Interesting Lunch Today....Why actives should read...

[KDMafia]

During recruitment last year I heard one sorority member at the school union complaining about her chapter's grade requirements that had recently been raised as well as other basic requirements of the sorority. She was also talking disparingly about the PNMs in general. She was wearing letters and was sitting at a table surrounded by women who could easily have been going through recruitment. We warn PNMs that they should clean up their facebook and watch themselves around others, I don't see anything wrong with discussing that it works the same way for the sorority women as well.

[im5am]

As one mother to another (with bright successful children in their own right) I totally agree with everything you said! I was accused of being a "PNM heli mom" this time last year as well, but for whatever its worth, take these comments lightly! Most GCer's are very supportive and give great advice as I think you did in the original post above! The best of luck to your daughter, this is such an exciting time for the both of you!

[FSUZeta]

i think the topic is right on, and oh so timely, with some recruitments having already been completed, others taking place right now and others commencing in the coming weeks.

If she had wanted to spread rumors-how can it be a rumor if you are an eye witness?-she would have named names.

[AXOrushadvisor]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

i think the topic is right on, and oh so timely, with some recruitments having already been completed, others taking place right now and others commencing in the coming weeks.

If she had wanted to spread rumors-how can it be a rumor if you are an eye witness?-she would have named names.

^^^yep this. In fact, I just sent a note to my board to remind the Chapter that they are not to talk about any aspect formal recruitment in public at all and that includes complaining.

[Barbie's_Rush]

If you don’t think scurrying to the internet to gossip about what you say you overheard some members of a chapter talking about is being overly involved with your dd, then there’s no hope for you. No matter what your fellow hovering fwapfwaps here have to say.

I sincerely hope your daughter does not become the second Texas PNM to have her recruitment torpedoed by her mother’s behavior here.

[Leslie Anne]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

If you don’t think scurrying to the internet to gossip about what you say you overheard some members of a chapter talking about is being overly involved with your dd, then there’s no hope for you. No matter what your fellow hovering fwapfwaps here have to say.

Oh, take a freaking chill pill. If she had named the sorority she encountered it would have been gossip. She didn't. I think it's pretty clear to everyone but you what her intent was. She's a concerned alumna reminding collegians to watch what they say in public.

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

I sincerely hope your daughter does not become the second Texas PNM to have her recruitment torpedoed by her mother’s behavior here.

If that's a threat, you really need to get a life.

[honeychile]

^^ Looking for a LIKE button!

[Eightisgreat]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

If you don’t think scurrying to the internet to gossip about what you say you overheard some members of a chapter talking about is being overly involved with your dd, then there’s no hope for you. No matter what your fellow hovering fwapfwaps here have to say.

I sincerely hope your daughter does not become the second Texas PNM to have her recruitment torpedoed by her mother’s behavior here.

Scurry---to move around in an agitated, confused, or fluttering manner. Let me clarify; when I logged onto Greek Chat this afternoon, I was not agitated, confused or fluttering......

Secondly, my daughter has NOTHING to do with this. I was not at lunch with her, I was not in downtown Austin for her, I was at lunch with my HUSBAND. My perspective came from the active/alum standpoint. If I did not have a daughter at UT this year, would you even have called this out? I have no idea where you went to school, what letters you wear or what your motives are. I can only control my own behavior and I know my motives were honest and clean, and my post was intended to serve as a reminder to everyone involved in recruitment to honor their creeds, their sisterhood and to behave with integrity. If you feel this is..."fwapfwap" then so be it.

[pbear19]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

If you don’t think scurrying to the internet to gossip about what you say you overheard some members of a chapter talking about is being overly involved with your dd, then there’s no hope for you. No matter what your fellow hovering fwapfwaps here have to say.

I sincerely hope your daughter does not become the second Texas PNM to have her recruitment torpedoed by her mother’s behavior here.

I have no children, so kindly try not to make a blanket accusation about me being a heli-mom. I've read and lurked and sometimes posted on GC for a very long time, and I've seen my share of heli-parents. This is not one of those situations. This is not gossip mongering, or being overly involved in a daughter's recruitment. I think you need to take a step back here, because *your* comments are the most inappropriate thing about this thread.

OP, your post was timely and spot on, and a good reminder for all the sorority women who are actively participating in recruitment at the moment. Thank you for that.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

If you don’t think scurrying to the internet to gossip about what you say you overheard some members of a chapter talking about is being overly involved with your dd, then there’s no hope for you.

For the life of me, I can't begin to see how it has anything to do with her daughter. At all.

I was with you on a certain other Texas mom, but on this one, I really think you need to give a rest.

[southbymidwest]

Oh for heaven's sake. This is a cautionary tale that can be used for many aspects of life-don't whine in public about your sorority. Or job, boss, family, mother in law, friends... I guess I'll just have to get in the fwapfwap line.

[DrPhil]

Team Eightisgreat.

[Eightisgreat]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Team Eightisgreat.

Thanks DrPhil

[AZTheta]

Food for thought:

I think, for me, it would have been appropriate to have gently spoken to those young women and cautioned them about their conversation at the time it was happening. That was a teachable moment, if done with respect. And, if I were the advisor for that chapter, I'd be very grateful to another woman who, in Panhellenic spirit, watched out for my actives.

Two nights ago I was in a local restaurant, and I watched two NPC groups from the UofA eating dinner, laughing and talking and teasing each other. Bear in mind these two groups are "rivals" in recruitment, but you'd never know it from their behavior at that restaurant. I called both chapter's advisors and let them know how well their actives represented their chapters while wearing their letters in public.

If you're going to flame me, please save it for later. I've been battling dragons and minotaurs for weeks. My spear has gotten quite a workout. I'm simply offering a different perspective, based on years of supervision and interaction with college-aged people.

[ellebud]

AZ: You had the NERVE to compliment people on their behavior?

Eight: You are posting something that all of us should remember or learn about our behavior in public?

Fie!!! Fie on both your houses!!