Women and their problems - Page 2

UF_PikePC98 · #16 07-21-2002, 09:16 AM

Jenn- Check your cell.

KtSnake- I'm working towards that.

CarolinaDG · #17 09-09-2002, 01:12 AM

*Rolls eyes*

Jeez, Craig, don't you just have me figured out?!

Yeah, I feel like I'm in high school. The guy that I'm currently seeing, though (still haven't passed the two week mark, though, so let's not get TOO excited) I've known since April. He went to Cream Rose (and he wears his shirt, too... I make him) with another sister. I had a crush on one of his brothers and always went to the "Sigma Chi bar" to go watch him bartend, but ended up getting more the attention of the first guy. Didn't give him a chance until this semester, though, and now we're together. Well, kinda... But we'll see how long this one lasts.

The problem is, actually, not that I'm in high school, but I always have to have the best, so I'm constantly looking around. About a year and a half ago, I was two steps away from being engaged (sad, isn't it?) to a Kappa Alpha from Newberry College (which is known as the best fraternity in South Carolina). His dad's extremely wealthy, he was extremely good-looking, well-dressed, and drove a nice car. But I was dating him for the wrong reasons. The problem is, when we broke up, I couldn't get over the thought that perhaps he was the best I could get, so I was constantly dating what I thought might be the best, without looking deeper. I've dated, now, two fraternity presidents just because I thought they were the best. The problem is, they weren't the best for me.

So, the guy that I'm seeing may not be the fraternity president, or the hot bartender that I was drooling over last semester, but I think he's a lot closer to what the best may be for me. He's still good-looking, nice dresser, GREAT body, but he's that everything more that the other guys didn't have. I laugh all the time when I'm with him, I'm comfortable with him, the brothers all treat me well, and I always get invited to the BEST parties. Well, not like that didn't happen before.

Anyway, like I said, we'll see if I can make it past the two week mark, and then we'll talk. But, the thing is, if we don't, then your theory about hanging out with someone before dating is pretty bogus.

PS-I think I might be coming down for the UF game to the DG house... I'm not sure yet about all the details. Just a little FYI for ya.

UF_PikePC98 · #18 09-09-2002, 01:14 PM

Amy,

I have a lot to say to your response but not so much time. I'll try to get it all in.

First, you are exactly how I am. I'm the same way as far as always wanting the BEST. Well, I dated this girl for a LONG time, about 2 years. She was the first long term girlfriend that I ever had. (I don't know how I did it.) She is everything I ever wanted in a girlfriend/wife. She is the perfect height, light blonde hair (it's real, not dyed), beautiful blue eyes ( almost as good as mine). She's VERY smart. Has what I think is the best personality, one like mine. She knows how to get on my mothers good side and she gets along with my family very well. Another plus is the fact that she's getting a degree in 2 different types of engineering, which means she'll do fine in life as far as finances go.

Now, heres the icky part. I too feel like I can always find something better out there. There is some truth when people say that. You'll always be able to find someone who is better in some areas than what you have now. Now I'm not saying your in love with this guy, I should hope not yet, but I assume you really like him alot. I just want you to make sure you know the difference between love and lust. I personally am quite familiar with lust. I went out and tried to find something better. I cheated on that girlfriend over and over, just to try and see if I would be contempt with soemthing else and to find out whether or not it was the fact that I had been with her for a long time and that was the reason why I felt the way I did. Well, I screwed up and did what I'm notorious for, I bailed. I went on a binge and did my thing as far as whatever I wanted with whoever. All along I had her in the back of my mind. It kinda sucked because 1 time I just told this one chick to get hell out of my apartment because I felt so guilty. Like a moron I told her I haven't gotten fully over my ex and while I was banging her, my ex kept coming in my head. I got slapped. You can imagine the awkwardness in the room as soon as I told her. The chick couldn't believe what I just told her. Anyhow, after another 3 months of stuff like that going on I couldn't take it anymore. Luckily for me she was going through the same thing as far as being depressed and not wanting anyone other than me. ( I think chicks fall in love with a guy much quicker than guys falling for chicks.)

Finally, after straying away for some time I decided that she was the best I've ever had. True, she may have some things that annoy me but I've found that I can deal with her issues more than the other chicks of the past. To make a long story short, we got back together and have been happier than ever. When we started dating again she asked me how did I know I loved her. I told her she is the only girl I've ever known whos kisses make my skin feel weak. She is the only girl who can get my full undivided attention when speaking, and that when she speaks, her words do not go in one ear and right out the other ( for me thats a big thing because I usally turn on my selective hearing when a chick is yapping to me). I told her that after dating her for the time we did, she's become apart of me and losing her would be like losing a part of myself that I could never get back. Then I threw in alittle humour since she was crying and had her arms around me, I said, "and the fact that you seduced me." She playfully popped me across the face and said it was "inevitable", " I always get what I want".

My point is, if this guy is everything you say he is and he makes you very happy when around him, stay with him. Don't start doing what I normally do and begin to pick out the bad things about your opposite, as well as dwell on the irritative things he/she does. Once that starts happening it's all downhill. You have to open yourself up alittle to this guy and open him up as well.

After the 2 weeks is up, come hit me up.... we'll take this in baby steps. I'll try to help you out as much as I can. 2 weeks will be major progress.

As for the USC and UF game......If I'm not mistaken thats home coming for UF. If you're going to come down here and stay in Gainesville, I'll give you my new cell number and you can hang out with Jenn and the older DGs ( from 98 & 99) at UF. I've told her about you and she said you kinda sound like her before she met me. If you come I'll let her give you her cell number. Most of the older DGs don't go around the house often, their like older pikes, we don't go around the house all that often anymore neither. You and your girls might have the luxury of being able to hang with the south florida greek crowd at UF, we'll show you how to party Florida style. LOL

Hit me up on the email if you want..... Dasangelsman@hotmail.com

*smooches*, Craig

UF_PikePC98 · #19 09-09-2002, 01:19 PM

BTW, where did you get this message? I thought this was posted a LONG time ago.

sororitygirl2 · #20 09-09-2002, 03:17 PM

Okay, so I don't know ya'll and it seems like you guys are pretty tight, but I'm going to butt in...

If you have something really, really great, don't be so easily distracted by what could be better. I have done it and what appears better usually ends up not being so (ie. a guy may be really hot, intelligent, fun, etc... but once you get to know him he may have severe baggage/control issues/ any number of problems).

KappaKittyCat · #21 09-09-2002, 05:31 PM

Woah. That's about all I have to say.

UF_Pike, you boggle me. I'm not sure whether, meeting you in real life, I'd love you or hate you.

Probably both.

Cream, you're the diva with the smilies. How on earth do you do that?

UF_PikePC98 · #22 09-09-2002, 07:54 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by KappaKittyCat
Woah. That's about all I have to say.

UF_Pike, you boggle me. I'm not sure whether, meeting you in real life, I'd love you or hate you.

Probably both.

Cream, you're the diva with the smilies. How on earth do you do that?

KappaKittyKat,

You'd be like everyone else, have nothing but luvvvv for me......

Shark_in_Skirt · #23 09-10-2002, 12:39 AM

I just had to say that this has been by far the funniest thread I've ever read on GC.

Note to Self: Although one man does not represent an entire fraternity on a national or local level, stay away from Pikes. *scared*
Note to Self #2: Do not let Boyfriend pledge Pike lest he should become perverse enough to be totally incapable of serious commitment. Sigma Chi it is.
Note to Self #3: Try not to continue metaphorically casterating Boyfriend by talking about marriage and children.

KappaKittyCat · #24 09-10-2002, 10:28 AM

Note to Self #1: Although one man does not represent an entire fraternity on a national or local level, stay away from Pikes. *scared*
Note to Self #2: Do not let Boyfriend pledge Pike lest he should become perverse enough to be totally incapable of serious commitment. Sigma Chi it is.
Note to Self #3: Try not to continue metaphorically casterating Boyfriend by talking about marriage and children. -Shark_in_Skirt

Darling,

I understand your sentiments. May I also suggest Phi Kappa Tau for Boyfriend. Last year Mu Chapter's rush posters said, "Every once in a while a man comes along who's not afraid to be a GENTLEMAN!"

I also have had the *fear* when it comes to stereotypes that I know I shouldn't hold because they aren't true. In my case, it's Betas named Chris. Last year I gave the "Watch out for Betas named Chris" speech to several freshman women on my floor who had not watched out for Betas named Chris and had lived to regret it. Now, I'm sure that there are tons of Betas named Chris out there who are fabulous men, but there are enough Betas named Chris in my little corner of the sky to leave me quivering in my boots whenever a cute little freshman girl comes up to me and says, "So I met this really fabulous guy over at Beta last night... His name's Chris."

EEK!

CarolinaDG · #25 09-24-2002, 11:54 PM

Craig-
I found it by pulling up a search for my name. It was a thread that I honestly had no clue about...

Just figured I'd give the whole update... Sigmachi and I are still doing well after a month (whoa!). I'll give a quick little update, though. I don't want to get too personal, but...

... Numero Uno.. I was out this past Thursday night at another fraternity's party (and no, still not a Pike party, sorry) with the girls, just hanging out. I had decided that night that if I didn't see my man that he was dumped (I hadn't seen him all week). Well, long story short, I ended up calling one of his brothers to find out where he was, and found out he had IM'd me, so I walked all the way back to my dorm to go see his IM, then went over to the frat quad to see him. Ok, let's keep in mind, I may not have been in the best state of mind (when I say I went out, I mean I went OUT... like a rock star).

...So, that night we had the whole, "we're only seeing each other" talk. Wow. Scary stuff for me. Oh, and the other update. My KA ex and I mended our ways. He's now practically engaged, but we figured out what went wrong with us and why we misunderstood each other... i.e. CLOSURE with a capital 'C'

Anyway, so we're doing great now. Haven't talked to him in a couple of days (we said we wouldn't, though... I have 4 tests, a paper, and a quiz this week, and God knows what awful things he has with his schedule) but I'm assuming we'll see each other this weekend. We're both so independent it's scary. The exact reverse of how KA and I were, on the phone every night with each other checking up to make sure we were behaving. I think I just trust the present boy more.

... And, no, I'm not in love... not yet... but you know the little thrill of kissing someone you really are head over heels for? Yeah, I only have to think about kissing him, and it makes me smile. People driving in their cars that see me walking down the street must think I'm psycho.

And the UF/USC game IS homecoming. One of our girls e-mailed the president, I think, or maybe one of the other girls, I'm not sure. If I do get in touch with y'all, keep in mind that I'm an SC girl... don't try to corrupt me TOO much.

Hootie · #26 09-25-2002, 01:37 AM

Uf Pike does have some good things to say somewhere in his long posts. I'm taking a Communications and Human Relations course and what he's talking about is called "fatal attraction" or in other words things that you once enjoy or love about your partner end up being the things you hate in the end. OR you just find yourself nit picking things just because.

It happens to all of us. I was engaged for 9 months and although I loved the guy with all my heart, they way he treated me started to show through...and those were the things that I started having complaints about. His free spirit wasn't what I needed while being depressed and homesick. He was incapable with communicating so we had a VERY hard time setteling differences that ended up bringing us to shambles.

I don't quite know YOUR situation, but take it from someone who knows....if you start to dislike things then it's probably a no go!

Hootie