overseas relationship

[AchtungBaby80]

Originally posted by decadence
I think it will be hard.

Oh, I know it will be hard. Be prepared to be lonely. Last year I was faced with a similar dilemma when my boyfriend of 2 years moved back to Britain...he was supposed to stay here, but you know Irish mothers can be very persuasive. So back he went, and I entertained the idea of moving there for a while. I had my immigration papers all filled out and everything, but at the last minute I decided I couldn't do it. If you really like this guy, by all means, keep talking to him, but be warned, it really is a pain in the butt and I set myself up for a lot of heartache so...if you're not prepared to go down that road it's best you take care of things now.

[BobbyTheDon]

don't do it. i date a chick once and she moved to argentina. broke my f'in heart.

DONT DO IT!

[cashmoney]

I dunno where this fits in, but I say forget something serious and just keep in touch. I still talk to my swedish and german girls all the time...all of them. Its not on that "we're in love and will be married one day" level.....but if something pans out it pans out. Right now I'm sick as fuck and I just got a package in the mail from one of the swedish girls to make me feel better, its full of all kinds of stuff. I think with my situation the girl/s know, as I have explained to them, that i got too much shit going on in my life right now and things I have to deal with to where I just need to get somethings in line before/if anything could happen. And thats not to mention a GF/BF factor. Odds are, you're gonna come back here and find some guy to chill with. But deep down you're still going to have feelings for this person. Just stay in contact with him. Call him everynow and then, send emails, write letters..whatever. Trust me, its the best way to have it until you two can see each other again.

[Xylochick216]

I'd say it's not worth it if you haven't had a relationship already. I spent 6 months abroad and had a boyfriend of 5 1/2 years when I went. We talked twice a week on the phone. We made it work, but it was not easy. If you haven't had a relationship with him already, you won't be satisfied with just a phone/email relationship. Just have fun while you can and remain friends.

[angelic1]

it will be expensive as well.. not that that might not matter to you, but hell when you get that phone bill back it wont be pretty if you like to talk as much as me.. plus plane tickets arent cheap there..

my boyfriend went to europe for a while and it was hard not being able to talk that much, see him and stuff, but it was nice to go visit..

i would say since its just starting.. just be friends.. but hey i have no clue about what you think or the whole situation..

[AlethiaSi]

ok- i just got a picture of me and trevor- so i thought i would post it and give a little update:

ok- well scratch that b/c tripod is bein nasty- so i guess if you're interested- go to http://nusigmachi.tripod.com/mycrazylife/ and its the first picture under LONDON (the web site is also in my sig)

anyway- we aren't together- but we text message and call each other all the time- we email all the time too- he's coming to visit me in october yay!

[winneythepooh7]

hey you I know where you are coming from and I say think long and hard about this decision. It is going to be YOU making huge sacrifices to "stay" with him. also, your relationship stays in the "honeymoon" stage for the majority of the time so you guys may or may not be allowed the chance to really get to know each other. you may get focused too much on the "romantic" side of the relationship and "what a great story this would be if it does work out". then if it ends up crashing and burning you focus on all of THAT stuff and not the meat and potatoes of the relationship that was missing all along. we tend to overlook a lot of things when we are in a long distant relationship, and tolerate a lot of things we probably wouldn't if that person was with us all along. sorry to sound so pessimistic but i went through a very similar situation in my very recent past. i've learned A LOT from the situation and have grown tremendously from it, but can honestly say the main reason i got hurt was because i got all caught up in the romantic side of the long-distant part of the relationship. i felt that since we made it through being apart, that we should have been able to make it through some other things but that just wasn't so. sometimes people are just TOOOOOO different and being away from each other so much only prolongs you from learning these things about each other. i am not saying that it can't work in your particular situation, and personally, i still believe in fate and destiny as well and if two people are meant to be together, it will happen no matter what the odds are. i still think that while you are young you should have fun and not put all of your eggs in one basket. Lastly, as wonderful as he seems to you now, you never really will know what is going on on the other side of the pond. Go out and have fun and i am sure if you are not looking someone wonderful will come your way. in the meantime i think it is fine to keep in contact with him but realize there is also a chance you are setting yourself up for major heartache

[swissmiss04]

Originally posted by AlethiaSi
ok- i just got a picture of me and trevor- so i thought i would post it and give a little update:

ok- well scratch that b/c tripod is bein nasty- so i guess if you're interested- go to http://nusigmachi.tripod.com/mycrazylife/ and its the first picture under LONDON (the web site is also in my sig)

anyway- we aren't together- but we text message and call each other all the time- we email all the time too- he's coming to visit me in october yay!

He's cute but....WHO is the guy next to him? The red head. Wow. Cutie patootie

[sairose]

Keep in mind that if you decide to date, this is going to be VERY hard. And You will get to see him very little.

HOWEVER...

I'm a firm believer in following your heart. And if you truly care about him and are willing to put forth the effort, than do so. And if it doesn't work out, you've still got a friend, and so you can't lose either way.

Good luck!