Complicated Transfer Question - Page 2

Titchou · #1 06-23-2010, 09:49 PM

Hmmmm....yes, I got it...chose to ignore it....

sigmadiva · #2 06-24-2010, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Titchou

Hmmmm....yes, I got it...chose to ignore it....

knight_shadow · #3 06-24-2010, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by sigmadiva

My thoughts exactly.

ASUADPi · #4 06-24-2010, 08:44 AM

I joined my chapter of initiation and stayed for only one semester at the school because I couldn't afford it.

I didn't transfer to a university (with my chapter) until 3 semesters later. I didn't affiliate (not by choice) I wanted too. It upset me in the beginning but I now realize that I wouldn't have wanted to be a member of the chapter anyways (I won't give details because it paints the chapter in a really negative light). I know now that not affiliating worked out for the best!

Was I disappointed, heck yeah. I refused to even associate myself with ADPi for like 6 months. I was hurt and angry. I had to go alum, but didn't do anything until after I graduated. Once I graduated I began getting involved.

Not having a collegiate experience is not the end of the world. Do I miss that I didn't get one, heck yeah. When my sisters talk about formal recruitment, I can't relate. When they talk about being officers, I can't relate. But in the end it doesn't matter, they are my sisters and they are supportive and really that is what matters.

ree-Xi · #5 06-24-2010, 09:33 AM

The only experience "required" to be an active alumna and/or go go to alumnae meetings is that you are an initiated member.

What "experiences" are you worried that you missed, that would affect your participation in an alumnae chapter?

I know that it sucks to be sick and miss things - I've missed a lot from being sick - but it's all what you make of it moving forward.

ETA: none of what "happened to you" changes the fact that once you are initiated into an NPC, you can never be initiated into another. So what is the real issue - not having "experience" enough to join an alumnae chapter, or that you'll miss the collegiate experience and want to rush again?

MysticCat · #6 06-24-2010, 10:18 AM

Once again, I miss how many schools used to have organizations for "orphan Greeks."

tld221 · #7 06-24-2010, 10:36 AM

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ETA: none of what "happened to you" changes the fact that once you are initiated into an NPC, you can never be initiated into another. So what is the real issue - not having "experience" enough to join an alumnae chapter, or that you'll miss the collegiate experience and want to rush again?

:lightbulb: i truly think ithe OP is looking for sympathy in the form of "oh darn, you missed out on the UG Greek experience - you should deactivate and rush all over again at your new school." Which, in more ways than one, weve already said can't happen.

Comparing apples to oranges here, but i became a member my senior year. Do i wish i had more of an undergraduate experience? sure! but i value my alumnae membership too and make the most of it. besides, after a year or two after you graduate, chances are you won't give a hoot about what color this year's rush shirts are, or who's going to XYZ's crush party with whom (i'm going on what i read on GC; i've never done these things).

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Once again, I miss how many schools used to have organizations for "orphan Greeks."

It's such a neat idea. Really.

DrPhil · #8 06-24-2010, 10:42 AM

I don't think the OP's issue is orphanage and not wanting early alum status. I think she doesn't want to be in THAT sorority anymore and was looking for an out.

Maybe she'll come around and look back at this one day and laugh, but I must say what I say for anyone who wants to drop out at some level: Don't be a waste of a bid/pledgeship/initiation/ritual/etc.

Barbie's_Rush · #9 06-24-2010, 11:33 AM

What's "complicated" about your transfer?

1. You went through recruitment
2. You accepted a bid
3. You completed a new member period
4. You were initiated
5. You are transferring to a school without your sorority.
6. You are now an alumna member of the sorority you joined for life.
7. The end.

AOII Angel · #10 06-24-2010, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

I don't think the OP's issue is orphanage and not wanting early alum status. I think she doesn't want to be in THAT sorority anymore and was looking for an out.

Maybe she'll come around and look back at this one day and laugh, but I must say what I say for anyone who wants to drop out at some level: Don't be a waste of a bid/pledgeship/initiation/ritual/etc.

This.

ThetaPrincess24 · #11 06-24-2010, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

I don't think the OP's issue is orphanage and not wanting early alum status. I think she doesn't want to be in THAT sorority anymore and was looking for an out.

This was my first thought when I read this thread!!