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10-29-2012, 05:58 PM
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I'd report her actions to your advisers and standards committee. They will deal with it from there.
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10-29-2012, 06:03 PM
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Oh, wow. Just, WOW.
I think I see clearly what is going on here.
And I give a +1 to Leslie Anne, Kevin, AOII Angel, oh - to EVERYONE who's posted sage advice on this thread.
OP every sorority has challenges and issues. Handle them internally.
Sheesh. Why do people spill everything on the internet to complete strangers? Not just collegiates, but mommys (and the occasional daddy as well). Holy COW. Shut UP already.
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10-29-2012, 10:46 PM
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I'd report her actions to your advisers and standards committee. They will deal with it from there.
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She's in a brand spanking new colony. I doubt that they have either of those things. (Either of those things that are familiar with campus norms and mores, anyway - one campus's slut is another campus's awesome socialite, one campus's sweetheart is another campus's uptight prude.)
Again, this is a non-issue. The girl will probably drop and the problem will be solved.
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10-29-2012, 11:04 PM
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I'd report her actions to your advisers and standards committee. They will deal with it from there.
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LIKE.
33, our colonies would have advisers all over the place. This is a standards case. WHICH DOES NOT MEAN that the dirty linens need to be aired in public!
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10-29-2012, 11:10 PM
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LIKE.
33, our colonies would have advisers all over the place. This is a standards case. WHICH DOES NOT MEAN that the dirty linens need to be aired in public!
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Well if that's the case, shirellestar is more likely to get kicked out than Susie McSluttypants. Her actions are visible and recorded. Honestly, it just sounds like the OP's roommate is a bitch who likes stirring up trouble.
And like I said - what the advisor from Evergreen State thinks is okeydokey is not going to be what would fly at Ole Miss, and vice versa.
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10-29-2012, 11:25 PM
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Well if that's the case, shirellestar is more likely to get kicked out than Susie McSluttypants. Her actions are visible and recorded. Honestly, it just sounds like the OP's roommate is a bitch who likes stirring up trouble.
And like I said - what the advisor from Evergreen State thinks is okeydokey is not going to be what would fly at Ole Miss, and vice versa.
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It should be noted here that Evergreen State does not have a greek system (and likely never will) - so if your advisor is from there that would be a problem .... http://www.evergreen.edu/ 
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10-29-2012, 11:43 PM
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I was just trying to find two colleges as far apart from each other in outlook as possible for the sake of example. Obviously I succeeded.
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10-30-2012, 12:00 AM
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No problem, 33. There isn't a real winner in this situation in the long run.
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10-30-2012, 10:54 AM
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A chapter is only as strong as its weakest member.
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10-30-2012, 10:57 AM
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A chapter is only as strong as its weakest member.
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I respectfully disagree.
Strong chapters have the means and procedures to handle membership issues and can address situations as they arise.
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10-30-2012, 12:27 PM
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I respectfully disagree.
Strong chapters have the means and procedures to handle membership issues and can address situations as they arise.
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And I agree with you... Good, strong chapters deal effectively with their issues.
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10-30-2012, 01:59 PM
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Originally Posted by Kevin
+1
The answer to this question is obvious. If you have to ask, it only serves to demonstrate how clueless you are. If you are that clueless on any subject, you need to talk to your advisers before you go posting your problems online. Go handle your business.
You have no idea as to the lengths some will go to on GC to out you. You stated you colonized last week. How many chapters do you think colonized last week? Not too many I'd imagine.
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She outed herself.
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10-30-2012, 02:36 PM
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Awww, you all really are making me feel bad. I really am sorry. I didn't mean to say anything wrong. Everything was totally unintentional.  Idk, what else to say, I would take it back if I could
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10-30-2012, 03:07 PM
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Awww, you all really are making me feel bad. I really am sorry. I didn't mean to say anything wrong. Everything was totally unintentional. Idk, what else to say, I would take it back if I could |
These may be harsh words, but they need to be said:
You're an adult; you created this situation. There was intention in what you posted, regardless of the motivation. WE didn't make you feel bad. You are responsible for your own feelings.
Next time you want to get advice about a problem, remember to edit what you write with the thought in mind that you have previously posted your school and your affiliation. Better yet, write it out and stick it in a draft folder for 24 hours. Let this be a very important lesson.
Refocus on YOUR sorority, your sisterhood and on the exciting experiences you're going to have this year. Let that help you put things in perspective.
I still stand by my comment upthread about people spilling everything online. It's really time to practice some restraint, and if the shoe fits, then put it on and start walking.
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10-31-2012, 01:42 AM
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Originally Posted by AzTheta
These may be harsh words, but they need to be said:
You're an adult; you created this situation. There was intention in what you posted, regardless of the motivation. WE didn't make you feel bad. You are responsible for your own feelings.
Next time you want to get advice about a problem, remember to edit what you write with the thought in mind that you have previously posted your school and your affiliation. Better yet, write it out and stick it in a draft folder for 24 hours. Let this be a very important lesson.
Refocus on YOUR sorority, your sisterhood and on the exciting experiences you're going to have this year. Let that help you put things in perspective.
I still stand by my comment upthread about people spilling everything online. It's really time to practice some restraint, and if the shoe fits, then put it on and start walking.
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I agree. From now on all venting goes into my diary. I know that I caused the problem and now I have to deal with the consequences and criticism. There's no way I can undo what I wrote, all I can do is apologize, which I've already done. I received a lot of good advice from people who also seem to understand so it wasn't all negative. There's definitely going to be no more GreekChat for me though, that's for sure
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