Third time's the charm: Colony?

[AZTheta]

^^^ I qfp'ed her post about what happened during informal her freshman year. She didn't get a bid from the sorority her friends wanted that she didn't want. It's the 2nd QFP in my post (see #11 in this thread).

Frankly I think she should go through formal, and try for the colony. That will put an end to all of this longing.

[Xidelt]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

^^^ I'm hoping so since it is wildly inaccurate.

At SOME schools they take virtually everyone who applies but at others they have 2 or 3 times as many girls as spots. Class standing in this case is a benefit because they will need but not get much interest from very many upper classmen. But it is not a shoo in.

And "not fitting in anywhere else" can mean a myriad of different things. If she picks her boogers and eats them, she will not fit in with the other sororities. Do you think the colony wants her? Of course this is not my assumption. It sounds to me like she didn't formal rush as a freshman, informal rushed but couldn't finish because of a luke-warm obligation, didn't formal rush as a sophomore for no reason that was given, and then didn't informal rush as a sophomore because of a friggin puppy. Now her college days are waning and she's realizing she put her priorities, I don't want to say in the WRONG place, but in places that are not conducive to sorority membership.

I died.

[navane]

Originally Posted by coveredinpaint

I've also technically been through recruitment twice (albeit both were crapshoots)

Informal recruitment is a crapshoot? I'm not sure I understand what you mean here. You had two opportunities and you didn't use those opportunities to your best advantage.

(Heaven knows the fact I'm an art student is already one factor against me.)

As someone else mentioned, being an art student is not a negative thing. Unless you fit some crazy, over-the-top stereotype, I don't see why your major would be an issue.

Originally Posted by OldOleMiss

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coveredinpaint- I don’t mean to sound harsh here- and I am not discouraging you from trying colony recruitment, but to be honest it sounds like you want the “benefits” of being in a sorority without actually having to put in the time and effort… You also come across to me as a big time excuse maker- Being in a sorority ESPECIALLY A COLONY!!! takes not only a lot of time and effort but a lot of self-sacrifice… your sisters will be counting on you to be there… for everything… especially formal rush next year…. and I’m sorry- “I had to move”, “I had to help plan a family members wedding”, “I got a puppy”- will not cut it!!! (and seriously?? you did not just say you dropped out because you unexpectedly got a puppy did you???- Carnation’s right just DO. NOT. MENTION that if you decide to go through)…

I agree with andthen- you need to seriously and realistically think about what you can bring to the table in terms of time, commitment and dedication before you decide.

coveredinpaint, I do have to agree here. The excuses you've mentioned don't seem to carry much weight. Perhaps you were afraid of being rejected again, dropped out of your 2nd informal recruitment and are now using some silly excuses as to why you didn't go through with it?

Originally Posted by AZTheta

Frankly I think she should go through formal, and try for the colony. That will put an end to all of this longing.

Yes. If you go to formal recruitment and/or colony recruitment, you may or may not receive a bid. If you don't try at all, you definitely won't get a bid. If you give it a go, you can at least have some peace in knowing you gave it a proper shot and not have to wonder "what if". BUT, before you do, make sure you honestly consider if you're ready to put aside all of the excuses and make the commitment that a sorority requires.

[jolene]

Go ahead and try for it. I didn't join a sorority until my junior year because I transferred from a 2 year school with (obviously) no Greek system, but still wanted that opportunity to get more involved on campus and experience Greek life. Being in sorority will require multi-tasking. Sisters are queens of time management. My sisters had jobs, pets, family obligations, etc. Some were also planning their own weddings.

PS: My two year school is now a 4 year with a budding Greek system (they have AOPi and Alpha Kappa Lambda).

[DubaiSis]

A junior transfer =/= a senior who went through rush twice before at the same school.