Question for guys regarding virginity - Page 2

absolutuscchick · #16 12-08-2003, 10:24 PM

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Originally posted by Taualumna
Side note: I know a girl who is 23 and has never, ever, ever kissed anyone (other than a peck on the cheek, mostly by relatives). She tells me that she does not intend to, ever.

How? Is she asexual? Not trying to be offensive but WOW!!

Taualumna · #17 12-08-2003, 10:38 PM

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Originally posted by absolutuscchick
How? Is she asexual? Not trying to be offensive but WOW!!

I think she was lying when she said that. She seems to have her crushes.

swissmiss04 · #18 12-09-2003, 12:17 AM

I had a classmate who was super super religious and swore she'd never kiss a guy to whom she wasn't married. That's cool. But...she wore the most skanky clothes, teased around and was judgmental of people who didn't share her perspective. It really pissed me off. But I have utmost respect for people who can refrain. Especially in a very sexually-charged society.

ThetaPrincess24 · #19 12-09-2003, 12:23 AM

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Originally posted by AGDGirl
I think its so great when a girl or boy saves themselves. My two friends dated for 3 years and never kissed(they got married last week and that was the first) How sweet =)

Last year........or a few years back I guess it was really...i was watching A wedding Story. A couple was on there, she was still a virgin, he was not, he was one of those born again christians. Anyways they wanted to keep the relationship completely pure and had their first kiss at their wedding..........and folks........as a viewer seeing it........IT SUCKED!! You could tell by the look on her face she didnt like it either! I wonder how the wedding night went if it sucked as bad as the kiss. I couldnt do that.....may sound a bit sweet but......not for me.

#20 12-09-2003, 12:25 PM

My roommate my sophomore year of college was one of those that never kissed until she married. She married her boyfriend of seven years after college, and they had their first kiss on their wedding day. They were VERY religious.

At the time I thought it was strange, but I guess as I'm getting older I don't find it so weird. Sexual compatability is important, but intimacy is much MORE important. If you can have intimacy without sex, more power to you. I think many of you will find as you get older that sex really isn't that huge a part of life anymore, and you will find that you're intimate with your partner via a brush of the hand, or a kiss good morning. Perhaps some of these people realize that a little earlier than the majority of us

cashmoney · #21 12-09-2003, 01:06 PM

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Originally posted by kafromTN
I personally might feel bad "corrupting" her...but there's nothing wrong with her not having gone that far. I mean it wouldn't keep me away if otherwise I liked the girl.

-Mark

Its kind of fun being that guy that breaks a girl in. You can teach them all sorts of stuff. Before you know it, you'll have a sex crazed slut whos STD free......it doesn't get much better than that.

Buttonz · #22 12-09-2003, 01:27 PM

My friend and I were talkign about this the other day. I am more religous then her, yet she told me the only thing she wants to do before marrige is kiss. However she can't udnrstand why the only guys she can get are religous. Weird

absolutuscchick · #23 12-09-2003, 04:57 PM

This whole never kissing thing is REALLY taking me by surprise!! To tell the truth, I had only heard of one instance of this in an extremely orthodox (jewish) couple; the brother of one of my friends. I am surprised how many people have interacted with people with this belief. While I think it's AMAZING that anyone can have that much self-control, I know its not for me!

Also, on the whole waiting for marriage thing, while I would love to wait to that point, what happens if you get married, and the guy ummmm how do I say this nicely......well the whole Charlotte and Trey thing on Sex and the City....After seeing that, I knew I wasn't going to wait until marriage!!

Taualumna · #24 12-09-2003, 05:07 PM

Another question about waiting until marriage: What if you're still single at say, age 40? Wouldn't it be weird to be a 40 year old virgin? I know that I wouldn't be able to wait THAT LONG!

smiley21 · #25 12-09-2003, 07:21 PM

i think my sister is going to be that girl that isnt going to kiss a guy until she gets married. she is 20 and has never been with a guy. i am happy that she is taking her time, but sometimes i wonder if she will ever find someone. cause i have never heard her talk about wanting to date someone. she thinks that i am weird cause i have been out with three guys. yeah, that makes me easy

that number is tiny compared to a lot of girls my age

absolutuscchick · #26 12-09-2003, 07:33 PM

Whoa!! Three guys is alot?? Yea, I feel the same way about my little sister, although she is only 13. She has said repeatedly that she never wants to kiss a boy because "that's gross" I know I didn't feel that way at her age!! Is her behavior normal?

Munchkin03 · #27 12-09-2003, 07:53 PM

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Originally posted by absolutuscchick

Also, on the whole waiting for marriage thing, while I would love to wait to that point, what happens if you get married, and the guy ummmm how do I say this nicely......well the whole Charlotte and Trey thing on Sex and the City....After seeing that, I knew I wasn't going to wait until marriage!!

Or what if your new spouse is just...bad?

I just can't imagine spending my wedding night losing my virginity. I can see holding off for a few weeks before--you'll be so excited to be with eachother that the sex would be awesome. But, sex for the first time then? Your expectations are probably so high that someone would probably uh...finish...before things really began.

smiley21 · #28 12-09-2003, 07:57 PM

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Originally posted by absolutuscchick
Whoa!! Three guys is alot?? Yea, I feel the same way about my little sister, although she is only 13. She has said repeatedly that she never wants to kiss a boy because "that's gross" I know I didn't feel that way at her age!! Is her behavior normal?

at 13? yeah i think that is still normal for girls to think that. as for me, i think my sister feels that way cause i didnt go on my first date until i was almost 19.

Buttonz · #29 12-10-2003, 01:14 AM

I know I am saying that I would like to wait till marrige, but at the same time I can see myself doign it while engaged....but def. not before then at all.

decadence · #30 04-02-2004, 01:14 PM

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originally posted by cashmoney:
Its kind of fun being that guy that breaks a girl in. You can teach them all sorts of stuff. Before you know it, you'll have a sex crazed slut whos STD free......it doesn't get much better than that.

Reluctant virgin becomes sex crazed slut wanting nothing more than orgasms?
But isn't that cashmoney, only something that happens in amateurly written porn stories?