Fifth Graders Post Lookout While 4 Students Have Sex in Classroom

[1savvydiva]

Okay, please don't take this as though I don't think this is a serious issue, but does anyone else see the humor in getting your salad tossed if you break the brown bracelet?

Okay...continue .

[RedefinedDiva]

Originally posted by 1savvydiva
Okay, please don't take this as though I don't think this is a serious issue, but does anyone else see the humor in getting your salad tossed if you break the brown bracelet?

Okay...continue .

Sistahdiva!

[1savvydiva]

...whats unbeleivable is that I have managed to stay out of the infamous basket! HA!

[Dedicated2Delta]

Another soror shared:
There is also another "sex game" being played by middle school children. They're called Rainbow Parties. At these parties, the girls put different shades of lipstick on & perform oral sex on each boy. At the end, the boys' penises have different color lipstick rings that I guess look like a rainbow & hence the name Rainbow Parties. I live in the Baltimore Metro area but I am sure this game is not isolated to this area. These activities take place after the parent leaves but before the child goes to school or during the infamous hours after school but before the parents come home.

Just yesterday my co-worker was telling me about the school his wife works at in Michigan. They had a total lockdown. Bathrooms, closets, gyms, empty classrooms, any hiding space has to be locked at all times. All the students have to be escorted any and everywhere by an adult. No classroom is allowed to be left without supervision. At this school they called this "game" a circle party.

[toocute]

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
These activities take place after the parent leaves but before the child goes to school or during the infamous hours after school but before the parents come home.

Yeah the infamous hours after school but before the parents come home. This is why Mr Toocute and I are trying to get our isht together so by time CJ is in 5th grade almost Jr. High...I can be a stay at home mom or maybe work part time. I will be HOME to meet his azz when school is out.

I think I was still playing with dolls when I was in middle school.

[nikki1920]

I look at these girls now and am terrified for my daughter. They actually think that getting an STD is better than getting pregnant.
I wasn't thinking about bjs in elementary OR middle school...ewwwww..shoot, I didnt even know what "tossing a salad" meant until a few years ago and I am 27!

While I agree that abstinence should be taught in sex ed, I also think that these kids should be given the ENTIRE story. In HS, we saw a film of a woman giving birth. That was 2 years before I took the plunge, so to speak. I'd rather my daughter know the whole story about sex, FROM HER PARENTS, than to get wrong information on the street or from her friends.

And I commend the males out there doing their jobs as fathers/father figures. A big part of the reason why girls become sexually active can be linked to the absence of a father... *smh*

I still don't know what tossing the salad is, and I'm almost 25! Would someone PM me?

This blows my mind. I didn't even start thinking about this kind of stuff until I was almost to college... and these are middle schoolers??? I have a feeling I'm going to be woefully naive when my own kidlets come along.

Edit: Oh, my. Well, now I know!

[vanda]

This hit close to home recently. One of my best friend's close relative ( she's 13) ran away from home for three days. When police brought her back home, her parents found out she had been with a boy but she couldn't remember how many she had been with. Now that htat has happened, she has had incidents at school where guys are throwing money at her telling her to them. It's sad. She still doesn't see how dangerous this is. She wants everything she wears extra tight and now walks like a peacock so her butt can stick out more. I just shake my head and hope she learns before it becomes too late.

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by Ginger
I still don't know what tossing the salad is, and I'm almost 25! Would someone PM me?

I first heard about it during one of Chris Rock's shows. . .

[Kimmie1913]

I am on the same listserv as CT4 and one of sorors indicated that these things are all over the ELEMENTARY SCHOOL she teaches at. I was still playng candyland in elementary school and was not thinking about having sex of any kind with anyone.


Anoother soror I shared the article with indicated that her husband who teaches here in the city, caught two kids having sex on the bathroom floor in the last couple of weeks.

Unreal.

[stardusttwin]

Originally posted by nikki1920
While I agree that abstinence should be taught in sex ed, I also think that these kids should be given the ENTIRE story. In HS, we saw a film of a woman giving birth. That was 2 years before I took the plunge, so to speak.

They showed that film sophmore year in HS-had the same effect-whatever minimal interest there was disappeared! I think if more kids would watch a baby story (on discovery channel) and see real life child birth was like they wouldn't be so quick to want one.

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by Kimmie1913
I am on the same listserv as CT4 and one of sorors indicated that these things are all over the ELEMENTARY SCHOOL she teaches at. I was still playng candyland in elementary school and was not thinking about having sex of any kind with anyone.


Anoother soror I shared the article with indicated that her husband who teaches here in the city, caught two kids having sex on the bathroom floor in the last couple of weeks.

Unreal.

My line sister's mom teaches 8th grade and a few years ago they discovered a group of girls in the bathroom performing oral sex on one another.

The school I taught at in Charlotte has it really bad with kids having sex in the bathrooms and in this hallway in the back.

Girls are charging for their services as well. . .prostitution.

I was not thinking about sex and boys really til like the 8th grade and me actually thinking about having sex not until college. I was not trying to get pregnant. Nowadays Maury shows girls trying to have sex. The other day a mother learned her 15 year old had had 22 partners. She had been sexually active for a year.

[1savvydiva]

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
My line sister's mom teaches 8th grade and a few years ago they discovered a group of girls in the bathroom performing oral sex on one another.

MAN, these kids are off the chain! I wonder what has changed over the years to cause chilluns to be so bold and brazen with it?

[BirthaBlue4]

Originally posted by CrimsonTide4
This was mentioned on a listserve that I am on with sorors and this really concerns me. I know a lot of you are parents and maybe you are not aware that this is going on, but it is. . .

**I tried to edit out as much as possible the offensive terminology.**

The kids call the game P_____ Poppers.

Girls wear these multicolored rubber bracelets on their arms and a boywill come up to them and try to break one... each color bracelet has a different meaning.....the girl will have to perform the act for that color. Students have been suspended from schools for selling them. These are the meanings for the colors (in DC).

*NOTE: THESE ARE THE CHILDREN'S MEANING AND TERMINOLOGY!!!!!
Black: Sexual intercourse (sex)
Blue: Oral sex
Green: Outdoor Sex
Clear: anything you want
Orange: Kiss
Yellow: Hug
Red: Lapdance (3 minute max)
Purple: Usual Sex (doggie style, etc.)
Silver: Fisting (hand in vagina/butt)
White: flashing your breasts
Pink: flash anything
Gold Glitter: make out
Brown: toss my salad
Glow in Dark: sex toys
Spikes: same sex

SHUT UP YOU ARE NOT SERIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That is CRUCIAL, I've heard a lot, but this is a bit much. And in my area...

To clarify some things on Special Ed students (for some reason that stuck out like a sore thumb)...
They CAN be suspended, but they can't go over 10 suspension days in a year and it CANNOT be related to their disability (i.e. a child with Tourette's cannot be suspending for cussing in class, if that is one of the outbursts he has). People sometimes shy away from suspending them because they're scared and don't know the laws under IDEA (Individuals with Disabilities Education Act). While their suspended, they must continue to receive their educational program, which in a lot of cases would just mean an in school suspension since most school can't afford an inhouse aid to teach them. Additionally, depending on the child's disability, he may NOT have the skills needed to make those types of value judgements, BUT has ENOUGH skills to be included in a general education classroom (autism, mild mental retardation, etc). They are including more special ed students into the general classroom, so teachers have to be mindful of these things. (But he very well could have done it cuz he was horny...)

(sorry, Special ed major and I have school on the brain ).

But, WHY wasn't the girl suspended if he was? That is not right, she was the one doing it. And I remember science lab, you CANNOT see all students at ALL times. This is NOT the school system's fault, unless you want to blame them for not having sex ed to curb this kind of behavior.

I had sex ed in elementary. And I mean, most of us didn't do anything, but when we, er, they did, they were smart enough not to do it in friggin class. The bathroom, maybe, but not class.

[9dstpm]

I was watching Oprah the other day and she was discussing this same topic with some parents on the show. One parent said that her son told her that oral sex was nothng more than a goodnight kiss while another parent's son said that it was impersonal and meaningless. I was ! I remember when I was in HIGH school (not middle school or elementary school) oral sex was like ewww, yuck and only the biggest garden tools did that. Even when I started college, oral sex was something that you did with your boyfriend/girlfriend and ONLY if ya'll had been together for a long, long, long time.

Shoot, when I was in 8th grade, I had a boyfriend but I thought him putting his arms around me or holding hands or kissing me on my cheek or forehead was THE biggest thrill of life!!

I'm glad for the heads up on the bracelets because at my agency, we have several girls that are wearing the bracelets but I don't know if the meanings are the same here in the Detroit/Flint/Saginaw area. I'm sure they are, though. I'll make sure to mention it in the staff meeting on Monday.