Sister Wives

[thetygerlily]

I haven't seen it yet but I've been meaning to. The husband and I recently started watching Big Love (on HBO)- I think its 5th season starts in a few months. Similar idea, but fiction and HBO'd.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by thetygerlily

I haven't seen it yet but I've been meaning to. The husband and I recently started watching Big Love (on Showtime)- I think its 5th season starts in a few months. Similar idea, but fiction and Showtimed.

Work's been boring so I've been reading up, looks like HBO used this family in a "Real Life Polygamy" documentary that they produced along with Big Love. This family has quite a few similarities and I wouldn't be shocked if they weren't used as consultant/models/fodder for Big Love in some ways.

[thetygerlily]

Oh, you're right- it is HBO not Showtime. One of those paid channels!

Now I'm really curious to watch and see the similarities.

[VandalSquirrel]

I watched it, and these people are exactly the type of plural marriage people who I have no issue with. I am not a fan of teenage marriages and secret living, but grown people making decisions and allowing their kids to make their own choices is fine by me. I think the first wife was the youngest when she married (19 or so) and the others were in their early twenties. Not saying they aren't a product of their environment and sought out a plural marriage, but at least they aren't bilking the welfare system and the women go outside the home for school and work.

I really liked the one sister wife (I think the one who is pregnant and stays home) telling the girls they need to go to college/get an education before they get married. This is so different from the compound type FLDS people who close off the outside world and don't promote education at all. I also think their next house should have one room for Kody so he can keep all his clothes in one location and if he is sick not spread it around. I think his car is actually a four seater, with a not kid seat friendly back seat.

There is a colony not far from here, and I'm not talking about the one in British Columbia, but in North Idaho. I've seen them in Costco and I wasn't shocked because they were straight off the set of Big Love in hair and dress, but that it was on a Sunday and the woman was by herself with one infant. I guess they don't travel in packs here like the Mennonite and Hutterite people do.

[KSUViolet06]

So, Wife #1 gets IN-VITRO for her anniversary. How romantic.

I was even more weirded out by him being so pushy about it and saying "I don't think she means no yet."

Wife appears to be the code word for incubator.

[DiamondAthena]

Damn, my dvr recorded the wrong epsiode. Are they on line anywhere?

[ASUADPi]

Whatever floats your boat is all I have to say.

[DrPhil]

Beautiful cake. Looked tasty.

He's a handsome man. I liked the photos of their first weddings. He looked really handsome and clean cut when he was younger. I don't like the long hair thing.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

I watched it, and these people are exactly the type of plural marriage people who I have no issue with. I am not a fan of teenage marriages and secret living, but grown people making decisions and allowing their kids to make their own choices is fine by me. I think the first wife was the youngest when she married (19 or so) and the others were in their early twenties. Not saying they aren't a product of their environment and sought out a plural marriage, but at least they aren't bilking the welfare system and the women go outside the home for school and work.

I really liked the one sister wife (I think the one who is pregnant and stays home) telling the girls they need to go to college/get an education before they get married. This is so different from the compound type FLDS people who close off the outside world and don't promote education at all. I also think their next house should have one room for Kody so he can keep all his clothes in one location and if he is sick not spread it around. I think his car is actually a four seater, with a not kid seat friendly back seat.

There is a colony not far from here, and I'm not talking about the one in British Columbia, but in North Idaho. I've seen them in Costco and I wasn't shocked because they were straight off the set of Big Love in hair and dress, but that it was on a Sunday and the woman was by herself with one infant. I guess they don't travel in packs here like the Mennonite and Hutterite people do.

I agree. While polygomy isn't something that's common to most Americans, it's all these women know, and they seem to be doing well with it. I'm not sure how any four women are going to get all excited over Kody, but I could say that about many guys of many, many religions.

I was happy to hear that he was okay with his daughter wanting to go to the Naval Academy - which may be a bigger dream than she realizes, but more power to her.

I didn't get the incubator bit with this group that I get with a lot of the other FLDS. In a setting such as this, the competition could get intense. I do feel that Wife #1 needed better words to describe her feelings about her own needs, though.

[DrPhil]

I'm watching the new episode.

We don't have inside knowledge on their lives. Just based on what I see on the show, I see times where it seems like they don't have a consensus on how their lives should be lived. One of the wives wants to go back to work outside of the family work suggestion.

So, of course, they have the same problems that other unions and marriages have. People agree to things and pretend that they are completely in agreement even when their minds are telling them something different. People agree to things and change their minds either immediately or years later.

[agzg]

I like this episode a lot. It's the least douchey Kodi's come off in a while.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by agzg

I like this episode a lot. It's the least douchey Kodi's come off in a while.

LOL. They may have edited the douch out to show that he's too busy to be douchy.

The episode is titled "The 4 Lives of Kody Brown" and described as: "Kody is followed for four days as he moves each day to the house of a different wife...."

[AngiRd]

I love this show i find it super interesting and like others have said they were all adults when they entered into this life style so i think we .. i mean the collective we should not persecute or prosecute them for it

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by AngiRd

I love this show i find it super interesting and like others have said they were all adults when they entered into this life style so i think we .. i mean the collective we should not persecute or prosecute them for it

With as many different backgrounds, upbringing, religious affiliations (or none), political leanings, life experiences, I would say that on this board, there really isn't a "collective we."

Discussing a lifestyle and their personal decisions that, as it appears on television...

- is causing a lot of family disharmony
- keeps mom and kids from seeing the husband/father (he stays at each home once every four nights) on a regular basis
- is contributing to depression in one of the teenagers
- uprooted their entire family - in a matter of 8 days - under the auspices that they were "running from the law," when their moving will have no effect on the reach of the charges filed against them
- is causing many of the older children internal strife; most don't want to follow in the parents' faith; several are "getting out" as soon as possible

... is NOT persecution.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

- is causing a lot of family disharmony
- keeps mom and kids from seeing the husband/father (he stays at each home once every four nights) on a regular basis
- is contributing to depression in one of the teenagers
- uprooted their entire family - in a matter of 8 days - under the auspices that they were "running from the law," when their moving will have no effect on the reach of the charges filed against them
- is causing many of the older children internal strife; most don't want to follow in the parents' faith; several are "getting out" as soon as possible

Yeah the surface-level freedom of choice does not override what is going on. Families are complex, stressful, and easily imbalanced. That complexity can be increased with "these types of families."

I appreciate consenting adults' rights to choose their own partnerships and families. At the same time, freedom of choice could theoretically support a lot of decisions that are considered illegal; and many would consider immoral or bad ideas based on weighing the costs and benefits.