HELP!: THINKING OF GOING THROUGH RECRUITMENT FOR A SECOND TIME AS A SOPHOMORE

[28StGreek]

Originally Posted by chi-o_cat

“Wow, we’ve never seen a situation like yours before,” said no Greek Chat member ever.

But I have a pet unicorn that poops rainbows. Does this mean I am top tier material?

Not to be dismissive, but I feel that most of the PNM that are getting all their advice about greek life from Greek Chat, they probably are inadequately prepared for recruitment in general.

So PNMs PLEASE read the advice you're given, and don't argue!

[MaggieXi]

I'm not defending the PNM for dropping out of recruitment or for putting it out there that she believed that she belonged in her top two choices or thinking her situation is "unique". But many of the PNMs that go to Elon are from the northeast or midwest and are not prepared for recruitment compared to their southern counterparts. It's not necessairly their fault, its something that they are just not familiar with. While the school is located in the south, it is heavily populated by students from the northeast.

[Xylochick216]

Originally Posted by MaggieXi

Elon person here...And I know what you are saying between the lines without saying it and I'm not going to be harsh on you because I know the campus and what goes on during the fall. The sororities at Elon are phenomenal marketing machines.

This was also the first year that included KD in formal recruitment. Adding a ninth sorority was an adjustment for everyone. And the poster is correct - record number of PNMs this year!

First off, you don't need to make your decision right now. It hasn't been posted as to whether or not their will be fall informal recruitment. And if there is, most likely the two you were invited back to pref will be participating, maybe one or two more but the number of bids will be limited at each chapter. When/if its publicized, then think about it some more.

While I can't tell you what your chances are, here is some advice that holds true for anyone going through recruitment at Elon:
-Get involved in organizations (which it looks like you are doing)
-Make friends/ maintain friendships with Greek Women in all sororities (not just the ones you think you fit in best with or are considered "top tier")
-Get your GPA up. The all greek women's average GPA from last fall is a 3.36. 6 of the 9 sororities have GPAs above the average. For a sophomore, you may want to have a GPA closer to 3.5 if possible.
- Don't ever be "that girl" and don't associate with "that girl". People have an entire semester to talk.
- Go into recruitment polished, confident and with an open mind.

Every year sophomores get bids to every house. Not every sophomore, but many of them. If you can make yourself stand out for all the right reasons and have true friendships with many of the women in sororities already it can only help you.

PM me if you have any other questions. I know that there is one other Elon GCer that posts regularly.

I'm here! Maggie gave great advice. Sophomores can get bids, but grades have to be good and you have to make sure you aren't doing anything this fall to make the chapters think you're a liability (being rude, being "that girl" at fraternity parties, talking badly about any group, etc. - not saying you are, but I've seen it happen). I'm also not sure if there will be fall recruitment, but it's usually invitation-only.

As a sophomore, keep your options open. Your bottom two could possibly be your ONLY two after a few rounds, so be prepared to decide if you would drop again or if you'd accept a bid. Some groups have their bid lists practically made before recruitment and know which sophomores they'd take. Your choices may be more limited this time around.

[gee_ess]

Despite the fact that much of our very sage advice here on GC can be applied to the typical recruitment scenarios, I really think it is great when a GCer with specific knowledge can provide additional info like Maggixi and xylochick have done here.

Thank you Maggixi and xylochick for all of your help! Also, to everyone else, I didn't mean to sound snotty by saying I had a unique circumstance, I just meant I had trouble navigating greekchat to find something similar to me. Sometimes it can just be hard to search! Lol!

And honestly, like I said before, I regret dropping out of recruitment, because I think joining one of those two sororities would have helped me a lot in adjusting to college life and being far away from home.

Maggixi, you were right. I am from the northeast. I'm from Maryland, and no one in my family is greek, so I honestly had no idea what to expect about recommendations, finding the perfect fit where you might least expect it, etc until after the fact. (Not to make an excuse though.)

I think though, in the long run, it was a good experience to have to learn from and become a stronger person and to move forward.

Sometimes I wish PNMs had more time to think about their choices before and after pref round instead of rushing into one that they might regret later on, as I did. But I'm not trying to make an excuse.

I'm going to think long and hard about it, and see what informal recruitment brings in the fall, and go from there.

And as I said before, I have wonderful friends in ALL of the groups, that were made long BEFORE recruitment ever started. They're true friends, and always will be, and they're not solely defined as a person and human being for which letters they might wear. That's not why I'm friends with them.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by greekchic17

Maggixi, you were right. I am from the northeast. I'm from Maryland, and no one in my family is greek, so I honestly had no idea what to expect about recommendations, finding the perfect fit where you might least expect it, etc until after the fact. (Not to make an excuse though.)

<swerve>

I guess the answer is relative to where the person who asks this question lives, but is Maryland really considered the "Northeast"? Sorry, they're pretty far down the coast from where I am - we would refer to MD as "Mid-Atlantic".

</swerve>

If it helps, I'm right by the Mason - Dixon line. Compared to NC, it's Northeastern to some. But I've never been around southern recruitment before ever or been educated about it.

Also, I forgot to add, I lived in Pennsylvania for a few years because of my dad's job.

[Titchou]

Please, take my word for it. Maryland is not in the South.

[MaggieXi]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Please, take my word for it. Maryland is not in the South.

Elon is really more of a mid-atlantic school, more than a southern school because it draws from the northeast so much (after NC, the next largest state represented is MA) even though its in North Carolina and is full of southern charm and is just a great place. (ok, off my soap box about how wonderful Elon is!)

One thing more GreekChick: Go to the Philanthropy events in fall that each sorority and fraternity host! Its a great way to meet the sorority members, support your friends and support philanthropies. Good Luck!

[carnation]

Originally Posted by greekchic17

For starters, that's the first username that popped into my head when I was trying to register really fast since I didn't want to give any personal information away.

I don't buy it. You have reported several posts and we can see that your email starts with "sororitygirl".

[indygphib]

Originally Posted by carnation

I don't buy it. You have reported several posts and we can see that your email starts with "sororitygirl".

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Originally Posted by carnation

I don't buy it. You have reported several posts and we can see that your email starts with "sororitygirl".

Good grief. Whatever could this two faced creature believe is reportable in this thread? People not agreeing with her?

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by greekchic17

Thank you Maggixi and xylochick for all of your help! Also, to everyone else, I didn't mean to sound snotty by saying I had a unique circumstance, I just meant I had trouble navigating greekchat to find something similar to me. Sometimes it can just be hard to search! Lol!

And honestly, like I said before, I regret dropping out of recruitment, because I think joining one of those two sororities would have helped me a lot in adjusting to college life and being far away from home.

Maggixi, you were right. I am from the northeast. I'm from Maryland, and no one in my family is greek, so I honestly had no idea what to expect about recommendations, finding the perfect fit where you might least expect it, etc until after the fact. (Not to make an excuse though.)

I think though, in the long run, it was a good experience to have to learn from and become a stronger person and to move forward.

Sometimes I wish PNMs had more time to think about their choices before and after pref round instead of rushing into one that they might regret later on, as I did. But I'm not trying to make an excuse.

I'm going to think long and hard about it, and see what informal recruitment brings in the fall, and go from there.

And as I said before, I have wonderful friends in ALL of the groups, that were made long BEFORE recruitment ever started. They're true friends, and always will be, and they're not solely defined as a person and human being for which letters they might wear. That's not why I'm friends with them.

Again, I wish you good luck.

[shirley1929]

But did anyone catch this? (after first post)

Last edited by greekchic17; Today at 04:05 PM. Reason: want to delete this post. people are abusing it and saying nasty things and are being harrassive.

Rejectment.