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02-04-2014, 06:14 PM
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Originally Posted by 33girl
I'll say what I've said before about being in a chapter with "negative" ratings. Be in everyone's face about the fact that you are an ABC and ABC is the best mother bleeping sorority that ever existed and if they don't agree then ain't nobody got time for that. If you just hang your head and never wear letters and complain about being in your sorority, you are letting others define you.
I also found that I had/have a much easier time making friends with people in other sororities and the Greek community in general when I have this attitude. No one in PQR is going to want to be friends with you when your every move/emotion/action/body language states how envious you are of her and how much you wish you were a PQR instead of an ABC. Plus, when you get to know that PQR, you may realize that as much as you love and adore her as a friend...you weren't meant to be her sister. You were meant to have the sisters you already have.
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02-04-2014, 06:53 PM
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Originally Posted by ecstaticboom
etadrisophila- Thank you! And yes I'm sure there are a lot of great ideas on here. AnchorAlumna and 33girl, I agree with what both of you are saying- and just to make it clear, I do wear my letters and don't go sulking around about it, I've just been confused which is why I posted this. But as for the bad ratings statement I made, I was referring to the GPA ratings that people go by- not just reputation around campus.
But yes, I agree that when a sorority has a bad rep, it's usually other girls trying to bring them down, mixed with people not getting to know any of the girls in the chapter.
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People honestly care about GPA ratings??? Wow, college is different than it used to be.
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02-05-2014, 01:46 PM
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I'm going to be brutally honest right now...
Your attitude about your chapter kind of sucks. You have fallen into the "tent talk" about your chapter.
You obviously don't want to be there. I'm not even sure what your confusion is about. You have said nothing positive about your experience with you chapter or your sisters. If you don't want to be there, you don't need our permission to resign your membership.
FWIW I generally encourge girls, who have something positive to say about their chapter to stay with it and try it out, but I can't in my right mind encourage someone who is talking about their chapter negatively and has no positives about greek life in general, to stay active.
Maybe I'm reading what you said wrong, but that's just my opinion.
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02-05-2014, 04:52 PM
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Originally Posted by ASUADPi
I'm going to be brutally honest right now...
Your attitude about your chapter kind of sucks. You have fallen into the "tent talk" about your chapter.
You obviously don't want to be there. I'm not even sure what your confusion is about. You have said nothing positive about your experience with you chapter or your sisters. If you don't want to be there, you don't need our permission to resign your membership.
FWIW I generally encourge girls, who have something positive to say about their chapter to stay with it and try it out, but I can't in my right mind encourage someone who is talking about their chapter negatively and has no positives about greek life in general, to stay active.
Maybe I'm reading what you said wrong, but that's just my opinion.
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Preach! Totally agree with this statement.
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02-17-2014, 07:59 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2013
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ASUADPi- Yes, my attitude for the chapter wasn't the best a couple weeks ago, but I was in a weird place and was confused about a lot. But after a lot of thinking and talking to members in the chapter, I decided to stay in and think I am going to like it a lot. I just needed some time to be involved with the chapter and be around it more.
Thank you for everyone who tried to help- I was looking for advice and your words helped.  I am excited to be staying in the chapter and trying to help it grow and get involved with more.
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02-19-2014, 06:41 AM
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Location: Northeast
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Originally Posted by ecstaticboom
Thank you for everyone who tried to help- I was looking for advice and your words helped. I am excited to be staying in the chapter and trying to help it grow and get involved with more. |
You are welcome! Thanks for coming back to let us know what is happening. I am truly glad that things are going better for you and your sorority.
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