Define "BITCH" - Page 2

Kimmie1913 · #16 06-15-2001, 04:41 PM

We all know that a b***h is a female dog. That is a definition of the word.

In everyday life, I think the term is used as previously defined- an evil, snooty, obnoxious or overly rude woman. As someone else stated, sometimes a weak man.

Oftentimes, I find that a very broad slice of women are called b***hes. I know I personally have had men throw that term at me because I was not receptive to their advance (No I will not cross the street cause you decided to holla at me out of your car) or because we are assertive or strong willed. So what? There are still significant disparities in what is an acceptable personality trait for a man and for a woman. If the same response/answer out of him would not have gotten a deroogatory term hurled at him, then I should not have one hurled at me either.

As a modern, sophisticated, intellegent professional Black woman in the year 2001, I really don't give a rat's butt if someone wants to call me a b***h or not. I am going to do what I am going to do to get my business accomplished and acheive my goals. I do not do this by being insincere or rude or incosideratte. Still, by the sheer existance of my conifidence and FORTITUDE I am sometimes going to be (incorrectly) labeled a b***h.

I believe many women (and particularly my Sisters) are tired of the idea that men are suppoesed to be able to intimidate us by calling us names. That hurling epithets is supposed to help show us our place in society, our homes and the work world. That is where the brekdown
B(eing)
I(n)
T(otal)
C(ontrol) of
H(erself)
came from. It was an attempt to take the negative power out of the world and acknowledge that it is often applied to women because they are comeptenet and assertive, outspoken and strong. As a Black woman, sometimes I feel like the same traits used to describe us are the same things that get us called a b***h..

Can I be b***hy? Yes. Do I ever use the word? Occassionally. But I think it is very overused and broadly applied.

Does that answer your question?

THICKNCHOCLATE · #17 06-15-2001, 06:29 PM

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Originally posted by Kimmie1913:

Can I be b***hy? Yes. Do I ever use the word? Occassionally. But I think it is very overused and broadly applied.

Does that answer your question?

Amen Sister!!!

The Original Ape · #18 06-16-2001, 12:24 AM

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Originally posted by SableCherub:
I'm a bitch!

When I stand up for myself and my beliefs,
they call me a bitch.

When I stand up for those I love, they call me a bitch.

When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts,
or do things my own way, they call me a bitch.

Being a bitch entails raising my children to be strong people who have a solid sense of personal and social responsibility, who are
not afraid to stand up for what they believe in and who love andn respect themselves for the beautiful beings they are.

Being a bitch means that I am free to be the wonderful creature that am, with all my own intricacies, contradictions, quirks and beauty.

Being a bitch means I won't compromise what's in my heart. It means I live my life MY way.
It means I won't allow anyone to step on me.

When I refuse to tolerate injustice and speak up against it, I am defined as a bitch.

The same thing happens when I take time for myself instead of being everyone's maid, or when I act a little selfish.

I am proud to be a bitch! It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be who I truly am and won't become anyone else's idea of what they think I "should" be.

I am outspoken, opinionated, and determined. By God, I want what I want, and there is nothing wrong with that!

So try to stomp on me, try to douse my inner flame, try to squash every ounce of beauty I hold within me. You won't succeed.

And if that makes me a bitch, so be it. I embrace the title and am proud to bear it.

I love this, I can call myself a bitch now and not feel bad about it

Send this to all the bitches you know!!!

--author unknown

i found this at http://www.geocities.com/SouthBeach/Port/5270/bitch.htm

Interesting.

I've noticed more and more how alot of women think it's the shyt to be a bitch. Maybe that's why they have all the kinds of problems they have; while those that choose to be ladies are in big demand.

SH80 · #19 06-16-2001, 12:50 AM

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Originally posted by The Original Ape:
Interesting.

I've noticed more and more how alot of women think it's the shyt to be a bitch. Maybe that's why they have all the kinds of problems they have; while those that choose to be ladies are in big demand.

What's wrong with that? A woman being genuine to herself. I hope that's not what you meant.

Kiara · #20 06-18-2001, 02:13 AM

NOT ONLY A FEMALE DOG...BUT A " MALE DOG"...WOOOF WOOOF...

Professor · #21 06-18-2001, 09:57 AM

After reading the post all I know is that I like bitches - all kind of bitches, independent bithches, stuck up bitches, mean bitches - - I just like bitches.

This is really an interesting topic. Bitch is a word if used by a male then women seemingly become angered. If women call another woman a bitch it describes her attitude. I don't think men can win with this one. It is much like when our folk say that's my nigga! Many of us think if is ok to say but let the other folk say it and we are ready to take it to the street.

SH80 · #22 06-18-2001, 01:40 PM

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Originally posted by Professor:
After reading the post all I know is that I like bitches - all kind of bitches, independent bithches, stuck up bitches, mean bitches - - I just like bitches.

This is really an interesting topic. Bitch is a word if used by a male then women seemingly become angered. If women call another woman a bitch it describes her attitude. I don't think men can win with this one. It is much like when our folk say that's my nigga! Many of us think if is ok to say but let the other folk say it and we are ready to take it to the street.

You silly!!!

novella000 · #23 06-25-2001, 12:17 AM

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Originally posted by Professor:
After reading the post all I know is that I like bitches - all kind of bitches, independent bithches, stuck up bitches, mean bitches - - I just like bitches.

This is really an interesting topic. Bitch is a word if used by a male then women seemingly become angered. If women call another woman a bitch it describes her attitude. I don't think men can win with this one. It is much like when our folk say that's my nigga! Many of us think if is ok to say but let the other folk say it and we are ready to take it to the street.

I like your response Professor.

But TOA, I am pleading the fifth on this one. Unless you want another female dog explanation.

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lil_sunshine · #24 10-23-2001, 05:01 PM

Well, I came up with my definition of this word about 4-5 years ago. My definition is...

Black, beautiful
Intelligent, Independent
Trustworthy, Thoughtful
Confident, Considerate
Helpful, Humble and Happy

Now does this fit you description of what you really wanna hear, guys???

The Original Ape · #25 10-23-2001, 05:53 PM

I think if a woman plays the role, she gets the title!

Reds6 · #26 10-23-2001, 06:12 PM

Well I don't think only women came be bitches. there are some weakass men out there that act like a bunch of bitches!!!!!!!
I hate wimpy, whiped men.

The Original Ape · #27 10-23-2001, 08:36 PM

I give you that. There are some men out there that DO act like bitches.

soulsearchin · #28 10-26-2001, 01:35 PM

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Originally posted by The Original Ape
I think if a woman plays the role, she gets the title!

"the roll"? why is it that when a woman is strong...she's a bitch...but a man that acts in the same way...is just being a man...the way a man "should be"...strong...ascertive...etc...seriously:rolleye s:

The Original Ape · #29 10-26-2001, 07:14 PM

Soulsearchin,

Who said a woman being strong is a bitch? I said when a woman plays the role, she gets the title; that's it. That's ALL I said. I know plenty of strong women that aren't bitches. Think about it; you may know some too!

SWEETAKA · #30 02-24-2002, 12:16 PM

This word is very much in line with the "n" word to me: derogatory-- All joking aside. I don't understand how anyone can try to justify either without speaking out of the side of their mouth. Those type words can't be cleaned up nor made over to fit the new age of thinking. They are just what they are. Instead of trying to make it into an acronym, be the one to say it is wrong. Black women are very strong voices in our communities and should not be equated with such language. In other words, be a part of the solution and don't perpetuate hate by being a part of the problem. I know some of you may be just joking and jiving(as my uncle says) but
This Is a Serious Matter.....