honeymoon fundraising

[AOIIalum]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

My opinion on this stuff is highly documented on GC. Do y'all remember my tantrum about the treadmill?

No, but now I feel the need to find it.

We're at that age where friends of our older boys are starting to get engaged. Of course I still think they're ALL too young, but when more and more are college and grad school graduates I guess maybe they aren't. I just hope we never see a honeymoon cash grab from any of them, because Momma AOIIAlum will give them an earful.

[WVU alpha phi]

My friend (she and her fiance both have great jobs and are not at all hurting for money) is doing this to finance her 2 week honeymoon to Greece. I think it's the tackiest thing ever. Receiving cash/checks as wedding gifts and using that towards your honeymoon is fine, but asking people to "buy us a gift card for this 5 star restaurant!" is so tacky to me.

Don't even get me started on the money dance.

[ADPi95]

Originally Posted by WVU alpha phi

My friend (she and her fiance both have great jobs and are not at all hurting for money) is doing this to finance her 2 week honeymoon to Greece. I think it's the tackiest thing ever. Receiving cash/checks as wedding gifts and using that towards your honeymoon is fine, but asking people to "buy us a gift card for this 5 star restaurant!" is so tacky to me.

Don't even get me started on the money dance.

Speaking of buying a gift card for a 5 star restaurant. The DH and I are going to our friends wedding in a few weeks. I thought it would be a great idea to get them a gift card for a restaurant we know they are going to on their honeymoon instead of a gift (Our Idea. That way, they'll know we're thinking of them on their trip). So I looked up the info online and gift cards started at $750!!! Not, $75, but $750! Yikes! Yeah, we decided that they can pay for their own meal and we'll figure something else out!

Back to the OP. It is extremely tacky. The DH and I didn't get a honeymoon because we couldn't afford it. A lot of people don't go on honeymoons. One day we will and it'll be that much more satisfying when we pay for it ourselves.

[OldOleMiss]

yes I've seen it, and yes its beyond tacky- but good Lord seriously don't get me started on what ISN'T tacky on FB these days... everything from begging for money for honeymoons and weddings to personal fundraising for medical expenses... people honestly have ZERO SHAME any more!!!

[OldOleMiss]

didn't finish --- the absolute WORST I have seen on FB was the bride who listed all of the things that "those of us invited to the wedding"- SHOULDN"T BUY HER!!! Including such items as picture frames, small appliances, and coolers...

[joliebelle]

It is incredibly tacky.
Posting it on facebook is just...beyond tacky.

I have seen HM registries with the flights listed as something that people can buy the couple. If you can't afford to fly to your honeymoon then maybe you shouldn't go.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I don't see why a HM registry is any tackier than a standard gift registry. Either one is pretty much saying "we picked stuff out for you to buy us."

[joliebelle]

Regular registries can become tacky when they are pimped out on facebook or on wedding invitations.

[Nanners52674]

This is reason number 678 why Facebook has become a constant reminder of everything tacky, facepalm, and pearl clutching worthy about our world today.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by OldOleMiss

yes I've seen it, and yes its beyond tacky- but good Lord seriously don't get me started on what ISN'T tacky on FB these days... everything from begging for money for honeymoons and weddings to personal fundraising for medical expenses... people honestly have ZERO SHAME any more!!!

I had a "friend" who randomly posted in numerous Facebook statuses that he was fundraising for a service trip overseas.. to Africa, I believe. I thought he was part of some church group or social club that was trying to plan a big trip together. I was expecting a cookie order sheet or something to be posted that would assist him in raising funds. But oh no... this guy just wanted his friends to send him money which he would supposedly save and spend to go to Africa by himself. Uh.. seriously?!

Surprisingly, no one ever liked or responded to his posts..

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

I attended an Italian wedding where the bride carried a string purse at the reception and men put cash in the bag to dance with the bride. I had never seen this done before and I was sort of

TonyB06, is this what you were referring to?

Don't even get me started on dollar dances, and the like. Ugh. They're extremely annoying and tacky, they're a disruption in the middle of the reception, and they're not even really worth it. I've gone on rants about this on GC before, so I'll stop here.

[Missouri Ivy]

One of my APhi sisters is getting married next month and was just asking opinions about the dollar dance today. While I don't really like the tradition, the older generations around here pretty much expect it to happen. One friend had a suggestion of donating the money from the dollar dance to a charity.

Also, in my neck of the woods, the groom dances too. My poor husband danced with all of my great aunts. It was kind of sweet though.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Missouri Ivy

Also, in my neck of the woods, the groom dances too. My poor husband danced with all of my great aunts. It was kind of sweet though.

Oh yes, this is what I've always seen. And then there's the one guy who thinks he's hilarious by paying to dance with the groom...

[ElieM]

Originally Posted by Missouri Ivy

My poor husband danced with all of my great aunts. It was kind of sweet though.

And here I was a chump for dancing with all my elderly relatives, for free, because they were my guests.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by agzg

This is a tangent but Live-in and I are attending his best friend's wedding in two weeks and they put on the invite "write on the response card your guilty pleasure song" (mine was "Call me Maybe"), and that's now their playlist for the event! I thought it was fun. Now, getting a DJ to play all those songs has proven pretty tricky - they're on their second, because the first refused, saying "I don't let people do my job for me, you might as well set up an iTunes playlist" - which was weird because typically the DJ is the MC of the event.

We went to a wedding recently where they opted for an iTunes playlist instead of a DJ because (a) it was a lot cheaper, and (b) DJs have a habit of making it about themselves instead of the music. They asked a family member to introduce the wedding party and make the few other announcements that were needed. Otherwise it was just an iPod. No one missed the DJ.

As for the topic of the thread—tacky beyond words.

[KKGCaroline]

Over here, couples will more often than not request money for a honeymoon in lieu of wedding gifts, especially if they've lived together for a number of years.

DH & I have been over here for a couple of years now, and been to a fair amount of weddings, and only one couple had a gift registry.

I've never seen the request go up on Facebook before, that in itself is pretty tacky.