Do looks matter - Page 2

ClassyLady · #16 01-30-2002, 01:04 PM

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Originally posted by Reds6
I met a guy who is very nice, head on straight whole nine, but I don't think I'm that attracted to him physically, but mentally I am. He has a bush that just bothers the heck out of me. What to do? What to do?

I know how you feel.

When I first met my boyfriend, I did not like him at all. I knew that he was really into me, but it just wasn't there. But, as I got to know him, I started liking him a lot more. We connected very well mentally but I still didn't think that he was all that I wanted physically.

That mental connection kept getting stronger the more time that I spent with him. As I started to like him as a person more, he started looking better to me. Now, I think he looks just as good as anybody else.

He's not a pretty boy or the kind that has girls chasing him all of the time. And, I'm quite comfortable with that. I don't have to worry about him running around on me. He treats me very well and I have no complaints.

My man ain't ugly, but he's not about to make any woman, except me, faint either.

He looks good to me.

Reds: I say keep getting to know him. And, if you really start to like him, you'll start to be attracted to him too.

Reds6 · #17 01-30-2002, 01:33 PM

Thanks for all the responses and free therapy.

I have come to the conclusion that I think its more than his looks. I have dated men that weren't good looking, but I found them sexy. i don't know if I find him sexy and I think that is the problem. I can handle not being the best looking, I actually prefer it, its the lack of sex appeal. I'm not shy (if you can't tell) so I have no problem with saying lets hit the barber shop.
Right now I think I'm going to lay low in the cut and see what happens.

tickledpink · #18 01-31-2002, 03:28 AM

Looks shouldn't matter... unfortunately, as humans we tend to look at the outside first, then we try to get to know the person inside. Then, we find ourselves in situations where the person may be attractive, but shallow, or doggish, or unintelligent, or just plain crazy.

I had a boyfriend once that people would have considered unattractive, or not too cute at first glance. I remember, I didn't like him at first, but he could siiiinnnnnng!

Once I heard him sing, that was it for me. The more I got to know him, the more attracted I was to him, but it wasn't because of his looks (even though, after I took a good look at him, I noticed the dimples and the smile...

) , but more because of how talented, smart, and funny he was.

librasoul22 · #19 03-28-2003, 11:50 PM

I am gonna keep it real and say looks SO matter. Part of the reason I am single is because I am way picky. For some reason I only feel a chemistry with men who are very physically attractive (no matter how cool they are...we can be the closest of friends, but that's it). It seems the best looking men don't know how to act, so I am just kind of floating along. I don't mind being single at all though, I would rather be by myself than settle. Probably as I get older and wiser I will realize that I will have to compromise somewhere...but for right now, I am in no rush.

PrettyNPearls · #20 03-29-2003, 12:37 AM

sphinxpoet,

Trust me the pickins are slim and few and far between. Some men might argue the same point about finding a suitable woman to date. In my opinion, and this was already said there must be a balance. Usually if they are all that fine they are lacking something else. C'mon now. Yall know what I'm talkin' bout.

Anywho, looks are not everything but attraction is a part of the package. Librasoul22, if all else fails. Pray!!!!! God is not going to give you a fish if you ask Him for prime rib

As for the bush some standards you can't skimp on. In your mind already know what you are looking. Obviously the bush is not working for you

. It's okay. Everyone has standards. Whatever you do, don't go below them. Set it and forget it

Just my $19.08 worth.

AKA
#1
TMO
Spr. 2002

Dionysus · #21 03-29-2003, 12:55 AM

Hmmm looks are somewhat important, but style is even more important to me. His taste in clothes, hairstyle, accessories, etc. can provide important clues to his personality, background, upbringing, and even priorties.

PrettyNPearls · #22 03-29-2003, 01:53 PM

Correction...

I meant to direct my second paragraph to Reds6 not librasoul22.

AKA
#1
TMO
Spr. 2002

Reds6 · #23 03-29-2003, 06:33 PM

I'm really crackin up that someone, brought life to this thread after almost a year.
Well since they did, I guess I will update everyone on the situation. There was always something bothering me about this guy but i just couldn't put my finger on it on it went beyond the looks issue.
Anywho, him and i decided to stop dating and we are good friends. I think he still wants to date me but the fact that he told me he had a homosexual experience when he was young (gay man giving him head) killed any thoughts of dating him again.
YUCK!

CrimsonTide4 · #24 03-29-2003, 06:41 PM

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Originally posted by Reds6
I'm really crackin up that someone, brought life to this thread after almost a year.
Well since they did, I guess I will update everyone on the situation. There was always something bothering me about this guy but i just couldn't put my finger on it on it went beyond the looks issue.
Anywho, him and i decided to stop dating and we are good friends. I think he still wants to date me but the fact that he told me he had a homosexual experience when he was young (gay man giving him head) killed any thoughts of dating him again.
YUCK!

HEY SAWRAH!!

I bought it back up last night, I was reading old threads and thought this would spark likely convo.

+ LOL @ you and your male experience.

Reds6 · #25 03-29-2003, 06:46 PM

LOL But Soror, why was he trying to convince me it was natural to be attracted to the same sex at least once in your life and that doesn't mean you are gay if you want to screw them.
Well Hell what does that make you!
Everytime I see him i think mustache on his d@@K!

Ideal08 · #26 03-29-2003, 07:20 PM

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Originally posted by Reds6
LOL But Soror, why was he trying to convince me it was natural to be attracted to the same sex at least once in your life and that doesn't mean you are gay if you want to screw them.
Well Hell what does that make you!
Everytime I see him i think mustache on his d@@K!

Reds6, did you grow up in this area, too? Cuz that is SO indicative of the DC metro uhrea.

That doesn't mean you are gay if you want to screw them?????????

Girl, please. That is TOO tripped out right there.

CT4, I can't BELIEVE I missed that post about IW!!! LMAO!! Memories, man, I'm tellin' you.

As far as my .08, looks matter to a point. Some things I just can't take. Yuck mouth is one of them. Short dudes are another. Clean nails are yet another. Those are all apart of appearance, and they need to be on point. You can't touch me with no dirty nails. And you can't kiss me with no yuck mouth. But other than that, I just want someone to treat me right. If you fine as all get out, that's cool, but if not, that's cool, too. I want to be happy and have fun. If you cool and can chill, hold an intelligent conversation, then I'm cool, too. Cuz if you are fine and can't stimulate me mentally, I won't be stimulated physically.

I can think back to past relationships and crushes, and LAWD, they weren't even cute, y'all, LOL LOL LOL!!! CT4, remember G. Rogers?!?!?!?!? LMAO!!!

CrimsonTide4 · #27 03-29-2003, 07:43 PM

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Originally posted by Reds6

Everytime I see him i think mustache on his d@@K!

ROFLMAO

I tell you the truth. You and DeltaQTE have a way of saying stuff that is just so HILARIOUS.

Oh and Ideal, HE HAD BODY!!!

THat is why I wanna see Mr. P when I go home in August to see was it worth it 12 years ago.