why? (wedding question) - Page 2

#16 12-22-2003, 11:01 AM

I'm taking the easy way out...

all of my "bridesmaids" are men

3 guys on his side
3 guys on mine

not a bridesmaid's dress in sight

kddani · #17 12-22-2003, 11:04 AM

I'm lucky in that I pretty much got to pick out the bridesmaid dresses for one of my little's wedding (which isn't until March 2005...... long time away). She knew the color she wanted, and I was the first bridesmaid to go, and we found an awesome dress that we both loved and i'd definately wear again. No poufiness, no butt bows. Fairly simple, very cute dress. So i'm happy

Kevin · #18 12-22-2003, 11:12 AM

Here's another question about bridesmaids dresses?

Why so often in pastel colors? No one looks good in pastel colors.

FeeFee · #19 12-22-2003, 11:29 AM

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Originally posted by ktsnake
Here's another question about bridesmaids dresses?

Why so often in pastel colors? No one looks good in pastel colors.

I guess b/c most weddings take place between the Spring and Summer months. Dark colors are mostly used for Fall and Winter weddings.

If the right shade is picked, people can look good in pastel colors.

dzrose93 · #20 12-22-2003, 11:37 AM

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Originally posted by smiley21
something that i have never understood is why do the majority of brides pick ugly dresses for their bridesmaids? is it a low and desparate attempt to make sure that you are the best looking woman at your wedding?

Every bride wants to be the best looking woman at her wedding.

However, I don't think that they all choose ugly bridesmaids' dresses to accomplish this. (I'm sure that some do, but not the majority.) I've been in several weddings over the years and was pleased with all but 2 of the dresses I've worn.

When I got married this year, I got all of my bridesmaids together for a shopping trip. I picked the color -- one that I thought would complement each girl's hair and skin tone -- and the girls picked their dress styles. They looked beautiful on my wedding day, and I was so proud to have them by my side!

ETA: I got married in October, so there were no pastel colors in sight!

AOIIsilver · #21 12-22-2003, 01:20 PM

All of my bridesmaid dresses had butt bows and my dress did, too! The dresses were semi-bright pink and teal! But, they only paid $15 for them, and the dresses could be maid into really nice pillows!
Silver

rainbowbrightCS · #22 12-22-2003, 01:29 PM

I guess I understand wanting the bride to be the most beautifull women there, but think about the pictures. Would it be a good (or even nice picture) if the BM looked ugly? I don't think so.

As some one said, when I get married I will make my BM go to Davids bridal and pick there dress in said color. I would have to approve, but other wise they can decide on cut and what not.

Christia

Jill1228 · #23 12-22-2003, 01:57 PM

I gave my bridesmaids the option of what gown they could get. The colors was navy and they looked on the Davids Bridal site and chose the one they wanted. I paid for their gowns. No butt bows for any of us and we looked pretty spiffy

James · #24 12-22-2003, 02:10 PM

Woah lass . . you getting married soon? Picking out dresses and didn't tell us?

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Originally posted by 33girl
I haven't been super nuts about my maid dresses, but there were no butt-bows, and they were cheap.

James · #25 12-22-2003, 02:13 PM

Isn't the bride supposd to pay for her maids' dresses? theya re wearing the dresses for her.

That was nice of you Jill

ISUKappa · #26 12-22-2003, 02:29 PM

It's really up to the individual bride, James. Some do, some don't. But when the average cost of weddings these days is $25K and up, some may not want to. There are some absolutely gorgeous dresses out there that can definitely be worn again, but they are often in the $200-500 range.

With the exception of my oldest sister's first wedding, I thought all the bridesmaids dresses I wore were okay. (Aforementioned sister was married in 1994 and we wore horrible pastel floral-print dresses with poufy sleeves, scalloped hems and butt bows. Yak! Her second wedding was better: short-sleeved, floor-length, scoop-neck in butter yellow.)

And anymore, there are no "rules" as to what colors should be worn in what season. My other sister was married in July and we wore bright red dresses. I was just married this past September, and my girls wore a deeper red color. Please don't fault the bride in her personal taste (or seemingly lack thereof), wedding planning is stressful enough as it is!

Munchkin03 · #27 12-22-2003, 02:33 PM

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Originally posted by Ginger
I'm taking the easy way out...

all of my "bridesmaids" are men
3 guys on his side
3 guys on mine

not a bridesmaid's dress in sight

I like this. I like this a lot.

Jill1228 · #28 12-22-2003, 02:37 PM

The reason I paid for my bridesmaid dresses:
We had a destination wedding (Las Vegas). So if they had to pay for their airfare (from Toronto, Charlotte, and Baltimore) the least I could do was pay for their dresses. My husband paid for the tuxes for the fellas

polarpi · #29 12-22-2003, 02:55 PM

I've really lucked out (so far) about the bridesmaid dresses. I've stood up in one friend's wedding, and she chose a very flattering hunter green dress (that other bridesmaids helped pick out the style) that I have just taken in for tailoring so I can wear it to go to a party or whatever (whenever that may be

). I have another friend getting married this next September and I'm a bridesmaid, so hopefully it'll be a flattering style and something I can wear over again. I've paid for my bridesmaid dress in the first wedding, and I'm sure I will be again for this next wedding. Pastels don't look (too) bad on me, and really, it is the bride's day, so if I can't wear the dress again after the wedding, maybe I'll make it into a blanket or something else crafty

dzrose93 · #30 12-22-2003, 04:18 PM

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Originally posted by James
Isn't the bride supposd to pay for her maids' dresses? theya re wearing the dresses for her.

It's not mandatory that the bride pay for her maids' dresses. There are so many other expenses that come with a wedding that it is tough for some brides to handle bridesmaids' dresses on top of everything else. Some brides choose to buy the dresses as their thank you gift for being part of the wedding party. Others do other types of thank you gifts -- maybe by purchasing the girls' shoes or jewelry, paying for their wedding day hair and makeup, or treating them to a manicure.

I let my girls pick the dresses they liked. That way, they were able to stay within their own budgets. We got the dresses at David's Bridal, and they ran between $115 and $130. (My matron of honor chose a slightly more expensive style.)

As a thank you, I bought their jewelry, paid for their hotel rooms, and gave them a gift basket full of things that they like (wine, picture frames, bath & body items, etc).