i was almost in a sorority!!

[DrPhil]

Reputations are subjective and often based on gendered double standards. Most people don't believe what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

ETA: At the college level and alumnae/alumni/graduate level, I have seen people try to ruin aspirants' and members' reputations and experiences over mere gossip, misunderstandings, disagreements, and butthurt feelings. People can be extremely phony, childish, and underhanded for no reason other than they are vindictive and have too much time on their hands. That's why I never listened to everyone's opinion of aspirants (and members) when I was a collegiate member and as an alumnae member.

[Katmandu]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Reputations are subjective and often based on gendered double standards. Most people don't believe what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Truth! I have been around a long time, work in a very patriarchal and sexist environment and this statement is very true. We still are very fond of slut shaming women and praising men (or at least reacting neutrally) when observing the exact same behavior.