Interesting Lunch Today....Why actives should read...

[Ladybugmom]

Originally Posted by Eightisgreat

Barbie I respect everyone's opinion here. I seriously don't consider my post from the helicopter viewpoint. I was speaking as a alum who was a bit dumbfounded that a chapter at a competitive recruitment (or any chapter for that matter) has not been properly advised to use a bit of their brains in public when they have to know the place is crawling with PNMs, actives, alums and chapter advisors.

Now a word on parenting. I will parent my child the way I see fit. So far I have sent 4 to college and their college experiences, although varied, have produced productive, independent adults. I have never been a parent of a girl experiencing sorority recruitment. I have been the PNM, the active and the alum. I know a little about a bunch of stuff and much about some stuff. I raise my children with manners, proper etiquette, and respect. Am I guilt of hovering. I sure have been. I am also guilty of pushing them off the edge with no parachute. Every situation is play by play. So as choices are made to slam parent relationships (Which this particular post has NOTHING to do with) remember you have no idea what the play by play of every situation is. So walk in my shoes and I will love to stand by as you pass judgement. Watch me walk....you have no voice.

Amen sister! Very well said!

[FSUZeta]

i think the topic is right on, and oh so timely, with some recruitments having already been completed, others taking place right now and others commencing in the coming weeks.

If she had wanted to spread rumors-how can it be a rumor if you are an eye witness?-she would have named names.

[AXOrushadvisor]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

i think the topic is right on, and oh so timely, with some recruitments having already been completed, others taking place right now and others commencing in the coming weeks.

If she had wanted to spread rumors-how can it be a rumor if you are an eye witness?-she would have named names.

^^^yep this. In fact, I just sent a note to my board to remind the Chapter that they are not to talk about any aspect formal recruitment in public at all and that includes complaining.

[Barbie's_Rush]

If you don’t think scurrying to the internet to gossip about what you say you overheard some members of a chapter talking about is being overly involved with your dd, then there’s no hope for you. No matter what your fellow hovering fwapfwaps here have to say.

I sincerely hope your daughter does not become the second Texas PNM to have her recruitment torpedoed by her mother’s behavior here.

[Leslie Anne]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

If you don’t think scurrying to the internet to gossip about what you say you overheard some members of a chapter talking about is being overly involved with your dd, then there’s no hope for you. No matter what your fellow hovering fwapfwaps here have to say.

Oh, take a freaking chill pill. If she had named the sorority she encountered it would have been gossip. She didn't. I think it's pretty clear to everyone but you what her intent was. She's a concerned alumna reminding collegians to watch what they say in public.

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

I sincerely hope your daughter does not become the second Texas PNM to have her recruitment torpedoed by her mother’s behavior here.

If that's a threat, you really need to get a life.

[honeychile]

^^ Looking for a LIKE button!

[southbymidwest]

Oh for heaven's sake. This is a cautionary tale that can be used for many aspects of life-don't whine in public about your sorority. Or job, boss, family, mother in law, friends... I guess I'll just have to get in the fwapfwap line.

[GTAlphaPhi]

Originally Posted by carnation

Texas APhi?

What?!? Why?!?

[Eightisgreat]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

If you don’t think scurrying to the internet to gossip about what you say you overheard some members of a chapter talking about is being overly involved with your dd, then there’s no hope for you. No matter what your fellow hovering fwapfwaps here have to say.

I sincerely hope your daughter does not become the second Texas PNM to have her recruitment torpedoed by her mother’s behavior here.

Scurry---to move around in an agitated, confused, or fluttering manner. Let me clarify; when I logged onto Greek Chat this afternoon, I was not agitated, confused or fluttering......

Secondly, my daughter has NOTHING to do with this. I was not at lunch with her, I was not in downtown Austin for her, I was at lunch with my HUSBAND. My perspective came from the active/alum standpoint. If I did not have a daughter at UT this year, would you even have called this out? I have no idea where you went to school, what letters you wear or what your motives are. I can only control my own behavior and I know my motives were honest and clean, and my post was intended to serve as a reminder to everyone involved in recruitment to honor their creeds, their sisterhood and to behave with integrity. If you feel this is..."fwapfwap" then so be it.

[DrPhil]

Team Eightisgreat.

[pbear19]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

If you don’t think scurrying to the internet to gossip about what you say you overheard some members of a chapter talking about is being overly involved with your dd, then there’s no hope for you. No matter what your fellow hovering fwapfwaps here have to say.

I sincerely hope your daughter does not become the second Texas PNM to have her recruitment torpedoed by her mother’s behavior here.

I have no children, so kindly try not to make a blanket accusation about me being a heli-mom. I've read and lurked and sometimes posted on GC for a very long time, and I've seen my share of heli-parents. This is not one of those situations. This is not gossip mongering, or being overly involved in a daughter's recruitment. I think you need to take a step back here, because *your* comments are the most inappropriate thing about this thread.

OP, your post was timely and spot on, and a good reminder for all the sorority women who are actively participating in recruitment at the moment. Thank you for that.

[Eightisgreat]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Team Eightisgreat.

Thanks DrPhil

[AZTheta]

Food for thought:

I think, for me, it would have been appropriate to have gently spoken to those young women and cautioned them about their conversation at the time it was happening. That was a teachable moment, if done with respect. And, if I were the advisor for that chapter, I'd be very grateful to another woman who, in Panhellenic spirit, watched out for my actives.

Two nights ago I was in a local restaurant, and I watched two NPC groups from the UofA eating dinner, laughing and talking and teasing each other. Bear in mind these two groups are "rivals" in recruitment, but you'd never know it from their behavior at that restaurant. I called both chapter's advisors and let them know how well their actives represented their chapters while wearing their letters in public.

If you're going to flame me, please save it for later. I've been battling dragons and minotaurs for weeks. My spear has gotten quite a workout. I'm simply offering a different perspective, based on years of supervision and interaction with college-aged people.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

If you don’t think scurrying to the internet to gossip about what you say you overheard some members of a chapter talking about is being overly involved with your dd, then there’s no hope for you.

For the life of me, I can't begin to see how it has anything to do with her daughter. At all.

I was with you on a certain other Texas mom, but on this one, I really think you need to give a rest.

[ellebud]

AZ: You had the NERVE to compliment people on their behavior?

Eight: You are posting something that all of us should remember or learn about our behavior in public?

Fie!!! Fie on both your houses!!