overseas relationship
 

ok- so i haven't been on gc that much due to the fact that i've met a guy- a wonderful- sweet- loving- caring... british guy and damn gorgeous too- and... i'm leaving to go back to the states this saturday... he's visiting me in the fall... but still i don't want to leave him :( and things have been so fantastic.... what do you guys think about overseas relationships??? we're definately going to keep talkign and all... and i'm not interested in anyone else... or any other guys at all for that matter.... sigh :(

Re: overseas relationship
 

Personally, I think you need to make up your damn mind about things.

Do things for yourself for a change, you confide in GC too much when none of these people know what is best for you.

actually i was asking what people thought about overseas relationships- not if they thought I should be in one... big difference

They don't work and are a waste of time, unless you've known the guy for years.

Exactly my point. You are asking people their opinions that have been formed from their personal lives. It may have no bearing on you at all. Just because someone had a bad experience doesn't mean you will or because someone has had a great experience it doesn't mean you will either.

And it's not a big difference because if you take what people say on GC to heart, it's going to be implicated in your decision with this young gent.

Don't worry about it. Blaine always come on GC asking for advice on tossing salads. I don't understand why because most of us can't answer those damn questions.

-Rudey
--O'Doyle rules!

hahaha thanks :p

A tossed salad a day keeps the doctor away, right?

Or was it two? I always forget...

Ask Oprah. That whore is an expert.

-Rudey

Well . . its a lot of pain.

One of my classmates is involved w/ a guy in Australia now. I think there's around a 17 hour time difference. Alledgedly she's moving there next spring and they're getting married (my theory is she's so weird no one here will have her). They talk on the phone every now and then and keep things going via email or IM conversations. I personally don't find that to be healthy or a "real"relationship. There's very little chance for conflict to erupt and they haven't been facing issues that all couples should face before taking serious steps.
Your situtation is slightly different. I really can't tell you anything. Believe it or not you know better than we do. It's a lot of pain. Some loneliness. Maybe frustration. Do you trust him? Do you trust yourself to be faithful? 4000 miles or not, it's still a commitment. If you think you can stand it, more power to you. But it's not easy.

I think it will be hard.

Such relationships very often [painfully] peter out.

However, for some people they do work out very well for them.

Just go for it right now. You just met him so you are still probably in that infatuated stage. It would be painfail to actually break up with him.

So tell him and yourself that it will work out and you will maintain a long distance relationship.

Then go home and see how you feel as the months go by. You don't have to make any earth shattering decision now. Just make sure you lie your life normally when you go home.

Long distance is VERY hard, especially with such a time difference... but just because it doesn't work out for the majority, it doesn't mean it can't for you! Give it a chance if you really are into this guy...

Um, no.

It's probably best to see this as a "fun thing," if things come out well, they do, but if not...