Opinions on para in public

[abaici]

In a greek only setting (undregrad OR grad), I don't see the problem with drinking in 'nalia

In a public setting, I think it's a bit much. AS someone said, why are you wearing 'nalia in the club. Time and place, people.

[AKA4MJ]

Sorors, since so many of us will be in Leadership, what are your thoughts on this subject? I have been thinking about this for sometime now. Especially after attending the bowling party where I ordered a beer and just didn't feel right drinking or holding it in our letters. And since I will be in Vegas, of course sporting para and pink and green, how do you try to avoid this or should you? I know I am going to see Sorors in Casinos, Hotels, etc. gambling and having fun, AND rightfully so!

This is a very good topic, might just have to take this to a broader AKArena.

[Steeltrap]

Originally posted by AKA4MJ
Sorors, since so many of us will be in Leadership, what are your thoughts on this subject? I have been thinking about this for sometime now. Especially after attending the bowling party where I ordered a beer and just didn't feel right drinking or holding it in our letters. And since I will be in Vegas, of course sporting para and pink and green, how do you try to avoid this or should you? I know I am going to see Sorors in Casinos, Hotels, etc. gambling and having fun, AND rightfully so!

This is a very good topic, might just have to take this to a broader AKArena.

Well, Soror, I'm also thinking about this subject because I may feel like having cocktails in a lounge or something like that. I'll probably be clearer after I get my letter and if an official GC gathering is set.

[Conskeeted7]

I just have to comment on a scene I saw a few days ago.

I was out with some friends at a restaurant. There were 2 ladies there who had on nalia for another BGLO. Neither had her hair done and both looked like they were having bad days. I guess the service was not to their liking, and one of the ladies proceeded to get loud with the waitress. The manager approached and the lady began cursing loud enough for almost everyone to hear. The ladies soon left and apparently did not leave the full amount of the bill behind.

Now this incident did not involve drinking, unless they had some beforehand, but they didn't order any at the restaurant. However, this behavior was very unflattering for their organization. When considering whether to wear nalia at certain functions, consider your behavior as well as those who will be with and around you. I wouldn't want to be at a table with someone who is cursing loudly and acting inappropriately while I have on letters. The company I keep speaks about my character, as do the places I attend and activities I participate in.

Just be careful to remember that we represent more than ourselves when we wear our letters. And my mother always told me that you never know who's watching. I just had to share.

[Choo-ChooAKA]

As for drinking: ibid. abaici. I only wear 'nalia at specified Sorority/BGLO or community service functions. This was true even as an undergrad. Since I do confine my 'nalia wearing to AKA or other BGLO functions, it's not an imposition to conduct myself in manner befitting my Sororal affiliation. It's a pleasure.

As for gambling: if the sorority was against it, why would it set so many of its conferences in places like Vegas? Additionally, my chapter is having its retreat in Reno, NV. Why go there except to gamble? I don't gamble, have never gambled, and don't plan to start gambling (and would have chosen a different setting for the retreat), but, to each her own. There are some golden Sorors in my chapter who LOVE to gamble.

[AKA2D '91]

You all know our conferences are held where the host cities can accommodate us.

Drinking with para on is a no-no, regardless of the setting. IMO
I don't remember drinking with my para on as an UG.

Clubs...aw naw...hell no!

Is jewelry (rings/bracelets, necklaces, etc) considered para? Or only jewelry?

That's the only para you will see me with at the conference, unless I bring a jacket. You know for the hotel rooms for the sessions. You know what they say about the tempature setting.

[Choo-ChooAKA]

we are a very large group. Do you have any idea how many people will be attending this conference?

I'm not big on para, either. Even as an undergrad I wore pins, etc, and hardly ever big letters accross my chest or anywhere else on my body. It just wasn't my style.

BTW, check your email. I posted something on the GCLeadership Group thingy and I'm interested in hearing (seeing, reading) your response. (And you too, Steeltrap, if you're out there; as well as everyone else in the group, as a matter of fact).

[PrettyNPearls]

This is a good one. Personally if I have to second guess myself or have doubts about something then I don't follow through. The fact that you have doubts Soror is a sign. Please listen to it. Listen to what your instincts are telling you. If it is saying NO then go with that. With other Sorors their instincts might tell them something differently.

Also Soror, you do not want to feel uncomfortable when you are out trying to enjoy yourself. When I wear "nalia" I wear them with confidence without uncertainty. When I wear my "nalia" I always look my best and that means I feel my best too. No doubts, no conflicts, no concerns. This works for me. Find what works for you and go with that. And if in doubt you know your Sorors are always here

AKA
Spr. 02, #1
TMO

[UpPinkies]

I was told that you are not suppose to drink in your letters. Gambling was never mentioned. As far as clubs go, all I can say is in St. Louis (where I am from) I know during the summer the clubs have greek events and invite all 9 BGLOs and GDIs and I know people who go in pari.

I had meeting this past Friday and after words we went to Applebee and since I ordered a drink I took of in AKA pin and for those who did not order on, kept theres on.

Personally, for me, I won't do it.

[RitaMae1908]

This question has been the topic of some discussion. I was told that that no woman of AKA should drink while wearing her letters! I think that those are wise words to heed but to each is own. As other Sorors have stated you are representing the organization as a whole when in public wearing Nalia. Just be on your best behavior Sorors!! This is just MY opinion.

[SkeeWee14]

Originally Posted by nachural

Hi

my sister is an AKA and last xmas when were where all just chillin' round house i got some wine out so we could sip some

my sis was wearing an AKA t shirt and she turned it inside out. I was like "what's up?" she said "we aren;t suppposed to drink in our letters". My brother who's a Kappa was like "whatever!!!"
I just shrugged my shoulders wishing I had letters to represent! nachural

LOL...that's funny!

[RitaMae1908]

Originally Posted by SkeeWee14

LOL...that's funny!

I've seen it done many times. Quite often Sorors will go out to eat after chapter meeting and if a Soror orders a drink she automatically takes off any Nalia (including jacket, pin, jewelry, etc) before she takes a sip. No one thinks anthing of it.

[Confucius]

Drinking and Pins/Jackets/Hats etc. do not go together.

One thing that I noticed is that the Fraternities can care less about what they have on and drinking. Very interesting.

[sphinxbeauty]

For my sorority, if there is alcohol present at all, we either take off our letters, pins, etc... or turn them inside out. We will not wear letters to any parties or any "pre planned" event where someone might be drinking.

Another sorority at my school will go so far as to put up post-it notes in their house covering ANYTHING with letters on it. The composites/picture frames/anything with letters will be post-it'd before people drink at their house.

I think that is going a little too far, only because I would be too lazy, but it really does show how much people respect their letters when they don't have it around drinking.

[ladygreek]

I'll just say that when we had our national convention in Las Vegas...