Can one girl ruin a new sororities reputation?

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by shirellestar

Awww, you all really are making me feel bad. I really am sorry. I didn't mean to say anything wrong. Everything was totally unintentional. Idk, what else to say, I would take it back if I could

These may be harsh words, but they need to be said:

You're an adult; you created this situation. There was intention in what you posted, regardless of the motivation. WE didn't make you feel bad. You are responsible for your own feelings.

Next time you want to get advice about a problem, remember to edit what you write with the thought in mind that you have previously posted your school and your affiliation. Better yet, write it out and stick it in a draft folder for 24 hours. Let this be a very important lesson.

Refocus on YOUR sorority, your sisterhood and on the exciting experiences you're going to have this year. Let that help you put things in perspective.

I still stand by my comment upthread about people spilling everything online. It's really time to practice some restraint, and if the shoe fits, then put it on and start walking.

[shirellestar]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

These may be harsh words, but they need to be said:

You're an adult; you created this situation. There was intention in what you posted, regardless of the motivation. WE didn't make you feel bad. You are responsible for your own feelings.

Next time you want to get advice about a problem, remember to edit what you write with the thought in mind that you have previously posted your school and your affiliation. Better yet, write it out and stick it in a draft folder for 24 hours. Let this be a very important lesson.

Refocus on YOUR sorority, your sisterhood and on the exciting experiences you're going to have this year. Let that help you put things in perspective.

I still stand by my comment upthread about people spilling everything online. It's really time to practice some restraint, and if the shoe fits, then put it on and start walking.

I agree. From now on all venting goes into my diary. I know that I caused the problem and now I have to deal with the consequences and criticism. There's no way I can undo what I wrote, all I can do is apologize, which I've already done. I received a lot of good advice from people who also seem to understand so it wasn't all negative. There's definitely going to be no more GreekChat for me though, that's for sure

[33girl]

No one said you had to stop posting on here. Just be aware that the internet is smaller than you think, and that your situation (a newly colonized sorority) is rather rare. Even if you had been discreet in your location, it's likely someone would have outed you (whether they said so on here or not).

ETA: I wouldn't automatically assume the woman who inspired this whole thread is "troubled" because she likes to drink and sleep around. Different strokes for different folks. If that's not something the sorority can stomach, ask her if she would consider changing her behavior, but don't feel pity for her if she doesn't.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by 33girl

ETA: I wouldn't automatically assume the woman who inspired this whole thread is "troubled" because she likes to drink and sleep around. Different strokes for different folks. If that's not something the sorority can stomach, ask her if she would consider changing her behavior, but don't feel pity for her if she doesn't.

Thanks for this. Enough pearl-clutching and slut-shaming.