone out of her mind and needs to be slapped to bring her back to reality).

[James]

Is it that big a deal? its been going on forever. People don't change.

There are some cruel people on here. They are seldom called on it. They happen to be girls too lol.

[WCUgirl]

Originally posted by James
I swear, sometimes I don't think women like each other at all.

Sometimes, I'd agree with this statement!

[PM_Mama00]

Originally posted by James

There are some cruel people on here. They are seldom called on it. They happen to be girls too lol.

And why do you think that is?

I have a question. We all know little kids bully each other, but what do you think the cut off age is for when it becomes absolutely ridiculous to be a bully?

I definitely think that at least once you're in college it's time to grow up and stop ganging up on people.

[James]

I am not sure poeple stop Pm_Mama there all kinds of subtle forms of intimidation and social control, especially among women.

Speaking only for guys, if you are still getting into fights after 6th grade you are a numb-nut. Honestly, if I get into a fight now (which is basically being attacked), well I am not a kid, you are going to the hospital or morgue because its not play.

Women have to decide for women.

What age do you think women should stop getting to each other's business and being gossipy and shunning people for not living they way they think that person should live?

Originally posted by PM_Mama00
And why do you think that is?

I have a question. We all know little kids bully each other, but what do you think the cut off age is for when it becomes absolutely ridiculous to be a bully?

I definitely think that at least once you're in college it's time to grow up and stop ganging up on people.

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by PM_Mama00
And why do you think that is?

I have a question. We all know little kids bully each other, but what do you think the cut off age is for when it becomes absolutely ridiculous to be a bully?

I definitely think that at least once you're in college it's time to grow up and stop ganging up on people.

NEVER! HA!

In fact, I think it gets worse, from both genders. I didn't experience this type of
backbiting until my second year in COLLEGE! Before then, if someone didn't like
you, you would know it. If someone said something bad about you, regardless if it
was in your face or behind you back, confrontation usually follows. After
confrontation, one of two things usually happen: the conflict between the two
parties get way out of hand (think fights) or the two parties eventually becomes
friends. But, with backbiting this shit can last for years. I miss that "open" type of environment.

[Peaches-n-Cream]

Originally posted by James
You deserved it for teasing him lol.

Actually I think one of the reasons that women are appear more scoailly viscious than men is that the threat of having your asses beat wasn't very common.

For boys there is a very real possibility of a fist fight, and physical threat comes into play with gossip and back stabbing.

For girls, well .. no one hits you, so you feel safe being really mean to each other as long as other girls are backing you up socially.

Girls have physical fights... at least here in New York City.

[James]

Were girls less Catty with the girls that would whoop their asses?

Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
Girls have physical fights... at least here in New York City.

[alikat2]

Originally posted by AXiD670
Sometimes, I'd agree with this statement!

Me too.

[Peaches-n-Cream]

Originally posted by James
Were girls less Catty with the girls that would whoop their asses?

In my experience, the behavior of the catty girls escalated into violence. Nobody messed with those girls. They were really mean and scary.

[CardinalSM]

That article was very very true in my experience. I am involved in an outreach program at an extremely extremely affluent highschool up here and hang out with primarily freshmen and sophomore girls. Some of them can be extremely mean to their classmates or peers, since I am friends with all of them I hear about it from both sides. Pretty much all the time it will be the girls with the self esteem, cuteness, popularity, what-have-you that will be subversively bullying the other girls. It boggles my mind sometimes.

[Tom Earp]

Is it Girls Will be Girls, or Women will be Women!

More Vindictive or less?

Hey Guys, never Piss off those people or you will be in deep doodoo!

[DeltaBetaBaby]

There was a big stir about this maybe a year back...about the idea of Gamma girls to balance out the Alpha girls (ringleaders) and Beta girls (followers). Gamma girls got involved in other things, like sports or theater outside of school. I equate myself to that, because I was teased mercilessly in jr. high, but I met a lot of great friends through community theater productions...friends who were diverse and accepting.

I think the best thing parents can do for a girl being picked on is to support her and help her find her own niche.

[AKA_Monet]

I got picked on at school for a long time. Then I developed in to womanhood, quickly. That is when the boys liked to talk to me all the time. Some girls hated me for that and lied about me to folks. I had a horrible self esteem. Some of it from my environment, some of it because of my own body chemistry. Never thought my "body" would betray me like it did.

I thought that I was over it until 2 weeks ago with some "ladies" of a group I thought I was a part of actively went out of their way to exclude me. I guess that is alright. Why? Because payback is a mofo. I don't get mad, I get even... And I do it without resorting to violence. I just work harder to help them out. Be nicer to them, smile to them, kinder to them. They can beat me and even go thru me, but all they will have left is me in the end...

Burn more ashes upon their heads by being a Christian to them...

[CatStarESP4]

I was picked on a lot when I was a kid. When we moved back to NY state in the mid 80s, it was even worse. No girl in my class wanted to be my friend. At times, they were friendly with me, but the next moment they treated me like isht. They said that I was fat and ugly and those were the reasons that they didn't want to be friends with me. It was a blow to my self-worth and self-esteem. I didn't look forward to going to school and counted the days until the weekend, break and the end of the school year. At one point, I begged to be home tutored or homeschool, but I was told that it wasn't possible. One boy even tried to strangle me with my scarf.

I went to a different high school (it was my choice), where things got a lot better for me. However, I took drivers ed at my home high school and saw some of same kids who tormented me during the lecture component. I kept my emotional distance from them. There was one girl was in my practice component, but she forgot all about the torment that I was put through and encouraged my progress.

I still bear the emotional scars of that year even after nearly 20 years. I don't talk much about it; let alone be reminded of it. I even blocked out the name of the town that the torment took place out of mind and vowed never to return there again once I left for college. I try to focus on my present and future.