Stupid Me!!!!

[wishinhopin]

Ooooh girly I've been there. Well not quite there but I feel you. Consider yourself previously dickmatized and start scoping out cute- and worthwhile boys- and if all else fails do like Bridget Jones and choose vodka and Chaka Kahn. Or Bacardi and that ladies response to the "you dont mean shit now" song. God I am so behind I don't even know the name of that song but it cracks me up. So yes, you're moving up and on because honestly no matter what race you are, now you know you will never become a white trash wife being married during a conjugal visit. That would be just sad and I know that NO self respecting sorority girl, and especially not a lovely Theta woman, would do such a thing!

[James]

You can catch a felony for smoking pot. You can catch a felony for telling someone you think someone else can get them pot . . . just becasu you have a felony doesn't make you terrible.

Because of the ways are laws are structured there are a lot of men today with felonies that never hurt anyone.

[wishinhopin]

While having the stigma of a felony conviction is certainly not going to impress any of the woman that have posted here, I don't think this guy's main mark against him was that. Personally I find the blatant and shameless cheating to be the most offensive. Throw "catching a felony" on top of that, and you've got nobody's definition of a winner. That being said, I thank James for doing the public service of making sure no one discriminates against convicted felons without proper understanding of what exact felony they caught.

[preciousjeni]

Originally posted by James
You can catch a felony for smoking pot. You can catch a felony for telling someone you think someone else can get them pot . . . just becasu you have a felony doesn't make you terrible.

Because of the ways are laws are structured there are a lot of men today with felonies that never hurt anyone.

I was too ashamed to mention the rest of the charges though. He has pending charges for possession and auto theft. But I kept saying to myself that they were PENDING and that maybe it was just mistaken identity. WOOWEEEE!! I'm an idiot sometimes!!!

Besides he is verbally (and occasionally physically) abusive which is yet another reason he was able to hold onto me. I know I succumbed to the "beaten wife syndrome." He knocked down my confidence with regard to men, so he was able to weasel back into my life time and time again!!!

[wishinhopin]

He is shit. You are not. I'm proud of for moving on. It doesn't matter how long it took, what's important is that you did what was best for you. If it would cheer you up, send me a pm detailing every crappy thing about him and I'll write the most disparaging, disgusted, how dare you be an asshole to this sweet girl hate letter to him that you can read whenever you're doubting yourself. Or just be over it and move on, either way. I don't know how you got your line name but something tells me you can perservere (sp?)girl, so go on with your poursistance! (pronounced persistance correct )

[preciousjeni]

Originally posted by wishinhopin
He is shit. You are not. I'm proud of for moving on. It doesn't matter how long it took, what's important is that you did what was best for you. If it would cheer you up, send me a pm detailing every crappy thing about him and I'll write the most disparaging, disgusted, how dare you be an asshole to this sweet girl hate letter to him that you can read whenever you're doubting yourself. Or just be over it and move on, either way. I don't know how you got your line name but something tells me you can perservere (sp?)girl, so go on with your poursistance! (pronounced persistance correct )

Thank you! LOL! You are one fiesty lady! I read somewhere recently on GreekChat that people swear on their letters to show their sincerity. I mentioned that to my friend...well, she turned around and said, "Swear on your letters that you won't talk to him again." I told her he's probably going to call me to which she said, "Then say: I don't want to talk to you again. Lose my number and don't try to contact me in any way."

So, I swore on my letters...NO MORE of Phil, PYT, Big P - whatever you want to call him. If you live in the Athens, GA area BEWARE. He's a local rapper and does a lot of shows at Insomnia. Anyone want his full name?? LOL!

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by kddani
the situation sucks, but honestly

WHAT WERE YOU DOING WITH HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE???????????

This is more than a "what did you ever see in him" kind of question. Seriously, what the hell did he EVER have to offer you?

Be glad. Good riddance to bad rubish.

sorta my sentiments exactly. . . you a good one because you put up with too much bullisht from him. He played you for a fool on several levels and you allowed him to do so.

No job.
no license
no car
no diploma
no ged
a record



shiiiiiiiiii i got too much going for myself to be with someone like that.

[James]

Actually it does matter how long it takes you to move on lol . . there is a staute of limitations on complaining about someone else's inadequacies.

Sorry ladies but its true.

ITs just anti-climactic after a while, even if you do leave

Originally posted by wishinhopin


It doesn't matter how long it took, what's important is that you did what was best for you.

[UKDaisy]

Originally posted by preciousjeni
Warning: Long whiny message ahead...

Ok, I need some GC love here!! I just did something really stupid. I recently "separated" (didn't break up) from my boyfriend of three years for some sheisty stuff he was doing.

Anyway, after I told him I needed some space, he left me alone for a little while. Then, he got back in touch with me and poured his heart out, saying how sorry he was and how he can't stand being without me.

So, me and my stupid self started talking to him over the phone and he and I came to the decision that we would come out of separation and be completely together.

Various odd things have been going on since then, culminating in what happened this evening. He called me at midnight and said he needed me to pick him up from his brother's house (no, he doesn't have a car OR a driver's license...on the topic of what he doesn't have...let's see...no job, no money, no high school diploma or GED...etc).

I foolishly agreed because he seemed really upset. Well, I found out why that was!! He had just had a fight with his GIRLFRIEND. Wait, I thought that was me?? Well, it turns out that since he got out of prison (oh, I forgot to mention that part!) last December, AND while he was living with me, he was developing a relationship with a girl who lives next door to his brother. He would go to "his brother's house" every weekend, religiously. I thought nothing of it at the time, but now he confessed that it was to see this girl. Remember that he and I had/have been together for THREE YEARS. So, I'm confronted by this girl who tells me that they had a huge fight and she found out that he had just called me to pick him up.

So, I go INTO HER HOUSE and we're all three sitting there. She's fussing at him and I'm just staring at him completely bewildered. Then I basically threw up my hands and let him know that I'd had enough. I went to leave and he followed me to talk. He got in my car and let me know that he was "in love" with this girl that he'd known for TWO MONTHS but that he loved me more. I said he had to choose right then (though I wasn't going to be with him no matter what he said.)

Then, he got out of my car and went to patch things up with the OTHER GIRL!!!!!! So, his sister-in-law was standing in the door and broke it down for me. She called him "the playa of the year" and said that he was definitely in a relationship with this other girl and he'd been saying that he'd been broken up with me for a while. UNTRUE!!! I left the scene and now I'm really hurt, angry and messed up. Oh, one more thing, the other girl kept crying and saying to me, "He keeps calling me YOUR NAME!!! What's going on between you two??" So, I let her know that we've been in a relationship for three years. One last thing, tonight, he also admitted to cheating on me even BEFORE this incident! So, I'M THROUGH WITH HIS SHADY AZZ!!!!

By the way (again), this girl has two kids, is uneducated and lives in a sh**hole of a place. And here I am, going into grad school with my life together...what is his issue????

(That's not even the whole story, but this is getting waaay too long.)

Pardon my rant!!! It's probably not altogether appropriate to air out my dirty laundry here, but HEY, I'm sure you all have some great advice for me. Plus, I'd love to hear everyone bash this evil, evil man!!!!!

ETA: I forgot the best part! The girl KNEW that he was with me when they first started "dating" or sleeping together or whatever they were doing.

OMG you sound like me recounting some of my ex's!!! But you can do better and you will do better! What a jerk...be thankful you're out of his life now before it got worse...

[wishinhopin]

In many cases you're right James...but most of us have the tact not to mention such a possibility right when someone has made what appears to be such a positive step in the right direction...aside from the fact that obviously she's not feeling 100% ok about it, but hey, let's make sure we have a moral lesson from James in there anyway. Besides, at this point in time, it really doesn't matter how long it took her personally- and that's what I was refering to. Sorry to be bitchy, but I really think that there's a time and a place for being a smart ass, and I don't see how this was an appropriate time at all.

Originally posted by James
Actually it does matter how long it takes you to move on lol . . there is a staute of limitations on complaining about someone else's inadequacies.

Sorry ladies but its true.

ITs just anti-climactic after a while, even if you do leave

[James]

I wasn't intending to be a smart ass. I was in deadly earnest.

Originally posted by wishinhopin
In many cases you're right James...but most of us have the tact not to mention such a possibility right when someone has made what appears to be such a positive step in the right direction...aside from the fact that obviously she's not feeling 100% ok about it, but hey, let's make sure we have a moral lesson from James in there anyway. Besides, at this point in time, it really doesn't matter how long it took her personally- and that's what I was refering to. Sorry to be bitchy, but I really think that there's a time and a place for being a smart ass, and I don't see how this was an appropriate time at all.

[wishinhopin]

I guess it just depends on how you interpret a thread. To me, I saw what she wrote and felt that I would write positive, true, nice things...the sort of things I would want and need to hear after going through such an experience. I'm not saying anyone should be coddled after making mistakes, but it's not like she posted saying "hey, why don't you tell me stuff I did wrong!". I mean right in the beginning she says she needs some love, so presumably most people would respect that it's her thread and comment accordingly. To me, it seems tacky to post constructive criticism- regardless of whether it is personally directed at anyone or not- under such circumstances. But I doubt that you (James) were trying to be rude, and I'm sure that many people feel it is perfectly ok to offer up such thoughts in this context. It is entirely possible that I'm projecting my sensitive nature onto others. So enough thread highjacking, points made.

[James]

No I think you intepreted the thread correctly, she was seeking comfort and validation. I just didn't feel compelled to give her any more than she had been given by everyone else.

Originally posted by wishinhopin
I guess it just depends on how you interpret a thread. To me, I saw what she wrote and felt that I would write positive, true, nice things...the sort of things I would want and need to hear after going through such an experience. I'm not saying anyone should be coddled after making mistakes, but it's not like she posted saying "hey, why don't you tell me stuff I did wrong!". I mean right in the beginning she says she needs some love, so presumably most people would respect that it's her thread and comment accordingly. To me, it seems tacky to post constructive criticism- regardless of whether it is personally directed at anyone or not- under such circumstances. But I doubt that you (James) were trying to be rude, and I'm sure that many people feel it is perfectly ok to offer up such thoughts in this context. It is entirely possible that I'm projecting my sensitive nature onto others. So enough thread highjacking, points made.