Sorority De-pledge/Re-rush?

[TXalum1]

Originally Posted by agzg

She can still go through recruitment, and as long as bid day is the same day the next year or later, she can recieve a bid.

I know, but I said "probably", and if the dates are earlier, that's another strike against her.

Plus, people will notice she's going through again, even at a big school.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by TXalum1

I know, but I said "probably", and if the dates are earlier, that's another strike against her.

Plus, people will notice she's going through again, even at a big school.

No. Formal recruitment to formal recruitment = 1 year.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by agzg

No. Formal recruitment to formal recruitment = 1 year.

this(^^^) is right.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

this(^^^) is right.

It's what I meant before. I got myself all caught up in the dates and the calendars and the whoozywhatsits.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by TXalum1

I know, but I said "probably", and if the dates are earlier, that's another strike against her.

Plus, people will notice she's going through again, even at a big school.

I think that's a "spirit vs. letter of the law" thing. When a PNM signs her pref card, she does so knowing that if she matches and doesn't like the chapter she matches to, she can't just drop out and COB at a chapter she likes better - she has to wait a year. If bid day 2011 is 364 days later than bid day 2010, she's pretty much waited a full year.

[soonersweetie]

i didn't mean to come off so badly. i really apologize if i did. i was just wondering if anyone had advice. i love my chapter, i just don't know if it's the right fit for me personally. it's still a spectacular group of people.

[als463]

Originally Posted by soonersweetie

i didn't mean to come off so badly. i really apologize if i did. i was just wondering if anyone had advice. i love my chapter, i just don't know if it's the right fit for me personally. it's still a spectacular group of people.

Well, you DID come off badly. It looks like you are bashing a group of women who were willing to take a chance on you. You want to go through rush, again? Make an effort to change the chapter around instead of assuming you will get in somewhere else. With such a poor attitude, please do these ladies a favor and just drop.

*What's up with all these new members being so self-absorbed as if their GLOs even owe them anything? Isn't it, you get what you put in?

[TXalum1]

Even without the 1 year business, the deck is stacked against somebody who does this. If you love your chapter but depledge a week before initiation, doesn't that make you a poor risk as a pnm?

I'm not sure this would be acceptable at a competitive school like OU, rule or no rule.

[VandalSquirrel]

Only the pledge class was mentioned but this is a larger school, so it isn't like your chapter total is 30 and you don't get along with everyone, so reach out to the other sisters. So what they like to party, you can find other people to hang out with, there will be new members next year, and two years after that you will be an alumna and have all kinds of sisters from other chapters.

Or you could not initiate and go through rush again, but if your choices were limited the first time probability is you will have the same, if not less choices the second time. If you think you're so right for a sorority and need to be in one, dropping now and trying again is probably not going to make that reality happen. Your ship is sailing, and there may not be another one at the dock.

[FleurGirl]

Honestly, I get annoyed when girls complain that they're not best friends with their PC by initiation. There's no way you can be best friends in 6 weeks. Ultimately, YOU have to put in the time and effort to get close to the girls. Some of my closest sisters in my PC were ones that I barely talked to before initation.

[KSUViolet06]

Also, people tend to always think that your BFFs in the chapter are going to be girls you pledged with.

That's not the case for everyone. I really liked the girls I was initiated with, but my closest friends in the chapter ended up being outside of that group.

Ex: One of my closest friends in the chapter was my roomie who joined like 2 classes before me. My Little Sis is also my best friend and she was in the last fall class before I graduated.

[TXalum1]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Also, people tend to always think that your BFFs in the chapter are going to be girls you pledged with.

That's not the case for everyone. I really liked the girls I was initiated with, but my closest friends in the chapter ended up being outside of that group.

Ex: One of my closest friends in the chapter was my roomie who joined like 2 classes before me. My Little Sis is also my best friend and she was in the last fall class before I graduated.

That is soooo true. My closest friends were not in my pledge class.

It's a big chapter, and it takes time to know everybody. My best friend in the sorority was somebody I really didn't know until after initiation. I would have missed so much if I hadn't given things a chance!

[33girl]

Did anyone else keep hearing Janet Jackson saying "edit" as they read this thread?

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Did anyone else keep hearing Janet Jackson saying "edit" as they read this thread?

Yes! I thought I was the only one who thought that!

An "edit" doesnt do much good if others have quoted the OP before the "edit" took place... I'm just sayin

[DubaiSis]

I think there is just way too much movies/tv going on in the fantasy lives of PNMs and new members. There are also no naked pillow fights for the guys out there who think that's what sorority life is. When all of us talk about lifelong friendships and how special our individual chapter and GLO is I can say without hesitation that almost every one of us regretted joining at one point or another. Your pledge class is a fraction of your chapter, and only fake girls make BFFs in a minute and a half. Your first semester of college is a whirlwind of confusion. Unless there is something seriously wrong with this chapter, just stick it out. It will become what you want over the next 4 years and into the rest of your life. And there will be the candle-passings (or kitty passings - whatever your chapter's deal is) where you are emotional and really feel like you're a sorority girl, but most of the time it's just your life.

Try to put on a reality hat and see what is REALLY missing from your experience. And then if you really do feel there's something missing or wrong, then sure, drop out, but assume you won't get another shot.