Gay Vibe - Page 2

Dionysus · #16 10-08-2002, 08:47 PM

Tee hee hee...last year this girl in my anthro class who also plays b-ball for our school invited me to a party. So I attended it, I thought she wanted to be friends w/ me. Eventually she asked me to guess three things about her, right then I knew what she was getting to, but I pretended to be dumb. So finally she asked me if I had a boyfriend, I said no, then she asked me if I wanted a girlfriend.

I politely turned her down.

Though I was turned off, I wasn't offended in anyway, just curious why she thought I was "like that".

The rule of thumb: If a butchish lesbian hits on me I wouldn't be a happy camper, but if a lipstick lesbian hits on me I would be flattered and I might just return the favor.

J/K

Dionysus' theory of sexual orientation. Hetrosexuality and homosexuality is on a continium (sp?), not either-or. NO ONE can be 100% hetero nor 100% homo. The straightest person has a little homo in them and the gayest person has a little hetero in them. What classifies is what you ACT out on.

three2tango · #17 10-08-2002, 08:49 PM

Josh, I am from Tennessee.

Dionysus · #18 10-08-2002, 08:55 PM

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Originally posted by three2tango
Oh yes experimentation is fine if it is something you don't know about. But I KNOW I am not a carpet licker.

What's that?

I assume it's someone who eats booty.

James · #19 10-08-2002, 09:45 PM

Daaammmnnnnn girl,

You are SERIOUSLY homophobic. I have some guy friends like that and even they are not as militant about it.

If you don't doubt your sexuality why do you care?

There is an easy test to know if you have homosexual tendencies.

Shrug, just do the test and not worry about it.

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Originally posted by three2tango
I had a very interesting experience yesterday. I went shopping at the Saks outlet and as I was leaving a girl pulled up in a car next to me and started saying, "Hey baby, you look good mmmmmm." That is all she got out before I got in my car. I didn't even look at her. Then, I got into my car and drove around the building to the Michael's craft place. I got out of my car and about 10 yards before I got to the door she came by again. "Hey can I get your phone number baby?" "You look so damn good." I was very uncomfortable.

So here is the deal, this made me very angry. First of all because of her barbaric behavior and second of all for thinking I was a lesbian. I mean if she had come up to me and hit on me in a bar I would have just politely said, "No thanks, I am straight." I felt very violated and now I understand why men would have a tendency to get very violent when this happens to them.

librasoul22 · #20 10-08-2002, 11:31 PM

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Originally posted by James
Daaammmnnnnn girl,

You are SERIOUSLY homophobic. I have some guy friends like that and even they are not as militant about it.

That was my first reaction too. That's why I was wondering about her "gay vibes" title. I mean, why do you care if you give off gay vibes unless you are questioning whether you do or not...which sort of implies that you HAVE vibes to give off...feel me?

@ Dionysus - it is a derogatory term for a lesbian.

@ KappaKittyCat - good point...but with the American standard of masculinity, most guys just think they have to be MACHO...or GAY. You know? There are exceptions to every rule though, I know some of each as well. Manly gay guys really suck. Why tease me like that? lol

KappaKittyCat · #21 10-09-2002, 12:22 AM

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Originally posted by librasoul22
@ KappaKittyCat - good point...but with the American standard of masculinity, most guys just think they have to be MACHO...or GAY.

And that's my point. The American standard of masculinity is based on our society's gender roles. If you're not a "Macho Man," then you might as well be a woman, so you're obviously a "fairy." If you're not a "Girly Girl," then you might as well be a guy, so you're obviously a "dyke."

Sigh...

A side note, Friday is National Coming-Out Day. All the Pride fanatics at Larry U. are going nuts.

librasoul22 · #22 10-09-2002, 12:29 AM

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Originally posted by KappaKittyCat

And that's my point. The American standard of masculinity is based on our society's gender roles. If you're not a "Macho Man," then you might as well be a woman, so you're obviously a "fairy." If you're not a "Girly Girl," then you might as well be a guy, so you're obviously a "dyke."

Sigh...

A side note, Friday is National Coming-Out Day. All the Pride fanatics at Larry U. are going nuts.

Agreed on your point. Not saying the socialization is right by any means.

Hey, let folks clean out their closet, then jump out that piece, lol.

Dionysus · #23 01-23-2003, 03:34 PM

Can I get tutored in my math without getting hit on by a girl?

I was sitting in the math lab earlier today. I saw a manish looking girl staring at me. First I thought she wanted to kick my a$$ or something. Then she approached me, she asked in a flirtingly way "It looks like you're having a little trouble w/ your homework, huh? Here's mine, you can look at it" She was abnormally friendly. While I was copying her answers she proceeded to stare at me...and not in a platonic or intimidating way. *sigh*

Why me?
Whyyyyyyyy me?
Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy me?

And, whyyyy the masculine girls? If I must roll with a chick (in which i'm not), she must be girly.

AXOLiz · #24 01-24-2003, 01:46 PM

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Originally posted by Dionysus
And, whyyyy the masculine girls? If I must roll with a chick (in which i'm not), she must be girly.

Reminds me of a conversation one of my close friends and I had...one of my other close friends is a lesbian and I was commenting on how happy I am that her latest girlfriend is cute. Last one, you'd think she was a guy if you saw her on the street. Not cute at all. That led to my stellar comment, "If I was a lesbian, I'd be doing the hottest chick I could get!"

But, I'll admit it...I never quite understood the attraction that some lesbians have to women that are very masculine. In my mind, if I wanted to be with a woman, I'd want one that looked like a woman (see hot chick comment above). I get that it's the emotional attachment and everything...but I personally only get romantically interested in guys who are masculine (not overly so, though). So when I've heard certain girls talk about how they'd NEVER be with a man, yet they're dating a girl who's very masculine in both the physical sense and personality...often, these are the same girls who say you should be open to loving someone regardless of gender, so I guess I just don't get it.

And about the original post...I also think it's crappy that someone was hitting on you that aggressively. But, at the same time, if anyone hits on me, guy or girl, I'm always flattered. It's actually been easier to get girls that hit on me to leave me alone since I can just tell them I'm straight. Most guys assume that since you're straight, you love their penis as much as they do. They tend to ignore the fact that it's attached to a total freakshow.

librasoul22 · #25 01-24-2003, 02:58 PM

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Originally posted by AXOLiz

Reminds me of a conversation one of my close friends and I had...one of my other close friends is a lesbian and I was commenting on how happy I am that her latest girlfriend is cute. Last one, you'd think she was a guy if you saw her on the street. Not cute at all. That led to my stellar comment, "If I was a lesbian, I'd be doing the hottest chick I could get!"

But, I'll admit it...I never quite understood the attraction that some lesbians have to women that are very masculine. In my mind, if I wanted to be with a woman, I'd want one that looked like a woman (see hot chick comment above). I get that it's the emotional attachment and everything...but I personally only get romantically interested in guys who are masculine (not overly so, though). So when I've heard certain girls talk about how they'd NEVER be with a man, yet they're dating a girl who's very masculine in both the physical sense and personality...often, these are the same girls who say you should be open to loving someone regardless of gender, so I guess I just don't get it.

And about the original post...I also think it's crappy that someone was hitting on you that aggressively. But, at the same time, if anyone hits on me, guy or girl, I'm always flattered. It's actually been easier to get girls that hit on me to leave me alone since I can just tell them I'm straight. Most guys assume that since you're straight, you love their penis as much as they do. They tend to ignore the fact that it's attached to a total freakshow.

Well said.

lifesaver · #26 01-24-2003, 04:20 PM

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Originally posted by AXOLiz

Most guys assume that since you're straight, you love their penis as much as they do. They tend to ignore the fact that it's attached to a total freakshow.

Without being a traitor to my gender, that is the funniest thing I have read all week. HAHAHAHAHAH.

MADE MY DAY.

PM_Mama00 · #27 01-26-2003, 12:06 PM

Yeah so one time I was at the bar. Keep in mind I had just turned 19, came from a sheltered high school life. So I'm there with some friends, and this butch keeps coming up to me, in an accent, asking if she could buy me a drink, blah blah, say no to drugs, and whatever else. Heh... I was at a gay bar, so I just had fun with it and told her that my friend was my girlfriend.

I have a cousin who is a lesbian, and she was at the bar one nite with this attractive girl hitting on her. So she gave her her phone number. After a while she was sitting with her friends, and noticed that this "girl" had an Adam's Apple. Believe me, lesbians feel the same way about people approaching them.

And the carpet muncher comment-- lighten up! My cousin would prolly find it funny and I think I've heard her, and other gay friends, say it before.

Rio_Kohitsuji · #28 01-26-2003, 12:39 PM

okay, now I gotta comment..

On the gay comment about the term 'carpet-licker', seriously, chill.

One of my best buds is a 'flamer', or what he likes to say, "A fantabolous rainbow rider". Yes, I do have 'lezbo' friends also, they get a kick out of those names too, lol

(Especially when they're drunk and start shouting to the world what sexual orientation they are...)

I still don't see getting all upset when a chick would hit on you, well, as long as she's not manish...

If I'm with my girls I'll shrug it off, but hey, if my boyfriend is with me I'll go along with it as long as I can. He loves it! Heh.

SKRae · #29 01-27-2003, 04:07 PM

Ok, just today I was told that one of my former residents had a crush on me when I was her RA. My boyfriend works with her and I never put 2 and 2 together that the girl he talked about was the same girl that I had as a resident. (He trained with her in the bar and is good friends with her and I knew she was a lesbian when she lived on my floor) It doesn't freak me out. Take it as a complement. Someone out there is attracted to you, may not be of your type, but someone does. That means other people will too, and some of your type. It had happened to me before and you just have to take it in stride.

James · #30 01-28-2003, 08:59 PM

Overt effeminancy is odd. I am not talking about "softer" guys or even someone that is a little "prescious".

I am talking about effeminancy. Guys can spot it a mile away and its very different froma sophisticated boy that dresses well and listens to Wagner.

Is the effeminate male gay? Depends on whether he acts on it I guess.

Of course the other questions would be whether he would be happier hetero or straight.