I NEED ADVICE!! PLEASE!!! - Page 2

BemoreLXA · #16 01-19-2011, 12:37 PM

I can only give quality advice about formal recruitment at my school. Here there are 4 chapters and 2 rounds of cuts and quota is 25

Alumiyum · #17 01-19-2011, 12:38 PM

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Originally Posted by BemoreLXA

Please read what I write fully. I'm not talking about the ins and outs of recruitment. I'm just saying that if I was cut from my top choice, I would drop out of formal recruitment. I'd rather not be Greek than be in a lower chapter.

The chapter I want or GDI. If I can't be there, I'll drop out of recruitment. There's nothing wrong with that

Your choices are your own, but advocating it for PNMs in NPC recruitment, especially when it's something you know nothing about, is bad form.

Not to mention "top chapter" is relative. And "top chapter"(s) don't stay that way forever.

BemoreLXA · #18 01-19-2011, 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Your choices are your own, but advocating it for PNMs in NPC recruitment, especially when it's something you know nothing about, is bad form.

Not to mention "top chapter" is relative. And "top chapter"(s) don't stay that way forever.

I understand that that is was a faux pas and I regret bridging the topic. I started by saying that I can understand someone only wanting to join the top chapter at a specific school.

agzg · #19 01-19-2011, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by BemoreLXA

I can only give quality advice about formal fraternityrecruitment at my fake school. Here there are 4 chapters and 2 rounds of cuts and quota is 25

FYP because you're obviously trollin' pretty hard.

BemoreLXA · #20 01-19-2011, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by agzg

FYP because you're obviously trollin' pretty hard.

LOL ok

AZTheta · #21 01-19-2011, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by vicplemm

its not that i didnt consider every chapter. that was poor word choice. i considered every chapter when i got there, but after spending 3 nights with every chapter it was clear to me that two of them were a good fit for me. i felt uncomfortable in the other chapters and the conversations were awkward. i got along instantly in two of the other chapters. and i left on pref night. and my HS GPA was 3.3. And no offense, but you are a bit judgmental for someone calling me a snob. Take your own advice and give everyone a chance.

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Originally Posted by vicplemm

im willing to go to any sorority right now i just dont want to get stuck just because i want to be greek. when i could wait til next year and have more options.

Ignoring the derailment by the troll and replying to the OP:

First consider that you are writing on an Internet Board where the majority of posters are already in GLOs. We have been through both sides of recruitment and we come from diverse collegiate experiences. Think before you hit send. I agree with ree - you came across as a snob and no amount of back-pedaling can change the fact that for most people "perception is reality." The Internet doesn't give second chances.

Second, you are contradicting yourself. What exactly do you mean? Your responses strike me as equivocating.

SMTTT · #22 01-19-2011, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by MysticCat

I think 408/Phi_Delta is back with more wisdom.

My thoughts exactly.

BemoreLXA · #23 01-19-2011, 01:19 PM

:/ not sure what that means but whatever

33girl · #24 01-19-2011, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by BemoreLXA

I can understand not being open to all chapters at a school, I only wanted to join the best chapter at my school and if I didn't I knew I didn't want to go Greek. I think that's part of the problem a lot of people have, if they don't get a bid from the top chapter they aren't willing to not go Greek at all

You have a penis. Stay in your lane. The end.

AnotherKD · #25 01-19-2011, 02:03 PM

I love how there are always OPs that come online, beg for help and advice, and then when they don't get the response that they want, they say that GC is full of judgemental and rude people.

OP, these ladies and gentlemen (Ok, 99% of these ladies and gentlemen) know what they're talking about. You're not the first one to have issues like these. They won't blow sunshine up your hoo-ha, but they will be honest with you. So why don't you step back, take a deep breath, and try again. Maybe if you explain your situation a bit better and don't get snippy, these lovely ladies can help you better.

33girl · #26 01-19-2011, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by violetpretty

I think you go to Fictional U.

No, I know what university this is. It's real.

To the OP: as far as joining a sorority right now, no group wants a member who rejected them before, and now wants to be a part of them just to be Greek. Think about how you would feel if a guy asked out every girl in school to the prom, they all said no, he went to another school and asked all those girls, they said no, then asked his cousin and she was busy...THEN he asked you. That's basically what you're doing if you take a bid now.

Take a semester and get to know women in ALL the sororities outside of rush and go through formal rush again next fall. You are really not a good candidate for membership right now.

xomanadaxo · #27 01-19-2011, 02:09 PM

For once, I actually knew what university this was, too. OP, stop posting personal info on the internet. It's not hard to figure out who you are from this info.

Drolefille · #28 01-19-2011, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by MysticCat

I think 408/Phi_Delta is back with more wisdom.

Just want to say I called it a while ago. Can't wait for the 'lol just trollin' guyz'

ASTalumna06 · #29 01-19-2011, 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by BemoreLXA

Please read what I write fully. I'm not talking about the ins and outs of recruitment. I'm just saying that if I was cut from my top choice, I would drop out of formal recruitment. I'd rather not be Greek than be in a lower chapter.

If potential sorority members, especially at larger, competitive schools dropped out of recruitment if they didn't get their #1 choice, there would probably only be 1 or 2 chapters at these schools.. if that.

If you randomly polled 100 sorority women on this site, I'm willing to bet at least half of them didn't end up at their first choice (or in the chapter that for the majority of recruitment they thought was THE BEST EVER).

It's. not. the. same.

BemoreLXA · #30 01-19-2011, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

If potential sorority members, especially at larger, competitive schools dropped out of recruitment if they didn't get their #1 choice, there would probably only be 1 or 2 chapters at these schools.. if that.

If you randomly polled 100 sorority women on this site, I'm willing to bet at least half of them didn't end up at their first choice (or in the chapter that for the majority of recruitment they thought was THE BEST EVER).

It's. not. the. same.

If a woman says she will be in "ABC sorority or nothing", I can understand that. That is a feeling that can transcend gender. So if a PNM drops out of recruitment when she is cut by ABC or XYZ, I don't feel ill will towards her. I understand.

You don't think there are women who would rather be independent than be affiliated with their second or third choice? Thats the point I'm trying to drive at. If the OP feels this way, more power to her