WHATS UP WITH AUXILIARY GROUPS?

[prettygyrl]

To get to your site Church lady do I just go to Black Planet.com? Is it under the name of church lady? I was just wondering about the auxiliary groups. i hope you did not take my question negatively. i just never really knew much about them.

[Wynna]

Why is there someone out there who must always see the negative in someone's statement? She was simply defending her role in an auxiliary group. She realized that many people on this board may not know all that goes along with being a member of an auxiliary group (many people obviously have the wrong impression of members of these groups). She wanted to inform everyone that her group was involved in volunteer and community service activities as well, so we should not think negatively about her organization.

Sorry, Church Lady for responding on this topic, but I see so much of this on this board and I had to say something.

Originally posted by Uh-huh:
I did it all with ONE letter on my chest.


So are you saying that there is something wrong with those of us who wear THREE letters on our chests? If not, then why did you end your post with this statement?

[blu_theatrics]

Church lady, I ama amember of Black planet and would like to stop by your page, what is your handle on Blackplanet.

Pretty girl i ddon't know if you are a member or not of Blackplanet, but I think that if you are not, you would really enjoy it. I have seen many of your posts and though we do disagree sometimes, We agree a lot of times too. On BlackPlanet there are an abundance of BGLO members and there are also very interesting message boards there too. If you would like to join just go to http://www.blackplanet.com

im just a little confused about the comment made by selacious in her/his reply that said pledging was "banned" in 1990... what exactly are you talking about because i have never heard of such a ban. also, blog's are not the only ones that had auxiliary groups.... i know for a fact that the sigma chi's on my campus had a group in the 1980s that was called the little sisters of sigma chi that actually pledged and had pledging activities in order to get in. some of the founding sisters of my chapter were once in this group.

i meant bglo not blog in my last reply... sorry

[ZetaAce]

Theta Phi Alpha- She is only refferring to the NPHC groups. They were officially banned back in 1990. (I don't know if/when they were banned in the other groups.)

ZetaAce

[Monique]

Hey . i just want to respond a lil bit. Even though I am MePhiMe, I was never able to understand why women just didn't pledge if they wanted to be apart of something? On blackplanet the Kappa sweethearts have soooo many sites on there its funny. And they be dead serious. They have there line name, line sistas, chapter and they wear nalia. whats the point? I have yet to find out. If u wanted to become there sister why not join the sorority ..Aka/Alpha,Delta/Omega etc..I just don't get it.Can someone help me to understand..
ps My name on bp is MsC-Dlite so all blackplanet users hit me up and i'll do the same.

[AlphaChiGirl]

<<Just because we chose to join an auxillary organization dosen't make us any less of strong, beautiful, black women.>>
--I agree with this! There seems to be so much disrespect for auxilary organizations, without the realization that in many cases, they do serve an actual purpose. For example, what about a woman, who didn't go to college, but has a husband who's in a fraternity, and she and other women in her situation want to help out with community service projects on behalf of their husbands' fraternities? I think in cases such as these, there's nothing wrong with auxilary organizations. There's no reason to disrespect someone based on circumstances. Oh, and some women have perfectly viable reasons for not joining a sorority...the reasons don't have to be "bad".

[This message has been edited by AlphaChiGirl (edited July 03, 2000).]

[ZetaAce]

Originally posted by Monique:
If u wanted to become there sister why not join the sorority ..Aka/Alpha,Delta/Omega etc..I just don't get it.Can someone help me to understand..

Just my opinion here-

A woman should never, ever join an organization because she wants to be the 'soror' of a male frat. She should join a sorority based on the merits of the organization not so she can 'be down with' the frat. If a woman told me that she wanted to be a Zeta because she want to be the Sigma's soror, you better believe she is getting a no vote from me!

ZetaAce

[Shelacious]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by AlphaChiGirl:
There seems to be so much disrespect for auxilary organizations, without the realization that in many cases, they do serve an actual purpose. For example, what about a woman, who didn't go to college, but has a husband who's in a fraternity, and she and other women in her situation want to help out with community service projects on behalf of their husbands' fraternities?

((smile)). It certainly was not my intent to sound like I was disrespecting auxliaries. I got the impression the question was about collegiate auxiliaries within the NPHC, which are now illegal, and have been since 1990 in that particular form. And in reviewing the thread, I didn't see anyone actually disrespect these groups or the women who've joined (since all sororities have former auxilary members within them, it would be a bit hypocrtical to condem the women who've joined auxilaries, eh)? All I've seen are folks' personal opinions about the groups as a whole today. In fact, this thread was tame compared to many thread's I've seen on this topic in the past!

As I'd pointed out, there ARE legally sanctioned auxilaries within Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, and I'm sure most other GLOs, that help spouses and others become involved in the service of said organziation. Zeta's adult auxilaries are Zeta Amicae and Zeta Male Network. It sounds like the Women of Omega Social Service Organziation is another. This, though is a different issue than if a woman joined "Que Pearls" or a man "Zeta Knights" in Y2K, I think, thus my opinion on the topic. Hope this clarifies my post.

[blu_theatrics]

Originally posted by AlphaChiGirl:
For example, what about a woman, who didn't go to college, but has a husband who's in a fraternity, and she and other women in her situation want to help out with community service projects on behalf of their husbands' fraternities? I think in cases such as these, there's nothing wrong with auxilary organizations.

I'm uneducated here, so someone help me out?

Do you have to be a college student to be in an auxillary group? I thought you did, but maybe I'm wrong.

Help?

[DELTABRAT]

blu_theatrics:

I think the original post was indeed speaking about college auxilliary groups. Like sorority and fraternity affiliated ones (banned) and you usually do have to be in college. Someone added a post about other types of auxilliary groups that are actually sanctioned. Her/his example was about a woman who doesn't go to coolege but has a husband in a frat and joins the auxilliary of that group. That's different.

I have heard of such groups and they do serve a great purpose (not that the college affiliated ones don't). I have always been too headstrong to join a group based on the affiliation of my significant other. For example, there is a woman who is trying to start a Western chapter of the "Wives of Morehouse Men Auxilliary" (not the actual name). Then again her husband is the President of this regions Morehoue Alumni Association so maybe she feels like she needs to do that. But why? If they raise funds, that's one thing. But they intend to hold meetings when the husbands do, in a different room of the house. Why? I just can't see me doing that. My boyfriend said that if I were to become the wife of a Morehouse man I would be "dying" to join the "club." I looked at him like he was crazy

I wonder what he meant by that anyways...hmmm

I just have to respond after reading all these responses on the purpose of being in a auxilliary group. Please don't take this in a offensive way but I just had to add my opinion.

I decided to be a Kappa Sweetheart when I was a sophomore in college. It wasn't a matter of trying to be a "soror" to a fraternity or trying to clean up after any of the men of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc. And I REFUSE to BELIEVE that any of my other Diamond sisters chose to join for that purpose. I get SOOOOO TIRED of people thinking that people who join auxilliary groups do so because they are weak minded or not strong enough to join a "real sorority". If I wanted to join a sorority, I would've done so. I am a strong black woman, and I don't search for a group to make me or define who I am. I found a group of women who had similar interest as me and who were down to earth and I chose to become a part of their organization. I can join any organization that I wish to join. Just because it is not "recognized" as a part of the NPHC...I DON'T CARE!! I don't have to be recognized by ANYONE in order to serve the community. Okay, so we are not recognized by the NPHC - we will still continue to exist. As a matter of fact, some schools are changing the names of the organization so they are not automatically affiliated with Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc. I mean, sometimes the attitudes of people are "if you don't have these 3 letters on your chest, you CAN'T be incorporated, you can't exist, why would you even want to JOIN an organization with just ONE LETTER..." At the time, it was what I wanted for myself and I don't regret any of it.

And not ONCE, EVER during my process of becoming a Kappa Diamond did I subject myself to behavior that was not indicative of a lady. I DID NOT clean up after ANY member of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc...I DID NOT run errands and do things that I thought I should not do...basically, I don't take any sh*t, from anyone, Greek or otherwise...

...now on another, lighter note, I do respect all that Greek organizations stand for and do. My intentions when choosing an auxialiary group was not to step on the toes of ANY member of a 3 lettered greek organization. Actually, that was the last thing on my mind. A matter of fact, I do want to join a sorority in the future. And I feel that the experience I've had in being in an auxiallary organization has helped me understand what being in a organization is all about. It takes a lot of time, effort, planning and heart. So much props to 3 lettered organizations and just please try to understand why people become sweethearts. It's not to try to be greek, at least not for me.

[BlueReign]

I have read all of the above posts and just have to add my 22 cents. I became an Alpha Sweetheart a long time ago. I did it because I was just young and trying to be cute and fit in with the black greeks on campus at that time. I was also honored that they would ask me to do this. I was not pledged and didn't do anything degrading but I was there for them because the brothers on line at that time were my friends before they pledged and I wanted to help them.
I was told by another Alpha sweet at Howard that the Alpha Angels do pledge and that was a step towards getting into a sorority. I see nothing wrong with being in an auxiliary group. When I meet Alpha men now they tell me I am a sweetheart for life even though I am now very busy with my sorority. I think these organizations are good and positive because they do help each other. I just don't think anyone should be "pledged" in order to become a member. So anyone who reads this and is being pledged or intends to be -- I don't think they should do it!! JUST MY OPINION.

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[supafly]

Hey everybody,
I have been on several sites and this issue somehow always manages to come up. I was a member of an auxillary group and am now a member of a BGLO and my experiences taught me that, "The way that you carry yourself, is the way you will be treated."

Auxillary groups were basically in existence for fun and fellowship. Since most people can't join a sorority or fraternity when they are freshmen in college, some choose to join auxillary groups. It doesn't take the place of a sorority or fraternity, but it's done or supposed to be done all in fun.

I think that some of us need to lighten up. Meaning, it's just a group, nothing to feel threatened by and nothing to get ****y about.

In no way do intend to offend anyone by this post, I suppose I just needed to vent a little.

Supafly



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