Third time's the charm: Colony?

[OldOleMiss]

Originally Posted by coveredinpaint

I worried that I might have some conflicts in my schedule and that's certainly a concern. I was just wondering if it might be wishing a little unrealistically about my odds.

the second time I didn't finish events because I was tied up wedding planning. I only made it to one day.

I convinced them how much I wanted to try, we ended up moving during the weekend of fall rush.

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Plus, I also was surprised with a puppy so that took up all of my time.

coveredinpaint- I don’t mean to sound harsh here- and I am not discouraging you from trying colony recruitment, but to be honest it sounds like you want the “benefits” of being in a sorority without actually having to put in the time and effort… You also come across to me as a big time excuse maker- Being in a sorority ESPECIALLY A COLONY!!! takes not only a lot of time and effort but a lot of self-sacrifice… your sisters will be counting on you to be there… for everything… especially formal rush next year…. and I’m sorry- “I had to move”, “I had to help plan a family members wedding”, “I got a puppy”- will not cut it!!! (and seriously?? you did not just say you dropped out because you unexpectedly got a puppy did you???- Carnation’s right just DO. NOT. MENTION that if you decide to go through)…

I agree with andthen- you need to seriously and realistically think about what you can bring to the table in terms of time, commitment and dedication before you decide.

[coveredinpaint]

I guess you're right. I should probably just focus on the rest of my college career. I'm being a bit naive about this, naturally. You can't do everything you want. Maybe this isn't for me.

Thanks for the advice.

[navane]

Originally Posted by coveredinpaint

I've also technically been through recruitment twice (albeit both were crapshoots)

Informal recruitment is a crapshoot? I'm not sure I understand what you mean here. You had two opportunities and you didn't use those opportunities to your best advantage.

(Heaven knows the fact I'm an art student is already one factor against me.)

As someone else mentioned, being an art student is not a negative thing. Unless you fit some crazy, over-the-top stereotype, I don't see why your major would be an issue.

Originally Posted by OldOleMiss

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coveredinpaint- I don’t mean to sound harsh here- and I am not discouraging you from trying colony recruitment, but to be honest it sounds like you want the “benefits” of being in a sorority without actually having to put in the time and effort… You also come across to me as a big time excuse maker- Being in a sorority ESPECIALLY A COLONY!!! takes not only a lot of time and effort but a lot of self-sacrifice… your sisters will be counting on you to be there… for everything… especially formal rush next year…. and I’m sorry- “I had to move”, “I had to help plan a family members wedding”, “I got a puppy”- will not cut it!!! (and seriously?? you did not just say you dropped out because you unexpectedly got a puppy did you???- Carnation’s right just DO. NOT. MENTION that if you decide to go through)…

I agree with andthen- you need to seriously and realistically think about what you can bring to the table in terms of time, commitment and dedication before you decide.

coveredinpaint, I do have to agree here. The excuses you've mentioned don't seem to carry much weight. Perhaps you were afraid of being rejected again, dropped out of your 2nd informal recruitment and are now using some silly excuses as to why you didn't go through with it?

Originally Posted by AZTheta

Frankly I think she should go through formal, and try for the colony. That will put an end to all of this longing.

Yes. If you go to formal recruitment and/or colony recruitment, you may or may not receive a bid. If you don't try at all, you definitely won't get a bid. If you give it a go, you can at least have some peace in knowing you gave it a proper shot and not have to wonder "what if". BUT, before you do, make sure you honestly consider if you're ready to put aside all of the excuses and make the commitment that a sorority requires.