Internet Romance/Friendships? - Page 2

DeeGeePee · #1 08-11-2002, 05:05 PM

Well, I have met people off of the internet, but I have never had a relationship solely on the internet. Usually what I do, after I've talked to them for a while, we'll usually exchange numbers (always get their number and block your out when you call, just in case). I can't stand typing to someone about personal stuff, its easir to just call. I've met, 2 guys that I dated, and some friends. We usually meet pretty soon, like I said, I need actual contact. I actually try not to talk to someone who is far away, unless I'm ONLY interested in being friends, the long distance thing sucks (been there, done that). Some people think the internet is evil, and only evil, lonely desperate people are online, and its hard to prove your point when DAILY kids get snatched by pedafiles who claimed they loved them. But I look at the internet as an avenue. If you met someone at the mall and gave them your number, you're in just as much danger. Just because you actually see them first is irrelevent. But I wouldn't chat or IM online too long before some more personal contact (phone or meeting in person).

On the same note, kinda, has anyone ever signed up on an online dating service? Has it worked? Did you pay to get on it?

#2 08-30-2002, 06:34 AM

I promised to keep y'all updated....so here's an update on my 2LT.

He was supposed to come here in mid-November if he completed the Ranger School course, but I got an email yesterday telling me that something happened.

Out of a class of 260 on Day 1, only 90 remained the following week because so many of them suffered from heat exhaustion and dehydration. He survived the first two weeks and then he dropped the course because he too became a victim of extreme heat exhaustion.

So...I got a phone call from him at 4AM telling me that he's okay now and he's off to Airborne school. Airborne school only lasts 3 weeks and he'll be here in late September/early October now.

I was sorry to see him dropped from the course because I know how much it meant to him--but I'm kinda glad that he's going to be here a month early.

MoxieGrrl · #3 08-30-2002, 10:26 AM

I agree with Eirene_DGP: Internet relationships can be detrimental to real life ones. This fact almost burnt me recently. My boyfriend didn't seem to agree with me on this concept: Him talking to girls that go to Pitt and exchanging pictures with them is the same as flirting with girls at a bar.

(Then he tried to tell me he was discussing our problems with them. Oh, whole different fight with that one! LOL)

But I must admit that in the past, I had a lot of good online friends. We all used to chat in an #mp3 channel on IRC, which was a lot of fun. (The drama rivaled GC!

) However, now when I chat with people I dont' know online, I feel hella lame. Like I should be on one of those cheesy AOL commericals or something.

#4 08-30-2002, 11:02 AM

I've dated two guys that I "met" online...

One found me through CollegeClub.com, and after chatting for a couple weeks, we decided to meet in person - and he was wonderful! He had just finished his Masters' at UW-Madison, and we had a really sweet summer romance until he had to move away to Houston

in the Fall. I did get to go visit him once, after he moved... he was such a darling!

The other one I don't know if really counts... I was talking to one of my friends on ICQ, and he had a friend over who switched places with him (ie. I thought I was talking to Jay, but I was talking to Nick). So we kept on talking like normal until he asked me out! Knowing that Jay (who I was supposedly talking to) is married, I called him on it, and he fessed up! We met the next day, and ended up dating for 8 months. And actually, even though we had a kind of messy breakup, we worked things through, and he's my best friend

(edited for overuse of smiley faces!)

PM_Mama00 · #5 12-04-2003, 12:49 PM

Ok... I totally change my mind from a year ago.

It's frustrating and the worst thing to do. Unless the person lives near u.

Jill1228 · #6 12-04-2003, 02:49 PM

I've met a lot of wonderful friends on the internet, and some I have met IRL and become life long friends with.

As far as dating. I met a few guys on the internet. One I happened to meet up with when I was visiting my girlfriend in Dallas (I went to high school with her).

The other guy lived in Vancouver, BC and I lived in Washington, DC. That one was an interesting one

He flew out to DC in November 1997 and we spent 4 days together. Then I flew to Vancouver and spent 10 days. We knew something was there...

(Why do you think I am out in the Pacific NW now?)....

Well, we were married in Las Vegas on December 11, 2001 and next week will be our second wedding anniversary

PrincessHeather · #7 12-08-2003, 01:51 AM

I have.

Mike and I met our freshman year in HS. back in 1996. We thought were more like best friends, but the mystery part of the 'relationship' intrigued me. He also was very comforting. I would go on a bad date and then call him and he'd tell me I should just move to Oregon (where he lives) and all my guy troubles would be gone. I thought he was perfect. We talked all the time. We promised that when we were 16 we would drive half way and meet each other. That didn't happen. Then we said he would take me to his senior prom. That didn't happen. we started to lose contact once I started college ( fall 2000) then in the summer of 2001 I got an email saying: I'm going into the air force I'll be back home in October. I was shocked; he didn't call to say bye or anything. Then September 11th happened and I freaked. I thought they were going to send him to Iraq. I didn't hear from him until November. He was only a helicopter mechanic and wasn't indemand to send anywhere outside of the U.S. He then left in Jan. to be stationed in FL. We talked a lot then and he came back home (oregon) by the summer of 2002.

In August of 2002 I had a sorority retreat in Santa Cruz, Ca. Well it turns out he had plans to drive down from Oregon to Santa Cruz with some buddies that same weekend. So I finally got to meet him in person. After 5 years we met. It was so strange. We both were really shy, and not ourselves. But he looked sooo cute in person.
We lost contact again after that. Then in the spring this year my chapter had division conference in Oregon. Yea when your sorority is small on the west coast (10 chapters out of like 120) oregon and cali are in the same division.

anyway. on the way back home after conference, we stopped in his home town to have lunch. he looked cuter than before and lunch was fun. my sisters dared me to kiss him. That is when it ended. It was horrible. I haven't talked to him since that day.

It was fun while I was young, but that day of the dare, I realized how dumb our relationship was. our friendship was fake; it was childish and stupid.
I got teased for days, for having an 'internet boyfriend'

even though we never were. It also was good that it ended then, because when I was in real relationships with guys I would compare them to the unrealistic image I had made up for Mike. I thought he would be the perfect guy, because of all the crap he told me and I thought all the boys here at home, sucked compared to him. I was so wrong! when I look back at it, he was the farthest thing from perfect and was just full of crap!!

Anyway now that I have spilled my guts! and I hate this story, I get really embarrassed telling it...not too many people even know about it. (and its out there for all GCers to see! oh well)

I am glad to know that I'm not the only one. too bad mine ended negatively

MTSUGURL · #8 12-08-2003, 09:58 AM

Here's a question - do you more willingly meet people from GC than from other "places" on the internet? Do you somehow feel that they're more real?

I meet people from GC as often as I can, and generally have felt no qualms about giving my number to people from GC. Not so with random people who IM me or email me. I'm much more leery of others on the internet.

MareImbrium · #9 12-10-2003, 08:22 PM

I have no problems with meeting with people from online. I met some people from GC actually and two of them still remain in contact.

I've met some of my best friends from online. This was way back in college when I went into chatrooms and talk to people who went to my school. We'd be talking only to find out that we were in the same computer lab.

I've had online relationships before too. Those didn't work out too well but I mean...there were circumstances. The internet is just one source of medium to meet new people. It gets hard to meet new people once you're out of school. Of course there are those kinds of internet relationships where I instantly clicked with someone, we decided to meet, but at least one member of the party would feel differently after the meet up. It's times like those when I wish that things might have been better if he and I had never met at all.

swissmiss04 · #10 12-11-2003, 11:42 AM

Heck I'm going to this weekend (see the thread on NYC GC Happy Hour). I only know one GC'er IRL but I know I'd like to meet some of y'all.
I have had 3 dates due to IM conversations. One was in high school w/ a guy who had seriously dated a girl I went to school with (she was older than me). It didn't really work out because he was still hung up on her.
I began talking to a guy a few weeks before I started college who was coming here from pretty far away and just wanted advice. He asked me if I'd be interested in dinner or some thing and I agreed. I was totally disappointed. Not only was I completely unattracted to him, he ended up being a huge dork. Then a few weeks later I met some guy who was way older than me but I gave it a shot. We ended up staying friends for a while before his job transferred him.

opaldragon · #11 12-14-2003, 08:59 PM

For those of you who had online relationships in high school or during college and while still living under your parent's roof, how did you deal with your parents? Did you tell them? Did they have a problem with it? And the same question goes for those of you who aren't living with your parents during the time of an online relationship. How much and how do your parents influence the situation?

Optimist Prime · #12 12-18-2003, 11:41 PM

When I was 14 I dated this girl named Leah from Seattle. Her dad lived/i guess still lives in VA so we were going to hang out the summer because she was going to visit. She would have been a better real life girlfriend. Basically her mom was crazy and wouldn't let her date anyone, hence the online thing, and her dad...well, I don't know. He's the one that broke us up, basically. She said she'd always love me though. Whatever. Now that I think of it...its weird because she's four years older than me.

Also right after this happened this girl from NJ imed me and we started talking and she comforted me. After a few weeks I let her call me her boyfriend. My grandparents live like 5 mins from her house. I still have the address who's up for a road trip?

This is random, but both of them had curly hair. Leah was woman, Dani an innocent girl (one year younger than me)

This is random, but they both had long curly hair.

damn....

absolutuscchick · #13 12-19-2003, 12:23 AM

Never had an online relationship......except of course for my cybermarriage to Russ

But I have met guys off of Jdate before!!!

DeltaBetaBaby · #14 06-11-2004, 08:22 AM

I am a serial jdater, and many of my friends do match.com. It has become quite commonplace, and once you admit to it, a lot of other people admit to it as well. Honestly, for the straight-out-of-college set, we are like fish out of water because it was so easy to meet so many people as a student (especially as a greek) and those opportunities dry up a bit. There are only so many friends-of-friends that you can meet.

sigtau305 · #15 06-11-2004, 10:45 AM

I have Numerous friends I met on-line and I have kept in touch with from time to time. I have met two women in the three years through the 'net and I have dated both but it didn't last the way I wanted to.