How would you handling seeing people who don't like you while rushing

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

At the risk of being Debby Downer I need to say:

No, she is not right. If she is an alumna then all she can do is write you a recommendation and talk to actives. It is the ACTIVES alone who will decide on whether or not you are invited to parties or given a bid.

On the upside - unless you were actively involved in a negative relationship with members they will probably barely remember you. There's nothing you can do about the past - work on what you can do to present yourself in the best possible light now.

Okay thank you.

[KDCat]

Thank you! And i was told by someone who is in a sorority there that graduated that we do not need recommendations but she said she would talk to the main people that run recruitment there for me and said i had nothing to worry about as far as getting in. I hope she is right.

She should not have said this to you. She can't guarantee that for her GLO and she can't guarantee it for another GLO. I've seen women who were BFFs with a member of a group not get a bid because someone else didn't like them.

You can't do anything about what happened in high school. Smile and be as gracious as you can be to those members. Make a point of being nice to them.

Originally Posted by KDCat

She should not have said this to you. She can't guarantee that for her GLO and she can't guarantee it for another GLO. I've seen women who were BFFs with a member of a group not get a bid because someone else didn't like them.

You can't do anything about what happened in high school. Smile and be as gracious as you can be to those members. Make a point of being nice to them.

OK i will keep that in mind. Thanks

[Titchou]

Unusual for someone going thru "recrutiment" to use the term "soror" as that is usually used by groups who do "intake" not "recruitment." In other words, it's usually used by NPHC groups and not NPC ones.

In either case, the way you handle it is very simple - like a lady.

[Titchou]

No comments for me because I told you to act like a lady? Hmmmm

Originally Posted by Titchou

No comments for me because I told you to act like a lady? Hmmmm

Sorry I just read that! I was so preoccupied with the rude commenter. And thank you for your advice as well. In regards to the comment about knowing somebody in a sorority who does not go to the school anymore she seemed really confident she could help me out. Its not a school like Ole Miss where we need reccomendations. Its not a small school at all but its not a really large in demand school either.

[AlphaFrog]

It's unlikely that if you see those girls from highschool they'll be outright rude to you during rush. Even if they still harbor ill feelings for you, they'd be stupid to say anything snarky or catty in the presence of other PNMs.

[Titchou]

And if you go thru NPC recruitment, DO NOT use the term "soror" - you won't like the reaction you get. We are sisters. NPHC female members are sorors. Please do not insult them.

Originally Posted by Titchou

And if you go thru NPC recruitment, DO NOT use the term "soror" - you won't like the reaction you get. We are sisters. NPHC female members are sorors. Please do not insult them.

Thank you I wasn't plan to do so. I just wrote that on my username to shorten the word. Like I said I wasn't aware that it was an actual term. This is blowing way out of proportions and going off topic. However, thanks for heads up for future reference.

[justgo_withit]

Maybe my high school experience was different and therefore my perspective is totally jacked up, but someone would've had to do something extreme in high school for me to still be like "No, no, absolute no! Ugh I HATE her," as a junior in college. There are girls that I would be hesitant of if I saw their names on a list of PNMs, but I'd just let my sisters evaluate- if they were dumb and awful and annoying in high school, I'd think that either they'll have grown up and be fine or their awfulness will be apparent to the sisters rushing them.

Originally Posted by justgo_withit

Maybe my high school experience was different and therefore my perspective is totally jacked up, but someone would've had to do something extreme in high school for me to still be like "No, no, absolute no! Ugh I HATE her," as a junior in college. There are girls that I would be hesitant of if I saw their names on a list of PNMs, but I'd just let my sisters evaluate- if they were dumb and awful and annoying in high school, I'd think that either they'll have grown up and be fine or their awfulness will be apparent to the sisters rushing them.

Very true. Thank you for taking the time out to give me advice. I feel a bit more confident that if I am just myself I should be fine. People tell me I have a great personality and that I am friendly so hopefully I will find a sorority right for me and hopefully they will think I fit them nicely.

[thetalady]

A couple of questions because I think we are not clear on your situation... having so little information makes it hard to properly address all of these questions.

1. are you planning to rush an NPC organization? or some other type of GLO?

2. why are you just now rushing as a junior? This is definitely a question that will be asked in some form at rush events. You need to have a good response... and understand that it may make it tougher for you to get a bid.

Originally Posted by thetalady

A couple of questions because I think we are not clear on your situation... having so little information makes it hard to properly address all of these questions.

1. are you planning to rush an NPC organization? or some other type of GLO?

2. why are you just now rushing as a junior? This is definitely a question that will be asked in some form at rush events. You need to have a good response... and understand that it may make it tougher for you to get a bid.

Yes i do plan on rushing an NPC organization.And i know exactly what i am going to tell them as my reasoning for joining as a junior and at first it was a concern of mine, but i have talked to someone in a sorority there and they said i will be fine because it is not a competitive school and they take a lot of juniors and seniors. My situation was just being scared that i won't get a bid due to having past issues with members if I happened to see any there.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

they take a lot of juniors and seniors.

Someone is lying.

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Someone is lying.

She doesn't seem like the lying type, but i guess i will see. At this point there is no point in worrying about something I can't change.