Skinny people (Normal girls represent!)

[PM_Mama00]

Originally posted by Jadey28

I am a size 3/4. I eat correctly, I workout regularly, and I know when to have fun. But I am a small girl. I am only 5'2" and I don't have much room to gain weight or else I will look like a ball!

Excuse me. I'm 5'2 and I'm very offended with your ball comment.

Just as some girls can't help being ultra skinny, some girls can't help being overweight... or looking "like a ball".

Ali... sweety I wish I looked like u!

[sugar and spice]

Posts like these frustrate me. She asked for support from other "normal sized" people . . . not for a bunch of skinny people to come back and complain about how people always make fun of them because you're skinny.

I don't see how people can equate the two. I think everybody is aware that slimness is valued over largeness in our culture, and when somebody makes fun of you because you're "too skinny," it's because they're jealous (unless you legitimately ARE unhealthily skinny, in which case they're probably worried about you) . . . it's not derisive like when somebody calls you "too fat." If you'd ever been fat, or even just "not skinny," or even just studied weight issues with any seriousness, you would realize the difference immediately. So it really annoys me when people say, "Making fun of me because I'm skinny is no different than making fun of somebody because they're fat." Because . . . it is completely different. The teasing may be the same, but the motive for the teasing is different. And the outcome is different. I've never heard of anybody wanting (or trying!) to kill themselves because people always tease them for being skinny. The worst that happens is that they get insecure about their bodies. Unfortunately, overweight girls who are teased a lot, especially in middle and early high school, are often suicidal.

In our culture, being fat is often equated with being worthless. This is NEVER the case with being skinny. Skinny is just . . . skinny.

If you want to make a "skinny people represent" thread somewhere on the board, go for it. There's nothing wrong with that, and there's nothing wrong with being skinnny . . . But come on, was it really appropriate to respond to this post with "I'm so skinny, and I hate it when people make fun of me"? I don't think so.

[Shine]

Sugar, that was one classy post.

As for me, I'm bigger. I feel I'm past the point that no matter how comfortable I am in my skin, I need to lose weight for my health.

Do I hate skinny people?

No.

Do I wish I could live and eat like they do and still be thin?

Yeah. That would be nice.

When someone teases someone for being thin, it's usually because they're at least somewhat jealous, and it's almost always done at some level of jest.

When someone teases someone for being fat or not thin, it's usually just to be mean, and it's almost never joking.

I for one think it's gross that models are a size 0 and we're supposed to decide to buy outfits that they wear, because they look good on them, but when we go to try on the outfits, it doesn't even look like the same clothes.

I don't have a problem with thin people, but half of the women in America wear above a size 14. People in our media should reflect the majority, not the minority. It's really hard for anyone over a size 10 to identify with TV and models, because they just look like a different species from us.

[sigmagrrl]

You all know (and for those who don't know, search for the gastric bypass thread) of my struggles.

I've never teased or hated thin people. I just hate the bias and hatred towards the "un-thin"...

I'm also 6' tall, so add that to the mix and I was both HUGE and invisible, yet dying to be invisible for simply "fitting in"....

I'm not a "beached whale" anymore, as someone so eloquently put it , and I still feel the sting and pain of the abuse I put up with for years....

Yeah, it's not the same type of teasing...Especially in our society...
It can feel the same and I will not ever diminish the feelings that may linger over the teasing you may have endured, but the long term effects and outcomes are usually radically different....

[SilverTurtle]

I think this point brings up something really valid & interesting- girls/women are judged on their bodies and appearance FIRST.
I haven't seen a single male come on this thread & say he's too skinny, fat, tall, short, etc. In fact, Rudey is the only male who's responded so far & his point was great, IMO.

We all know if we are living healthy lifestyles or not. I could eat better than I do, and definately need to work out more. But even when I am working out regularly, I'm an average sized person. I'm never going to be a size 6. And I really don't care as long as I'm healthy. We all know when we see someone who's overweight to the point of it being a health issue or who's too skinny- the kind where their face is drawn & they look tired & obviosly aren't in the best of health. It really bothers me to see women so hung up on their appearance for the wrong reasons. Take care of yourself.. yes. That includes mind, body & spirit. It does not mean starve yourself.

[Peaches-n-Cream]

I have been skinny, and then I went to college and became chubby. Since college I lost the weight, lost too much weight, gained it back, gained too much. This year I decided to get into shape and be fit and healthy. I am at a healthy weight for my height, and I am not going to worry about it anymore.

[sigmagrrl]

Question:

Who do you think judges women more harshly: MEN or OTHER WOMEN?

[Shine]

Other women, definately.

[lindsay_iu]

When I was 16, I was 5'8"(still am) and 110 pounds. Way too skinny...but I ate all the time and never worked out. Then good ol' metabolism caught up with me and now I'm 135. It's a good weight for me. But at times I do feel like a heifer just because 25 pounds in 5 years is a lot. But I was way too thin in H.S. I'm pretty comfortable with how much I weigh now, but I do really need to exercise just to tone up not necessarily to lose weight.

I think that every girl/woman has some sort of body issues just because of the media and how they push the idea that if you wear over a size 6 you should just crawl into a hole and die. Thankfully though, most of the women are smart enough to see that this is major b.s. and have learned that they're perfect the way they are and to love themselves (for the most part at least ).

[ToBeSororityGrl]

maybe it's me, but i'd love to just be a size 10, it seems like the perfect number for me personally and for a lot of people at a decent weight they are a size 10.

i won't reveal my size cuz i'm not that comfortable about it, but i wasn't as big as i was when i first came to college so that makes me happy.

i used to be a girl jealous of all the size zero girls cuz well nice clothes are in abundance since not many girls wear 'zero' but not actually seeing how boney and unhealthy they look, i'd prefer my body anyday.

so if you have some chub on you i'm happy cuz at least i know you are able to eat every night and not starve!

[SSS1365]

Originally posted by sugar and spice
Posts like these frustrate me. She asked for support from other "normal sized" people . . . not for a bunch of skinny people to come back and complain about how people always make fun of them because you're skinny.

I don't see how people can equate the two. I think everybody is aware that slimness is valued over largeness in our culture, and when somebody makes fun of you because you're "too skinny," it's because they're jealous (unless you legitimately ARE unhealthily skinny, in which case they're probably worried about you) . . . it's not derisive like when somebody calls you "too fat." If you'd ever been fat, or even just "not skinny," or even just studied weight issues with any seriousness, you would realize the difference immediately. So it really annoys me when people say, "Making fun of me because I'm skinny is no different than making fun of somebody because they're fat." Because . . . it is completely different. The teasing may be the same, but the motive for the teasing is different. And the outcome is different. I've never heard of anybody wanting (or trying!) to kill themselves because people always tease them for being skinny. The worst that happens is that they get insecure about their bodies. Unfortunately, overweight girls who are teased a lot, especially in middle and early high school, are often suicidal.

In our culture, being fat is often equated with being worthless. This is NEVER the case with being skinny. Skinny is just . . . skinny.

If you want to make a "skinny people represent" thread somewhere on the board, go for it. There's nothing wrong with that, and there's nothing wrong with being skinnny . . . But come on, was it really appropriate to respond to this post with "I'm so skinny, and I hate it when people make fun of me"? I don't think so.

I see your point, and yes, non-skinny women are definitely picked on more as a whole than skinny women are. That doesn't make it any less offensive to hear people say things against women who *aren't* above a size 6, especially those of us who do not TRY to be that way! Honestly I don't think this entire topic is appropriate if you want to say our responses are inappropriate. And ya know what? I'm kinda jealous of you all who do have boobs and who do have a butt! HELLO, I'm Puerto Rican and I am sitting here wondering where my J-Lo ghetto booty is!!! Has anybody seen it???

Everybody just be happy with who you are, because ANY size can be beautiful! And there are a hell of a lot of guys out there who prefer women with meat on their bones!

[LeslieAGD]

Originally posted by Dionysus
some can't help it, I eat and eat, yet it is so hard to gain weight.

This is exactly the kind of comment that makes normal-to-plus size people pissed off. It sucks that some people have to work so hard to maintain their weight and others can eat anything and not gain a pound. AngelPhiSig, if you want to "boo" to something, "boo" to that.

[DeltaSigStan]

I don't know why people think this just applies to women. Men get just as chastised and shunned for their weight as much. And this whole "women don't care as much about looks as men do" is crap too.

[LeslieAGD]

Originally posted by DeltaSigStan
I don't know why people think this just applies to women. Men get just as chastised and shunned for their weight as much. And this whole "women don't care as much about looks as men do" is crap too.

Yes, but let's face it...it's more acceptable for guys to be big, "teddy bear" types than for women to be heavy, or even just packing on extra pounds.

[Sistermadly]

It's funny - even when I was at my heaviest, I never hated on skinny folks. I think what's key is that you feel comfortable in your own skin and know without a doubt that you are FIERCE, no matter if you're a size 0 or a size 30.

(Shoot, can't tell me anything - I know I'm cute!)