Sandra Bullock Adopts & Confirms Divorce

[ForeverRoses]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I question why she kept it under wraps all this time and is only releasing the news now, concurrent with confirming her intention to divorce. I mean - why taint the happy event with a sad one? She had to know that she was going to be asked about the divorce now, clear that up first and then share the baby news a few months down the road.

I'm not a legal expert, but aren't most divorce filings open? So maybe announcing the adoption was so that when it is mentioned in the divorce filing it won't be big news.

As for timing- didn't Angelina Jolie adopt her first son about the same time that she divorced Billy Bob? And Meg Ryan adopted her daughter soon after divorcing Dennis Quaid?

and I just realized I read too much People magazine in the check out line

[Animate]

I'm just glad the baby is American.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Animate

I'm just glad the baby is American.

That is refreshing.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

don't take this the wrong way, but why do we care anymore?

I'm sayin'! I know her life is all interesting but it should never have been for the public viewing anyway...come on, move along people....

Originally Posted by 33girl

I mean - why taint the happy event with a sad one?

I hardly call leaving an a-hole like that a "sad" event!

I also feel some kinda way about her adopting a black baby but hey...maybe he'll grow up to protect her blind side.

[DSTRen13]

Obviously, I don't personally know Sandra Bullock, but as someone who has looked into adoption (and just keeps debating all the ethics back and forth ad nauseum), I wouldn't automatically assume that she just chose a black baby just to choose a black baby. Statistically, the majority of people looking to adopt in America are white and the majority of children available for adoption are not. Generally, it is a longer wait for a white baby (it is also usually more expensive and the criteria for adoptive parents tend to be stricter, but I doubt that these are ever considerations if you are a rich celebrity ...).

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by DSTRen13

Obviously, I don't personally know Sandra Bullock, but as someone who has looked into adoption (and just keeps debating all the ethics back and forth ad nauseum), I wouldn't automatically assume that she just chose a black baby just to choose a black baby. Statistically, the majority of people looking to adopt in America are white and the majority of children available for adoption are not. Generally, it is a longer wait for a white baby (it is also usually more expensive and the criteria for adoptive parents tend to be stricter, but I doubt that these are ever considerations if you are a rich celebrity ...).

These celebs could get white babies if they wanted to. I seriously doubt that the other white families have adopted most of the white babies across the country. If "race didn't matter and we just wanted a baby," then.....

Getting a Black baby from New Orleans (Black + Hurrican Katrina = WIN) is still no coincidence.

Just like Madonna and Angelina Jolie didn't just stumble upon Black babies and other nonwhite babies from overseas. The race and ethnicity mattered for some reason, such as attempting to help babies of different races or having a more diverse family. So, there's no reason to pretend the race and ethnicity are invisible physical, social and cultural traits that were unnoticed and didn't matter then or now.

[PM_Mama00]

Originally Posted by BabyPiNK_FL

Hmm...I didn't even think about that. I don't get his Neo Nazi crap. If he is then she had to have known. If it's in his past (like I hope it is) maybe she wasn't exposed to it, but I just can't help but feel like how could she not know?

Anyways, I think the baby is GORGEOUS and I am happy for both him and his mommy. What an awesome and beautiful and motivation thing to come out of such a horrible situation. I still commented to a friend that I hope she's able to teach him proper police etiquette.

I don't know many details on the adoption, just that I heard on Inside Edition (?) that she adopted the baby because of her involvement with Katrina and she didn't just get him recently. They talked about how getting around with the baby was almost like a CIA operation because they wanted to keep it a secret for as long as possible.

And there are MANY circumstances where one spouse hides a certain part of their life from the other. That's how a lot of spouses get away with having two separate lives. You never really truly know someone.

[DSTRen13]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Getting a Black baby from New Orleans (Black + Hurrican Katrina = WIN) is still no coincidence.

Agreed.

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Just like Madonna and Angelina Jolie didn't just stumble upon Black babies and other nonwhite babies from overseas. The race and ethnicity mattered for some reason, such as attempting to help babies of different races or having a more diverse family. So, there's no reason to pretend the race and ethnicity are invisible physical, social and cultural traits that were unnoticed and didn't matter then or now.

True enough - I would hope that no one ever thinks that the race and ethnicity of their child (adopted or not) are invisible and don't matter.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

These celebs could get white babies if they wanted to. I seriously doubt that the other white families have adopted most of the white babies across the country. If "race didn't matter and we just wanted a baby," then.....

Pretty much.

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

I'm not a legal expert, but aren't most divorce filings open? So maybe announcing the adoption was so that when it is mentioned in the divorce filing it won't be big news.

I don't know anything about California law, but in general, these would be two separate cases. If she's adopting the kid, adoptions are usually not available to the public. There might be language in the Decree which says that whateverherhusbandsname isn't the father or adoptive father of the child and therefore has no parental rights or somesuch, but it likely won't be an issue in the divorce which will probably settle through mediation or arbitration.

Also, in some cases, divorce cases can be sealed. At least in Oklahoma.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by DSTRen13

True enough - I would hope that no one ever thinks that the race and ethnicity of their child (adopted or not) are invisible and don't matter.

A lot of people pretend that. Welcome to "we're all in the same gang."

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

A lot of people pretend that. Welcome to "we're all in the same gang."

Wasn't that a rap song? I remember some high-pitched voice saying "we're all in the same gang."

I will say, though, that the little baby has a funny smirk on his face. I love it when babies look like they know what's up.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Wasn't that a rap song? I remember some high-pitched voice saying "we're all in the same gang."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFmiKodg1tc

I still love this song.

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I will say, though, that the little baby has a funny smirk on his face. I love it when babies look like they know what's up.

LOL

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Getting a Black baby from New Orleans (Black + Hurrican Katrina = WIN) is still no coincidence.

Is the Hurricane Katrina reference thrown in there just because that's what people think of now when they think of New Orleans? Because the baby in question clearly isn't a Katrina baby (by about 4 years).

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Is the Hurricane Katrina reference thrown in there just because that's what people think of now when they think of New Orleans? Because the baby in question clearly isn't a Katrina baby (by about 4 years).

Sandra Bullock has been active and outspoken about Hurrican Katrina. And also this (if it's accurate) is no coincidence: http://www.sevensidedcube.net/entert...n-new-orleans/

As for "Katrina baby" (I hate that stupid term), Hurricane Katrina was 2005. The adoption process began about 4 years ago. The baby is a few months old. That could mean a number of things as it pertains to this baby's parents of birth, Hurricane Katrina, and why the baby was ultimately up for adoption.