Sisterfriends of GC-10 questions for ya!

[OhSoVeryLadylike]

Sisterfriends of GC-10 questions for ya!

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

Yes, I have always had a strong interest in my organization of choice.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?


No, I feel I have made the best decision for ME. No one else's opinion should deter me from my interests and beliefs. The only influence I let people have over me are positive ones.


4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

No, I would not be offended b/c one if I am being discrete then no one in another organization should how "clear" my interest in another organization is. If a member of another organization came to me I would be flattered to know that she sees enough good to me to want me as a member.
5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

It depends on the person and their tactics. If someone comes to me badmouthing another organization to uplift theirs, I would find that person to be unworthy of my time. But if someone were to mention the merits of one organization to broaden my horizions and let me make my own decisions that is fine.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

As stated above if the person came at me in the wrong manner, I would hold it against her personally, she doesn't voice the opinions of the whole (I am going through with a group I work with now).


7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

It says nothing that person may not understand that what's best for him/her may not be best for me. I would just have to be strong enough in my convictions to not be swayed.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

[COLOR=orange]If I were to do this, I would be very weak. But I can't see myself being drawn in like that.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

Looking myself in the mirror would not be the biggest problem, looking the members of the organization in their knowing that everytime I say I love this org. I would lying to them and myself.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
I would feel I have no integrity if you can't stand up for what you believe in then you may get what you really want.

[lil_sunshine]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

Just some questions for you to ponder over.

Well, to answer your questions, AKA2D '91:

1. Yes; I decided when I was 13 years old
2. Never!
3. Not in a million years!
4. Yes I would, but I'd keep that type of attitude to myself; it's only ladylike. I'd let that person know in a nice way that I'm not interested without revealing where my interest lies.
5. I think that it says that she obviously doesn't know who she's dealing with and may think that since she's done this before and it worked, she could try to continue to do it again and again...
6. Individuals should be held fully responsible for their own actions. I don't think a group of people should have to be for the simple fact that the opinions of one person don't necessarily represent the opinions of a group.
7. I think that it says that she thinks that she may be able to do this and earn an award or some typre of recognition from her fellow members, when in reality, she may be trying to earn new friends b/c the ones she may have might not like her that much. I also think it says something about her self-esteem....
8. If I were to ever follow someone else's lead and do what they thought was best for me, I could never forgive myself b/c I didn't stand up for what I truly believe in and let someone else take over my brain and control my every move.
9. Definitely not! I'd be tooo angry at myself to do so!!!
10. That would say a lot about my integrity; namely that I don't have any, and if I do, then I'm just too weak to use it.

[strobelitehoney]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

Yes


2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

NO

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

NO, BUT I'LL GIVE THEM A CHANCE TO STATE THEIR CASE


4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

NO

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

THEY ARE PERSISTENT

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

I WOULDN'T FIND FAULT AT ALL. I'LL VIEW THAT PERSON AS A HARDWORKER, FOR THEIR ORG(IF THEY ARE A MEMBER) If not, a hardworker, for a friend.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

She thinks you would be a worthy asset, Or she thinks joining something else, is not worthy.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

A follower, and full of self doubt

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
Of course i can look in the mirror? I look pretty good If i may say so myself. LOL just playing NO I couldn't not after being suckered to do something I didn't want to.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
I'm strong enough to hold my own.
Just some questions for you to ponder over.

[prettyone]

1) Yes, I can't ever remember wanting to do something else..

2) Hell no! I can say this first hand because people are always trying to sway my decision.


3) No once again, I think that goes back to how strong of an individual you are. No one is going to make you something you don't really want to.

4) No I wouldn't be offended, just flattered!!

5) I agree with strobelitehoney when I say they are probably just persistent, or you could be giving off vibes that your mind is not completely made up??

6) No I don't see any fault in that at all, with either the individual or the organization. I would look at it as recruiting.

7) I would just look at that as her wanting me to share this experience with her, but sometimes you have to travel your own road.

8) You wouldn't be a person you would be a jellyfish!!

9) No, because in no way can I see myself being talked into something that I don't want to do like that.. Especially if this is a lifelong decision.

10) It would definitely leave a negative mark on my integrity, and I would probably be upset with myself for awhile.

Thanks!!!

[techie_girl_44]

Although I am not actively pursuing the organization I am interested in, I am a sisterfriend, to all my sisters. So here we go...


1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

-Yes, I did.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

-There is no way in the world. I let nobody influence my decisions on anything unless I know and respect them. I that case I will take into consideration their opinions but I will make my own decisions.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

See question number 2.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

-First of all, nobody else should know my intentions but me. However, I wouldn't be offended, that would just re-enforce my thinking that I am a valuable person to have as a part of any organization. I would have to set that person straight though. (In a nice way )

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

-Well, as I stated before, they shouldn't know my intent to begin with. This would prove to me that this person does not respect my opinions and choices.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

-I don't think I would find "fault" with a whole organization for one members action's. Thats ridiculous, like saying I don't like a religion because of one fanatic. I don't think I could find fault with the person either, because I should not have made my intentions known to that person to start with. I would find fault with mysfelf for telling.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

-Well, it could say one of two things. One, the person thinks I would make a good member of their organization and would be an asset. Two, the person has agenda against me or the organization I am interested in.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

-That would make me a person who isn't confident in my choices.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

-If I EVER let someone sway my decisions (again that will never happen), I would be able to look myself in the mirror (gotta look in the mirror to do my hair and whatnot ). However, I would know that I am looking at a weakling.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

integrity

2. Moral soundness; honesty; freedom from corrupting influence or motive ; -- used especially with reference to the fulfillment of contracts, the discharge of agencies, trusts, and the like; uprightness; rectitude.

-That I have NO integrity.

[strobelitehoney]

Originally posted by prettyone
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8) You wouldn't be a person you would be a jellyfish!!

Thanks!!!

LMAO AT YOU

A JELLYFISH. I like that one. I'm picturing a person's body, with a jelly fish head.

LMAO. wooooooooo
must've been the Kool-aid.

[pointNclick]

1. Yes. I decided over 10 years ago.
2. No.
3. No.
4. No.
5. It says that they are convinced about their organization and they want others to see how great it is. That is their opinion. As long as they were not stalking me and shoving it down my throat-- it would not bother me. They got luv for their organization.
6. No need to find fault period. But if I had to, it would be with the person.
7. Same as #5. As the old church spiritual says, "I shall not be moved."
8. I would not be myself, so I have no way to answer this.
9. LOL.. of course I could. I would be true to myself regardless. That person can't "fade me."
10. I am true to myself, period. My integrity would not be in question in such a scenario.

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

Just some questions for you to ponder over.

[AKA2D '91]

Thanks for responding.

I didn't realize until now, how some of these questions kind of hit home.

My sister isn't greek. However, when she was in college, our cousin was a member (chapter President) of ABC organization. Also, her sister was a chapter member too. So, when it was almost time for my sister to graduate, even though they knew she wanted to be an AKA, they told her she could be a member of their organization. double My sister thanked them, and told them, that that was not necessary. It was one way and one way only or no way. It's been umpteen years later and it's still no way. LMAO!

[nikki25]

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

Yes. Long before.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

No.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

No. The wonderful thing about life is that it is diverse. People have different ways of seeing and thinking about themselves and the world around them. Organizations are microcosmic representations of the world around us. Those in them represent have different ways of thinking about and seeing the world.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

No. I wouldn't be offended, but honored. But their offering doesn't mean that I would want to accept. I would be gracious in my decline.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

It may not suggest anything negative at all. It can simply be that this person really wants you to be in their organization. But after continued pressing, and my constant declines, it would suggest to me that she does not respect my ability to make up my own mind, nor does she respect and support my decision.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

Members are appendages to, but are not the organization itself. They may represent the ideals, be greatly active, but are not the organization in its entirety. I wouldn't find fault with the organization, nor would I try to find fault with the person. I would still love her and not try to frown at her. We just had a misunderstanding.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

Refer to my answer to #5.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

Weak...lacking any real fortitude as an individual.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

I can't imagine myself being that gullible. If I did something like that, it would be so far apart from my character. I would need to eventually move on and get to the business of my daily grooming.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

As I said, I would have a hard time going against my intented goals. I truly do place a high premium on integrity in my own life and those surrounding me. But on a purely hypothetical note...it would speak poorly of one's integrity...or a lack thereof. Integrity is really about one's ability to remain true to themselves in spite of challenges.

[kitten03]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

* Yes

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

* Certainly Not

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

* These are the actions of one individuals and since they dont always represent everyone in the organizations opinion. So I can't let them sway my opinions

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

*Naw, it's kind of flattering. Although I may not be interested, it's good to know that your qualities are seen and are admired.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

* It tells me one of two things. One, maybe they think I'm such a great person that I'd be an asset to any organization though my interest is clear. Or two maybe it is a negative person who will offer their organization to compete or challenge my views on my organization of interest.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

* Always with the individual. Members of any organization are not the Borg with one conscious and idea. So each member has their own ideas and qualities thus the fault will be with the one instead of the whole.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

* Maybe the person doesn't understand how intense my feelings towards my interests. or Maybe they're a hater?

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

* I'd have to become so weak that I'd lower my standards to simply be greek. That is not why I'm interested in this organization. To me it's a lifetime commitment and there's no room for anyone who is weak.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

* I might but i wouldn't be proud of myself

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

* It basically says I have little to no integrity because I cant and wont stand up for what i believe in.

Just some questions for you to ponder over.

[Diva_56]

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?
Yes I did

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
NO. Choosing an organization you are planning to make a lifetime commitment to does not and should not involve anyone but you. Allowing a person to sway you seems to show a lack of conviction.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?
No, because that person does not refect the National organization, just her mood that particualr day. People are falliable and we will make mistakes. I will not blame that person's shortcomings on Alpha Kappa Alpha.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?
No I would thank that person for considering me but my heart is set on Alpha Kappa Alpha, no offense taken

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?
If this person knew about my interest in Alpha Kappa Alpha, I would think that they are rather desprate or just don't get it. i won't work with me.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?
If the person is unyielding in her efforts to convince me I would probably still blame the person and not the organization for her actions.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?
Again, it makes me think that the person is recruiting me than the other way around.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?
A follower and not a leader, and very weak willed.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
Yes, although I know I would never do such a thing, I am still a God fearing woman with the will to suceed. I don't think it is the most terrible thing in the world because I'm sure that many greeks were pressured into joining XYZ when they wanted to be in ABC. They coped with there decision and still served their repsective orgs.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
in·teg·ri·ty Pronunciation Key (n-tgr-t)
n.
Steadfast adherence to a strict moral or ethical code.
The state of being unimpaired; soundness.
The quality or condition of being whole or undivided; completeness.

Is there something immoral about choosing any greek organization whether you were influenced by someone or not? See the problem with this is that people are bound to their own moral and ethical beleifs. IMHO it says nothing about anyone's integrity.

[Talaxe]

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

**Yes, long before this website.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
**Never.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?
**No. It's not fair to base your judgement of an entire group of people from one person.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?
**I would be flattered.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?
**They don't really respect my dreams.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?
**Just the person. People are individuals and make mistakes.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?
**I would feel that the person simply adores their organization and feels you would be a great candidate.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?
**Very unhappy.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
**I would never do such a thing, so this question is a bit moot.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
in·teg·ri·ty Pronunciation Key (n-tgr-t)
**See answer #9.

[OneOneTwo]

Sup, I know ya'll said SISTERfriends, but I hope you don't mind me answering.

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

Yes, I knew since I was 17 I that I want to be a member of ABC.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

Many have tried... ALL have failed. ABC is my FINAL answer!

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

No because I wanted to be a member of ABC before I met any of the members . If somebody can be easily swayed then that is a sign that membership SHOULD NOT be for them.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

Speaking for me personally, ALL the Greeks on my yard know I want to be a member of ABC (I had no say in this but that's cool ). And I happen to have friends in DEF and XYZ, more than I do in ABC... they may tease me because I have not obtained membership, but they respect me. However, if they were a transfer student and they didn't know, I would not be offended.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

That they don't know me very well and that they haven't been to this school very long because if they did they would already know not to ask (I do mean that humbly).

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

Only the person... only the person.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow him into his organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

The same answer as the one in #5.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

LORD help me that this incident SHALL NOT happen because if it do, then it means I have truly lost my sanity. At that point I would be non-human.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

What mirror?! I wouldn't be able to look at one.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

What that says is that as a person, I have not only lost my integrity, I have disrespected both the organization I truly want to gain membership in and the one I would currently be a member of (that won't happen but just saying). You can't change your mind on something like that because once you say you want to be an ABC, it is etched in stone.


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[AKA2D '91]

make sure you use a COLOR that people can read.



LMAO!

[pretty_girl82]

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?
- I have been interested in AKA, Inc since I was six yrs old and I learnedd about GC while researching

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
- First of all, if joining the org. is in your heart then nobody can sway your interest.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

-AKA is in my heart and I feel strongly about joining, I have friends who are joing 123 and XYZ and they are always trying to sway me, we have been girls for years, but this is a lifetime commitment and AKA is in my heart.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?
-No because they don't know of my intentions. I would clearly say "Thanks for the offer, but I am not interested."

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?
- They see a quality in you that is an assessment to them. However, if they knew of my interest and still tried to pursue, then I would become upset because they are not respecting my decision.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?
- The person because she may have different views about me compared to the rest of the sorority.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?
- That she will settle for anything and that she is desperate. It is crazy to have ask someone or persuade them to join sisterhood of XYZ, when they are not even interested.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?
- I would be a confused individual because obviously I am not sure if I can lose interest in one org. to go to another.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
- No because I would know that the real reason I joined the organization was because I was persuaded. Not becasue of what they stand for or because we all share a common interest.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
- Plain and simple........there is none.