AM I Too Picky?

[Peaches-n-Cream]

Things aren't much better here in NYC. It's true that there are many more men, but not necessarily more high quality men.

Places to meet men: bars, dance clubs, gyms, church, cooking class, and volunteer work in a field that holds your interest. You might want to try an internet 'match' type of site. A few of my friends have met some nice guys online.

[kddani]

I'm bumping up this topic to get some more opinions....

I went out to a club last night (for the first time in a veryyyyyyyyy long time, let me tell you it did me a world of good after everything that's been going on lately).

Met a very cute, very nice guy. He's already IMed me (IM name easier to remember than a phone number when you don't have any paper and your cell phones are in the car). Problems are, that he lives about an hour away, and he went to community college.

I guess i've started to be somewhat of an "education snob"... since i already have a BA and i'm getting my JD, it's really important to me that a guy that i'm dating is educated. The ones that I have dated that haven't been all that educated have really frustrated me at times with it.

Anybody else have any encouraging stories like sistermadly?

I'm going to at least give him a chance... but I just don't want to get too involved and have this be a problem to me.

[valkyrie]

Have you had fun with him so far? When you've just met someone, I really believe that is all that matters.

On education -- my boy went to community college on and off for a couple years. I'm an attorney. It doesn't bother me at all, because I recognize that he is very intelligent; intelligence and education are two different things. I couldn't be with someone if I didn't think he was smart, but I'm not so concerned if he has as much education as I have. He plans to go back to school at some point, but whether he does or not really doesn't matter to me; I just want him to be happy with whatever he ends up doing for a career, and he's young and has plenty of time to figure it out.

I'm guessing I'm in the minority though on this topic. I say go for it, though! An hour away isn't that far, either.

[James]

Just curious ladies (Kddani, Valk). But what if he wasn't as educated as you are but was an oder of magnitude brighter ("Mensa" with social skills lol)? As in more intellegent? would that compensate?

Much easier to get someone to read a book (education) than to develop aptitude.

Originally posted by kddani
I'm bumping up this topic to get some more opinions....

I went out to a club last night (for the first time in a veryyyyyyyyy long time, let me tell you it did me a world of good after everything that's been going on lately).

Met a very cute, very nice guy. He's already IMed me (IM name easier to remember than a phone number when you don't have any paper and your cell phones are in the car). Problems are, that he lives about an hour away, and he went to community college.

I guess i've started to be somewhat of an "education snob"... since i already have a BA and i'm getting my JD, it's really important to me that a guy that i'm dating is educated. The ones that I have dated that haven't been all that educated have really frustrated me at times with it.

Anybody else have any encouraging stories like sistermadly?

I'm going to at least give him a chance... but I just don't want to get too involved and have this be a problem to me.

[valkyrie]

James, I'm saying that I don't care how much education someone has. I also don't expect him to be more intelligent than I am (haha, how would that be possible...) -- I just like it when a guy and I are pretty closely matched intelligence-wise. I don't think that someone has to "compensate" for being less educated than I am because I don't think it's important at all.

Besides, I really have no interest in the guys I meet who do have my level of education. Have you met many attorneys lately? No offense, but many of them have the personality of a dung beetle and the social skills to match. Sorry, but it's true.

[Munchkin03]

I agree with what Valkyrie said...basically, my partner is in a similar position and isn't in school right now. He will be soon, but by the time he finishes, I will be finished with my professional degree. That said, he is the smartest person I know, one of the most gentlemanly men around my age, and treats me like the queen I am.

Those are my top two criteria--intelligence (not necessarily education), and respect for me and other women. I know that the bills will get paid, so I'm not stressing about that. It's just that, my whole life I have been surrounded by what most would consider "ideal" men--wealthy, good families, at good schools, with solid career plans--but they're not where it's at for me. I would rather have all the love, respect, and honor in the world than all of the money.