How much do you read into appearances? - Page 2

Sistermadly · #16 08-20-2003, 01:07 AM

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Originally posted by Dionysus
Maybe I should have been more specific.

How much do you read into appearances....personality, values, background, and character wise?

Hmm..that's a different topic altogether. These things aren't immediately apparent when you first see someone. They really only come into play when I want to know more about a person, like whether their beliefs influence their political ideologies, or whether they've done something directly to me that makes me question their character.

SigmaChiCard · #17 08-20-2003, 01:34 AM

no, really it was just to the general topic. it caught me as ironic.

MeLikey · #18 08-20-2003, 02:34 AM

I don't really care about other people's houses or cars... I do admit I'd probably take note of a well dressed guy at the bar rather than a guy in an old t-shirt/sweatshirt... I'd think that the guy who's put together well cares about his appearance. However, clothes aren't always good indicators... one of my guy friends once wore a hooded sweatshirt to the bar and all my friends still thought he's the hottest guy in the world... so they weren't really thinking he didn't care about his appearance because he still had girls fawning over him.

If someone had a nice car, house, and clothes, I don't automatically think they have a snobby personality. Concerning background, I may think that they come from a family who's well off or they themselves have jobs that pay well. Some of my friends are spoiled by their parents and some work a lot for their nice things.

OUlioness01 · #19 08-20-2003, 08:05 AM

you could be shopping anywhere from K Mart to Kohls to Versace, i don't care. i expect people to be dressed appropriately for the occasion. cars don't matter to me at all either, al long as the are in proporition to you height or wieght (there's nothing i dislike more that seeing an unusually large (tall, overwieght, whatever) person getting out from behind the wheel of a 2 door compact car. it just doesn't fit in my eyes.

for example:
church~slacks or a skirt and a nice (flattering as opposed to boob pooping) shirt; guys should wear khaki pants or nice slacks with at least a polo shirt

regular occasions~pants, skirts, jeans, whatever as long as you a$$ isn't haning out and i would prefer that your shirt and bottom connect or at least don't show off more than an inchof your midriff, at least in front of older people (mid30's or beyond), guys try an look like you buy clothes that are at least close your your size (no pants that won't stary up no matter what)

if you're out at a club anything goes as long as you're wearing clothes, you make your own jundgement there. i'm not touching that one

the theatre or a nice restaurant requires a nice dress or skirt, no bra straps hanging out. no denim appreciated.

MoonStar17 · #20 08-20-2003, 10:02 AM

A first impression means alot...but sometimes it takes a deeper look into a person to get a good feel into what kind of person they are.

I personally do not look sooooooooooooooooo much into apperances, but i must admit first impressions on how a person look, carry themselves, how they are put together can say alot for a person.

dunno...just my two pennies

AZpinkkittie · #21 08-20-2003, 10:25 AM

I try not to let someones outward appearance influence my opinion on them, but it can play a part. If someone is dressed inappropriately, I'll notice it, but it won't stop me from talking to them. Same with a car or house. It just makes me a little wary of intstigating the conversation.

On the other hand, I'd be just as hesitant to start a conversation with a girl carrying a LV purse, wearing Manolos, Chanel, and Tiffany, and driving a BMW (especially when they are like, 20 yrs old). I don't doubt that a lot of people work hard for the things they have, and I can respect that, but a lot of the people that have these things that I've experienced got them from their parents credit card. And that's not even the problem I have! It's the fact that everytime I have tried to approach them, I get the "did I just scrape you off my shoe?" look, because I don't have a LV bag or a Tiffany necklace. My parents aren't rich, and neither am I, but that doesn't make me a bad person. And low income isn't catching.

I think what matters is how much personality one can show through all of the stuff we see. If someone is confident and friendly in a sweatsuit and driving a pinto, I would see them in a higher light than someone driving a Benz wearing a designer outfit that won't give you the time of day.